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Healing and Balancing Ritual for Fall Equinox.

Happy Fall Equinox and Full moon. It’s a dandy isn’t it??

The energies are shifting after a busy, active, action based summer and our feminine souls are craving soul food, we are ravenous for soul nourishment. I personally am at a place of starvation in the soul department… hungry for a shift into softness, gentleness and ease.

Our feminine natures are howling at us to return to the darkness and caves of our inner selves. Our Wild feminine souls are waiting for us at the inner fire of sacred stillness, silence and retreat. Magic dust is in the fire waiting for us to simply sit and inhale the wonder and depths of the inner soils of oneself.

I have been so busy and active that I have lost my balance. I feel stressed, anxious and overwhelmed. And yet The Equinox calls for balance between light and dark… day and night, the physical and the spiritual.

I need more soul time, more stillness, more space for deep inner reflection and soulful contemplation.

The reality is I need to create space and sacred moments in my day for this to occur. Even if it’s ten minutes or two, the point is nourishment.

It is a time of making an offering to our souls by doing what nurtures the Inner Self. This is a Sacred Act, a Sacred offering to the Divine within ourselves.

So on this lovely Equinox begin the soul offering with some sacred time and space. Light some candles and listen to a mediation, journal, contemplate, converse with your soul and at the sacred fire within. Begin to nurture the inner self with some sort of ritual that is nurturing to thy self. Perhaps it’s a bath or a cool brisk walk in the fall foliage.

Take some deep breaths and find yourself at a fire in a dark cave with your feminine wild soul right beside you. Notice what she looks like and how hungry she appears. Offer her some food and sustenance. Giver her some water, wrap her in a blanket and tend to that inner self. Simply offer your presence and see if you can gently shape shift into her, become that inner self. Feel the aliveness and energy. Ask yourself what you need for nourishment and aliveness? Perhaps you will notice that you are doing an action or an image appears in the fire or perhaps there is simply an inner knowing. When you feel ready shift back in that outer consciousness beside your soul. Lay down a red blanket and some rocks at the fire where you sat as a sacred offering. Let your soul know you shall return with an embrace. Before you go you give her a gift, an offering, what do you notice it is. Feel how full it makes her feel. Say your goodbyes and leave the cave back into the present time.

Journal your findings if you wish. Feel the feeling of fullness spread and expand in your body, all the way into you fingertips and heart.

Have a cup of tea, light some candles and enjoy the rest of this sacred night .

Aho! And so it is 🙂

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Blessings and warmth friends.

Happy Equinox

😘

Crystal

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Another Simple Dark Moon Ritual

Tonight marks the Dark Moon, well the last of it anyways as we start a New Moon cycle in a couple of days.  This past month has been an emotional one, at times heavy and dark, and other times inspired and refreshing. It felt like we were navigating through dark tunnels trusting that at the end there would be light. However at times we’d grow tired of the dark or worry we wouldn’t find the end where the light was shining. And yet here we are arriving at the light, the end of the tunnel within steps.

This month I did a lot of cleaning, pondering, changing of the guard in my internal process. I had to teeter totter on lots of unknowns and usually I’d panic and assume or expect the worst. But this time, this month I changed my ways and told myself to expect the best, to envision everything working out. I felt calmer and more steady in the process and that has been a huge gift in and of itself. I followed my body’s lead and boundaries knowing it could mean everything I was building could collapse. It meant risking the outside creations that were coming my way and usually I’d just form into what was expected. But I can’t do that anymore and so I simply went inward and got to know my limits and set the boundaries to honour them and to trust this was the Divine way and path. I am risking a job doing this but it is my wellness on the line and it is me voicing what I can and can’t do for the first time ever. Id usually exist past my limits in my old life and keep going until collapse or illness. My struggle with my health and blood is really about me voicing and honouring my body and my limits and living in accordance with them, that is what I have learned. The superwoman cape is laid to rest. The real authentic version is on display.

This month too I cleaned out cabinets, files, and just crap that I had to let go. I rearranged furniture and smudged the bejesus out of my house, calling in new energy and clearing out the old mucky waters of fear or doubt.

So as we prepare for a new moon cycle let us lay to rest the old ways, the old patterns, the old negativity, the doubt, the fear, the doom… even the stuckness! Say goodbye.

