I like doing these question every year around New Years. It’s so interesting to look back on and reflect. Each year is so voluptuous in learning, healing and evolvement. Take a moment to sit and ponder, dive deep and soak in the year. Write your heart on to the page while letting go and inviting all the energies of the past year and the year to come.
Here we go….
1) What was the single best thing that happened this past year ?
2) What was the single most challenging thing that happened this past year?
3) What was an unexpected joy this year?
4) What was an unexpected obstacle ?
5) Pick 3 words to describe this past year.
6) Pick 3 words your partner would use to describe their year. ( without asking)
7) What are the best books you read this year?
8) What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this year?
9) What was your single biggest time waster this year ?
10). What was the best way you used your time this year ?
11)What is the biggest thing you’ve learned this year?
12) Create a phrase or statement that describes this past year for you.
13) What is your word for the New Year ahead? Mine is creation. And Manifestation.
I hope you enjoy and savour the taste of these reflections into your whole body and soul. And so it is 🙂
Happy New Year friends 🎉😘.
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Happy Winter Solstice from here in Canada! On this Darkest day of the year the Universe has brought me back to the teaching of the Grouse. I have lost my balance between inner and outer self, between light and dark, doing and being. And the grouse has puffed up her chest in my face, reminding me of her sacred message.
In her book Medicine Cards, Jamie Sams connects the grouse to the sacred spiral. She asks us, “Analyze the way you move through your world. How do you picture yourself in the act of “locomotion”…What word would you use to describe the way you move through both the material and spiritual worlds?…is your movement compatible with your greatest desires and goals?” (journal prompts!!)
For me I’m like a chicken with head cut off, running around my busy life with my three boys and husband, always doing three things at one time, somewhat disconnected from it all. I want to move slower, more gently and way more consciously. I want to be fully present in the moment of what I’m doing. I have almost come to a screeching halt in the spirit world and need to change this today! In this moment I see how we cannot manifest this visions into physical form if we are not taking time to see the vision in the moments of still and spiritual world exploring.
The grouse is also an ancient symbol for birth and rebirth and is often represented by the sacred spiral as this is the way the grouse does her sacred dance. The sacred spiral is symbol of personal power, a feminine symbol that we used to paint on our bodies for ceremonies and vision quests, a symbol of visioning to the centre of creation, down the sacred spiral and towards the centre and still spot of a tornado.
This message fit well as I have been really exploring my energy lately and witnessing how much I push myself and