DARK MOON SIMPLE RITUAL

So tonight we honor the old, we lay it to rest.  We take some moments alone, in silence, in retreat, in reflection and we hold the past, the loss, the end of era in our hands.  Maybe it’s an ending of a relationship or job, doubt, dead, uncertainty or whatever, we simply lay it to rest.  If you can grab a stone and write on it that which you wish to bury, to honor it’s death and ending.  Bury the stone into the Earth Mother under the dark moon sky and say your last and final good-byes.

Maybe you want to write a good-bye letter or simply say some words in your mind or out loud.

This clearing, this ending is prepping us for the new life, new energy that lies ahead.

For me it’s my old life.  It’s never coming back and I can come to accept that so the new one I’ve been trying on can fully blossom.  I don’t have to reach backwards anymore, clinging onto something that I can’t find.

Let’s clear the waters for the New Moon tomorrow.

And so it is 🙂

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June full moon Energy & Soul Connecting Rituals.

This full moon the energy feels alive, electric, vibrational and active. It feels like a very masculine energy, a time when we are extremely busy… the pulse, the beat, the tempo is very fast paced and quick. There’s a lot of energy output going on as we work on manifestation, creating, doing and growing during this time and season.

And yet the words “feminine root” ( from the book Wild Feminine) is circling my busy aura, as though the energy is calling for my attention like a screaming bird in the sky.

I know I need to balance the busy masculine energy with tender, juicy, slower paced , alive, wild feminine connection. It’s tenderness and savouring of the radiant colours and experiences of summer life. My schedule feels so busy yet the need to pause and find stillness even for ten minutes feels necessary as though I need it to keep breathing.

This moon and Mars retrograde asks us to evaluate our schedules and energies. Are we balancing the feminine and masculine or at least honouring both aspects of our souls even though we may be lingering in the masculine elements at this energetic time. Are we still paying homage to the feminine ?

We need to root into our feminine natures when they are calling us home. It’s in this root that we are refuelled and filled with life force energy. It’s where our aliveness is tasted and swallowed so our connection to our own feminine wild soul is felt and experienced. It’s a place of conversing with Spirit, our guides, our ancestors and even the moon and stars so the magic and purpose of life is restored and refocused. It’s a slight, calm magical pulse of aliveness. A beautiful calm and alive contradiction.

So on this full moon the Grandmothers ask us to harness our energies that are grand and wide like a roaring fire and find the calm centre epicentre of the burning. Be the wood logs, be the air in the fire, or the blue in the flames and find the calm in the busy, dancing roar.

Read a book, journal, sit by a fire, do a feminine yoga like Yin or Restorative yoga and balance the energies. Take a Sacred pause. Stillness and contemplation are being called of us right now in brief moments amid the flaming busy energy of our lives.

Here are some journal questions for self reflection and connection during this lovely full moon. Sit by fire or light a candle. Brew some tea or summer juice and light an incense or two. Breath in the radiant full moon aliveness. Inhale the moon beams and let its magic and sparkle radiate in your cells.

1). What are you most happy and grateful for in your life right now.

2) put in a timer for five minutes and don’t lift your pen until the timer goes off. Just write what comes…. “I would love…”.

3) Imagine Grandmother Moon to become some sort of being… a person, animal, plant or element and invite her sit with you by the moon lit waters edge in your minds eye. Notice the gentle warm breeze and the burning fire. Lay a blanket for her and ask her a question, challenge or struggle you’d like guidance on. Give her an offering such as food or a gift like a necklace or bracelet. Perhaps it’s a stone. What does grandmother moon look like in form ? Just sit with this lovely energy and let her presence calm you. Let her answer you and give you guidance to your question. When you receive her words tell her thank you and ask if you can meet again. Imagine her returning to the moon on a moon beam when you are done and gently return to the present. Journal about your experiences.

Happy full moon friends xo Crystal

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June New Moon Energy and Ritual

Chaos to calm, getting centered, finding clarity through confusion, learning, process, messages from the struggle, finding one’s way to calm and peace through the storm.

These are words that come to mind right now. It feels like a volcanic time with lots of emotional eruptions and loss of self or loss of centering. It’s a time of chaos and overwhelm to make us root back down into our selves. It’s a time of cleansing and purification, a deep learning about oneself through challenges and struggles.

I feel held and weighed down by overwhelm and I’ve let it consume me. The amount of energy coming at me has enveloped me and I’ve lost my way, I’ve lost my centre, my calm, my rooted stance. So I step back and take up more space than the chaos. I create even more space between me and the chaos and stand calmly at the centre of the storm as it swirls around me like wretched grey storm clouds spiralling in the winds. I don’t get pulled in, I just witness and stay calm, trusting that I will not get pulled in as I stand firmly in my strength and power. (Or at least remind myself over and over to go to the centre and find the calm).

I have been a ball of anxiety lately and as I sat with my anxiety I let it it become a being or a symbol. I let it speak to me as though it were it’s own energetic being. It showed up as a punk angry teenager with slicked, greasy hair, ripped jeans and a leather jacket… and it/he let me have it. It told me how angry he was and how I need to call my power and strength back rather than let it leak all over the place and move into chaos and overwhelm. It asked for structure and organization, a map for my energy. As I let its’ needs spew onto the page the heaviness lessened. I imagined walking into the overwhelm as my strongest self and allowed myself to envision an image of my inner warrior Queen. I’m wearing red, flowing clothes (for grounding I imagine ) and have diamond jewelled bindis between and above my eye browns. I’m tall and fierce and wear a head wrap around my hair. My stance is linear and majestic. I imagine being this Self with my eyes closed and allow that energy to spread and expand into my body, feeling the energy of my inner warrior Queen ooze into my blood vessels and pump throughout my body. I savour the breaths of this energy.

I stand and breathe in this place and invite you to do the same. Invite your struggles to speak to you. Close your eyes and imagine your challenge were a being. What does it look like? Old or young? Male, female, animal or nature? What colours or unique qualities do you notice. Let it tell you what it is trying to say through your body… perhaps you just want to write for five minutes (timed) and free flow without letting your pen leave the page. Hear your struggle and assure it you will do your part to ease the symptoms .

Call in a feeling of harmony, love, peace, calm, strength or whatever you need and imagine it to be a golden ball of light spreading and expanding through your body. Savour the breaths and breathe it in.

“This current challenge or struggle is here to strengthen you. It is a process of strengthening and learning of heart, body and soul. You are preparing for your “real work ” . This is simply the preparation, so embrace the learning.” ( a message from my guides).

Happy New Moon 😘

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April Full Moon .. change is in the air !

Hello friends!

It has been a long while since I’ve written my words anywhere. I have not put pen to paper in a long time and I’ not fully sure why. To be honest, I’ve been uninspired, in a lull, in a lost, disconnected soulful way. My soul has needed resuscitation…an electric shock into life again.

I’m craving Spirit… it’s something that was at the very epicentre of my being and my everyday life. But life herself pulled me off course and into the land of the lost so I’d get so restless and stuck that I’d be willing forced to move, change and reevaluate everything. And I have.

I’ve been craving change in many parts of my life and I feel like this year has change as it’s main theme. Change is occurring at our roots, in our bones and at our foundation. This is huge! When you make change here you make change everywhere.

But mostly what I’m craving and needing and wanting ohhhh so bad again is connection…connection to myself , to others and to the Divine.

I knew drastic new roads were imperative to shake my life up and whip up the inspiration and break me free from the stuckness.

It’s scary to walk a new road… I feel uncertain of myself and wonder if I can do it. Doubt and fear set in, part of the growing pains but ones we must work beyond and through.

I’m so used to being defined by an illness but I don’t want that for myself . As I walk the new road I feel unsure of my footing… I wonder if I’ll be ok or if the illness will come in and turn my life upside down once again. But that illness and I have come to a truce … I don’t need it to come and take over my life for I can have a voice and express my needs and set my boundaries and really take responsibility for myself and shoulder only what I can, not what I think I should. It’s on me to take care of me… and that’s fucking scary in a way. I’m fully responsible for my health and well-being…period. I really need to speak up when I’m tired or can’t do something or simply don’t want to. No pushing or forcing myself only loving my body and heart for what it really needs.

So as I walk down this new path fear takes ahold of me and I go to the worse possible outcome … more illness.. more time in hospitals, failure, doubt, and uncertainty. I don’t want to go down this rabbit hole.

So, instead I’m taking a moment to stop and take some breaths and to trust this is part of the road of feeding my soul back into aliveness. What if this trail works out great .. in fact in the best possible way? What would be the outcome ? What could I expect instead with a mindset of confidence, trait and faith ?

I bet I’d feel alive again, increase my sense of confidence , feel like myself , connect with others , connect to myself.

What if this road ignites my aliveness so much that I find my soul bursting with colourful shawls and rainbow energy beams so much that I create the connections I crave a need and so deeply want.

What if I found spiritually in my everyday life again simply by feeling alive and not like I was dying. What is I created space and circles where other like minded women joined me to discover their own depths and aliveness. Yes! Yes! What if this all just works out like Divine poem unfolding each word at a time.

Spirit always shows up for me when I ask and trust and just like that I had message from Creation calming me and my nerves. I wasn’t even quite sure what it was but when you call Spirit .. . Creation comes a running. I happen to see an article with this particular bird. I hadn’t even heard of it but it is what the exact bird was visiting my property swooping down in the creek.

It was an Osprey… and osprey’s message for us is upon this Aries full moons and change in our lives.

I invite you to ride the waves of change and allow the discomfort or expansion pains to exist but keep fiercely moving forward.

“Osprey – The Beacon

Keywords:

The Beacon. King of Coasts and Cliffs. Water and Wind. Yin and Yang. The Sun. Solar Worship. Plundering Resources. Overcoming ‘Grass is Greener’ Syndrome. Respecting Others. Honing the Senses. Precise Timing. Streamlining. Environmental Awareness. Comfort Zones.

Lessons:

– The osprey is connected to all aspects of solar worship. And can come into one’s life to emphasise the value and healing properties of the sun, and to help those who practice mystically or spiritually to facilitate sun-god communion.

– An osprey doesn’t wait for the fish to jump out of the water to meet him, instead he splashes in headfirst into an element that he could not survive within. He even places his head under the water – unlike sea-eagles. He teaches us how to plunder our resources and the necessity to move outside of our comfort zones in order to do this. Osprey teaches us to take risks, and to not be frightened of grasping opportunities just because they seem like they’re out of our reach.

– An appearance of osprey in your life can indicate an appearance of the spirit in the form of the Beacon, coming to guide you back to a place of safety or security, or to a feeling of groundedness.

– In terms of working on an energy or elemental level, osprey energy can be called upon when working with the elements of water and wind.

– Osprey tells us that what is right in front of us, is enough, and that we must overcome ‘grass is greener’ syndrome and constantly wonder ‘what if?’ about how much better things are on the other side of our horizons.

Ospreys come into our life to teach us how to hone our senses, on both a physical and spiritual level. We might have become lazy with meditation, or with a physical endeavour we used to enjoy. We might have let our brains, bodies and spirits become sluggish. Osprey claws us back into shape, so that we learn that we nourish ourselves when we’re honed. ”

http://www.wildspeak.com/animalenergies/osprey.html

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An Energy Practise & Ritual for the December Full Moon.

Happy full moon friends. The energy may feel intense as we have a super moon meaning the moon will be bigger and brighter in the sky as it’s closer to the earth. It’s also when mercury goes retrograde. So lots of energy swirls and swoons moving us all around.

This full moon feels like a time of reflection and reconsiderations. It’s a time of laying out all the cards in our life and evaluating them. Take a look what do you see? For many of us we have tried to force or figure things out of how they are going to be but the Universe has instead thrown us some curve balls and removed the paths we thought we might take. It’s easy to feel defeated or uncertain but the Universe is asking us to trust that something greater is in the works. Something greater is in the matrix of manifestation if we can keep our energies open and trusting.

This is what retrogrades are all about… time to reflect and re-evaluate. It’s also a time to explore our need for renewal and refresh our energies. Just take a step back and observe while allowing the energies to tweak and peak as they need.

It’s tough to be patient and persevere but that is what this full moon is asking of us. We may need to take a new path and let something go even though this feels fearful and uncertain. It’s like we have a choice to go back to the old familiar way or risk to trust that there is a new form, a new way, a new balance emerging even though we can’t quite see the edges of it yet. It’s there …we can feel it… just dream it, sense it and call it in. Let it tickle your nose and call you into its energy.

Full Moon Energy Practise.

All we need to do this month is sit and breathe. It’s a time of practising trust and patience and envisioning ourselves feeling great and happy. Expect the best! Expect and believe that it will all work out . Make it an inner knowing… a softness inside. Feel the energy of it working out. Close your eyes and see yourself feeling your best. Feel it in your body where do you feel that ? What do you feel? Just sit in this energy throughout the month and allow the universal energies to untangle what is into what it is meant and needs to be. Take care of yourself this month. Spend time reflecting, breathing, listening. Get a massage or two, light some candles, make a fire, have some hot cocoa or tea. Let the Universe and Creation that lives all around you swaddle you like a warm fuzzy blanket and feel caressed and soothed while the energies work themselves out for your very best to emerge.

And so it is friends.

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Teachings of the Duck For the September New Moon.

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Happy New Moon!  Doesn’t a new moon always feel like a fresh, new beginning each month?  Well, this one is a fresh, new, grand beginning and a new way of life.

This is the time to take the chance.  This is the time to take action.  This is the time to do what you have always wanted to do.

So make the call, send in the resume for a new job, put an offer on a new house, make the choice for remodeling or adding on to your house…whatever it is…take that leap.  Make a change, take the new path…this is the time.

The last few days many, many groups of ducks have been visiting my yard.  We are talking like twenty at a time.  I feel they have been carrying the message for this Moon.

Duck symbolizes good luck and fortune.  It’s a time of preparation meeting opportunity creating good luck if we are prepared of course.

“If duck crosses your path to catch your attention for there are opportunities to explore. She reminds if you do not take swift action you will miss out. Do not procrastinate if you are interested.”  (http://dreamstop.com/duck-dream-symbol/)

This is a time not to focus on how it’s going to work, it’s simply a time of action and allowing the chips to fall where they may…trusting and knowing it will all work out as is.  All you have to do is explore the opportunity and take that chance and act upon your instincts, your inner knowing of what is calling and pulling at the strings of your heart.

There will be moments where we over think or worry or doubt…just let it blow away as it comes.  Just act and allow what is to come.  Act and follow the wind, follow the flow…follow your inner knowing. Time for a luscious new start.

On this New Moon, decide to take an action, a new start, a new class, a new date, a new car, a new house, a new job…a new opportunity of some sort.  That’s it…sit with it…envision it, know it in your bones.  Write it down and make a plan.

And so it is my friends.

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Blessings and warmth and happy new changes as we enter the harvest season

🙂  xo

Crystal

 

 

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The December Energies Forecast.

sagittariusThis moon/month has shifted into Sagittarian energy.  YES!!!!   There is an energy of personal power at play here.  Many of us having been feeling drained, emotional,  even irritable from the Scorpio Moon cycle. The inner emotional energies have been rattled so you could awaken last moon.  Stagnation, irritation, lack of joy, these are all messengers that arrived at our door step to inform us to flip the page, make a change, take another road.  Get off the poor powerless me stand-point or the frozen in our foot- steps mark and get things a rollin’ again.  You may have spewed out emotion in the form of shrieks or dinosaur size tears…good!  Get that shit out and listen to why it has arrived.

 

I got all fired up at and it turns out.. it was ultimately at myself.  It came out at my hubby but the reality is I haven’t been taking responsibility for my time and my needs and blamed him.  I must be the card holder to my own destiny, my own wants and needs and lay them on the table in my game of life.

 

Many of us will find ourselves in a situation with some sort of irritant, some sort of issue or person bothering us and this moon will shine down and illuminate your power, your voice, your ability for smart planning.  You’ve been irritated to the core, holding on to these intense emotions, unsure what to do with them, where to put them, how to deal with the source of the irritation.  Perhaps like me you’ve remained frozen, unsure what to do or where to step so you’ve made no steps at all.  This moon, this month, will change that.  The centaur (Sagittarius symbol) with his bow and arrow in hand symbolizes for us the need to focus, set your aim and shoot for what you want!  Use your voice, take the step, make an action.

I pulled a Medicine Card from Jamie Sams deck and got the Opossum card.  Here’s what the Opossum wishes to share…

“Opossum medicine uses a great deal of strategy…It has the ability to fight with its claws and teeth, but it rarely uses this form of protection…If opossum has turned up in your cards, you are being asked to use strategy in some present situation.  Rely upon instincts for the best way out of a tight corner…Oftentimes if you refuse to struggle or show that hurtful words bother you, your taunter will see no further fun in the game….Opossum is beckoning you to use your brain, your sense of drama, and surprise – to leap over some barrier to your progress.”

So this month, make concrete, brain powered, logical plans to balance the inward energies stewing.  The masculine and feminine energies must be balanced, united in a sacred marriage.  Make schedules and strategies and see them through.  Commit to them as though your commitment to these schedules or strategies were symbolic to your commitment to your own self-love.  I’ve had my share of struggles with schedules, I feel locked down my them, chained, caged and my freedom loving Sagittarius soil rebels.  However, these schedules are a must for self-love and manifestation, they are not about imprisonment, they are about love for oneself and our own energy.  You are doing this for you, you are organizing your energy, making plans and taking action to move your soul forward and your heart healing onward.  The worlds needs your expressions so harness it and make it happen!

 

Here are some ideas to help move and organize your energy…there’s a clearing occurring.  Clearing space and time…organizing it so there is no wasting those luscious energy strands. It’s moving it out of your body so the anxiety, the restlessness, the overwhelm can dissipate.

Make a weekly schedule for your life.

Make a weekly menu.

Make a regular date with your soul every week, put it on your schedule.

Make daily to- do lists.

Make concrete plans of action of a sacred task at hand waiting for release and completion.

Schedule in time for your interests…yoga, writing, a new class, dance, soup making…anything!

Clean out drawers, donate clothes.

 

And so it is my friends.  Remember you can absolutely feel free to share.  Also I’d be so honored if you FOLLOWED THE BLOG OR THE WOMEN’S TRIBE FACEBOOK PAGE.  🙂

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The Power of Accepting Powerlessness

power2Hi friends.

It has been awhile. My life got busy with the arrival of our newest son Cedar Rain.  He is just over 2.5 weeks old.  We love him to pieces!!!

However, it has been an interesting road post baby.

As many of you know I have a blood/immune disorder that affects my health when I’m not well, stressed, recovering, etc.  So it is back with a vengeance since labouring the babes.  As such my body isn’t making as much milk as he needs because, well, it can’t.  It doesn’t have the energy stores.  I’ve met with public health nurses, lactation consultants, etc…they all say the same, ” You must take care of you first.  You need to do some formula, you may need to consider stopping breastfeeding.”

This is tough, I so wanted to breastfeed solely, and yet I can’t physically do it.  My body goes into extreme stress.  So here I am between my head and my body.  My head thinks I should breastfeed, it’s the right thing to do, it’s the best for baby…blah blah blah.  This is the perfectionist part of me that seems to emerge when I have a baby.  I want to be the most perfect mom, the mom that does everything according to the book and the experts so my baby has the best chance of….what, I am not sure.

This attitude, this addiction, carries with it beliefs that I must always perform, succeed, accomplish, do everything exactly as expected, to be impeccable at all times, no flaws, no limitations, no challenges or imperfections. I am just supposed to achieve the ideal mothering standard point blank, it’s what “good moms” do.  I know, I know it’s not possible and yet my mind warp speeds around spinning my brain, convincing me I’m failing somehow if I’m not perfect or if I can’t walk the ideal, supreme road.  So here I am coming at it face to face to deal with these illusions and destructive addictive thinking that emerges at times.

My husband has said numerous times, “you are way too hard on yourself.”  I see this, I know this, but yet I get caught in the perfectionist, false ideal state trap and at times struggle to get out of the blanket it throws on me.

So I do what I know, and go to a place of power in my mind’s eye.  A place where I feel strong and centered.   I’m brought to a ceremonial fire we had at Ghost Ranch, New Mexico with Lynn Andrews.  It’s night time, in the desert, the air is a bit crisp but the fire exudes a bright, luminous glow.  I feel strong and calm as the warmth of the flames caress my face.  I ask a guide to come a talk to me and who shows but Ruby Plenty Chiefs, a grandmother, a member of the Sisterhood of the Shields (in Lynn Andrews books).  Ruby is fierce, firm, takes no shit form nobody.  She’s in your face fierce, full of power and will call you to it if she feels you leaking your energy.  She looks at me as says, “own what is and move on.”

It’s so point blank, so raw, poignant, truthful…honest.  It’s so simple and yet sooooo complex and difficult.  It’s exactly where I struggle.  I fall into the drudgery, the pit of self-loathing or wishing something other than what is and try and adjust reality to make it fit what I hoped or wanted.  I spin my wheels trying to force what I want rather than allow and accept what is. I fight and fight like a ravenous, starving wolf fighting off prey for a morsel of food.  And I fall in the darkness, the pit of sadness and pain.  I struggle and struggle until I can not struggle anymore and finally accept what was there in the first place, now beaten down, exhausted and defeated.

What if I honored what is and owned it, confidently, fiercely, powerfully, and peacefully rather than struggle against it? What if I found my power by accepting my powerlessness in the situation at hand and trusted that somehow this was Divine Law, the what is of the process.

I admit, I worry about what others will think, and about what I think of myself because there are these “ideals” out there that I feel I “should” be following.  The nurses tell me many women choose not to breastfeed cause they hate it, they don’t enjoy it so they don’t do it.  I find that powerful to know what you want and own it, to choose it regardless of what others think.  It’s powerful to choose your own truth and do what is best for you, whatever the scenario, even if it’s against the grain, even it’s not really what you hoped but it’s what you must do.  This is the learning.

“When the shield carrier reaches the top of the mountain, she never seeks approval, because approval is based on doubt…Power lies in individuality and the ability to see yourself through your own eyes, not through the eyes of another.  To be in power,you must take your power and exist within your own individuality.”(Lynn Andrews Individuality Power Deck Card.)

Therein lies my issue.  I seek approval, I seek validation, I seek the nod that what I am doing is okay by others rather than from myself.  I leak my power and don’t own what is in my energy field and try and shape it into the form I believe will get approved and validated instead of accepting what actually is.

I lose the flow of life my trying to inflect my own will, my own need for approval and a lack of trust in myself and Divine law.  I see Ruby in my power place laughing, and she says,”you take yourself so seriously, do you think breast milk or formula has any bearing on the other side (spirit world), hahahahaha?  It is not the point, you are missing the lesson.  Laugh at yourself little girl, you are being silly.”

“See how you have chosen your illusions, as others have, and seek to feel the laughter that hold together the daily dream.  Self-importance blinds you to the source of joy an humor.” (exerpt from the Humor Card from the Power Deck.)

So here I am owning my illusions, my need for approval.  I see that my leaking valve of power is my addiction to perfection so I don’t have look at my limitations, my weak or less strong spots.  I pretend they don’t exist and try and exude the image, the ideal standard when my limitations are needing recognition.  My limitations need there own attention and actions.

So on this New Moon cycle, I try to own what is and allow what needs to be to be.  I allow joy and humor back in my life by taking life and my roles a little , no a lot… less seriously.  I am not perfection.  I have limitations, I have weaknesses, I have struggles and places of physical limitation I can not control and I can own that.  I am not a perfect mother and I won’t harm my child by being imperfect.  I can accept that. I can own my limitations, my powerlessness in the situation to find my power, to find strength.

And so it is.

Hope ya’ll are having a healing New Moon cycle with many bouts of laughter, humor and joy.

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Crystal

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A Healing Full Moon/Eclipse Ritual & Your Inner Queen

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Happy FULL Moon and Lunar Eclipse. The energies are brewing, the cauldron is stirring, the chaos,emotions, turmoil, struggles, and calls to grow and expand are bubbling.  Our unhealed shadowy selves are called to the surface so we can free them from the cages, free them from the rapture of old wounded ways and alas heal the cuts of the past.

Just the other day while walking my dogs, I heard this strange loud chirping in the trees. I’d never heard such a strange and loud gawk from birds before and wondered what the heck was calling in such in an unusual howl.  Then I seen my dogs jumping onto the bottom of a tree while an innocent ole’ ground hound gripped on for life to a branch near the top shrieking those unusual howls.

The Ground hog tells us…(from http://www.spirit-animals.com/groundhog/)

“You are being asked to explore altered states of consciousness deeper. The answers are within you – however you just have not dug deep enough to find the root of it. Groundhog can also be letting you know that you need to pay attention to your metabolism. Be aware of how your diet influences your natural bodies cycles and to make dietary adjustments to balance the workings of your body.

Alternatively Groundhog can be giving you fair warning that you have overstepped someone boundaries or someone is overstepping yours. Best is to resolve the situation with respect and from the heart.”

This full moon is in Libra, the sign about relationships.  Throw in a lunar eclipse and the intensity quadruples.  Lunar eclipses bring endings, shifts, and sudden change.

This fits well with Ground Hog’s message about boundaries, especially concerning relationships.  For me, I have someone in my life that I must deal with who constantly pushes and tries and over step my boundaries.  But I must look at the root, at my own causal piece in this.  I get thrown off, annoyed, frustrated, even irritated.  My mind sometimes loops into his trail of chaos and un-groundedness and  I literally start spinning with him until I remember to ground, stay firm, follow the agreements.

He rages, gets annoyed, calls me down, makes me the problem. But that’s okay.  My job is to figure out my stance.  As I enter the dream world to get some guidance and Higher vision on this circumstance, I see a large yard with a short white picket fence.  This is symbolic to my boundaries…nice, small, easy to step over.  So I ask my guides, how can I prevent him from stepping over my fence.

“Build a taller, stronger fence!” they say.

Of course! Keep things firm.  Don’t compromise, don’t adjust.  Focus on my peace, my emotional well-being, not his responses.  Easier said then done.  My inner cauldron of wounds, bubble over with feelings of fear and uncertainly.  I’m uncomfortable asserting my line knowing I will be met with resistance, with push back.  I get ready, get defensive, get myself preparing for the next set of attacks.  I want this response, this pattern to end.  It’s bullshit.  So I look inward to explore where the wound is so I can make the change.

I have this lingering patterned response, a neuro-conscious response (in mind-body therapy terms) where fear pumps into my chest when I must assert myself or express that my boundary has been crossed.  I feel childlike, timid, afraid of asserting my voice, my stance.  It stems from my childhood.  I’m afraid of getting into trouble.  But this belief, is old, tiresome, out dated.

So I follow the trail to the root.  Why am I afraid to assert myself? I know it stems from my dad, as much as I love him, when I was younger he yelled a lot when I’d try and find my voice.  It made me shrink in the face of conflict, authority, or anger.  I get afraid.  But what am I afraid of?  Being rejected? Being reprimanded?  Being wrong?

I get all twisted up in another’s point of view instead of remaining grounded in my own.  I start to question my accuracy, if I’m being selfish or the purity of my intent.  I doubt myself, and my knees start to wobble, I begin to feel weak and less confident in myself and my ability to assert my boundary begins to crumble.  I give in, stay silent and cower in the face of conflict only to beat myself up for stumbling.

There’a a connection to my voice, like somehow I won’t be believed or heard or honored. inner queenThere’s an old belief that my voice won’t be listened to so I go to the extreme defense protecting myself, trying to get validated, understood, and heard from the other person. This feels like to the root of my over-active immune system (auto-immune), always on the defense, hyper-aware, hyper-vigilant for attack and I must protect myself.  But there’s a difference between being overly cautions “on the defense” with being firm, assertive, and a Queen.  Rather than protecting my fence with a metal-suited soldier, I can call upon my inner Queen to simply stand there and energetically hold her presence.  There’s no defense, there’s confidence, certainty, trust in Herself, her power, her decision.  TRUST IN HERSELF! It’s just an energy of upholding the line, not defending it.

My inner Queen says to my inner child, “Who cares!  Who cares if he rejects you, you’ve already rejected him.  He can’t reprimand you and no, your feelings are not wrong.  Do not be afraid to expect your boundaries to be respected!  That is your right.”  

Expect to be respected. There is such power in that.  That is where my wound lies.  I have expected to be disrespected and prepare for this instead of standing firm in my right to be respected.  I will expect to be respected.  That just completely changes the energy of everything, don’t you think?! 🙂

“How can I feel as strong and confident as you?” my scared, child part asks my Queen.

“Put on your crown and cape little girl and believe in your own authority.”

I imagine my little girl with the crown and cape the Queen has gifted her and she feels naturally more confident and sure of herself.  She knows, she remembers, she owns that she is indeed a Queen. A Queen with power, assertion, and authority.  She commands the stage with her presence.

And so it is.

FULL MOON/ LUNAR ECLIPSE HEALING RITUAL:

Grab your journal, light a candle, put on some music and spark up an incense.  Drift inward, imagine seeing your inner child.  It’s time to dive inward to where we need balance and restoration.  It’s time to end old, wounded ways of being.

 

It’s time to dream, go inward and write and reflect with your magical inner world.  Get out your journals, turn on the switch to your imagination and travel into the healing gates of wonder…

1)Explore your inner parts, particularly your inner child, the wounded child.  What patterns, beliefs, wounds keep you stuck in old wounded patterns in your relationship? What does your inner child look like?  What are they wearing, what is their stance, what is their energy and presence?  What words or feelings come to mind with this part of you?

3) Think of a relationship with a certain person or people that you have been struggling with. Imagine the relationship dynamic or your presence in the relationships in the form of a landscape that reflects your boundaries and interactions within it.  What do you see and notice? What is there? What colors and images? What does this say about your patterns or wounded beliefs?

4)  Imagine seeing your inner Queen walking from her castle to this landscape. How does she move, feel and change the feeling with her presence?  What does she look like?

5) Ask her how you can heal this old pattern in your relationship or relationships and see if she will give you something, an object or objects to help you in shifting this old way of relating.

Share your experiences 🙂

And so it is!!!

 

This moon’s mantra.  “I assert my boundaries with ease by owning and stepping into my Inner Queen.”

 

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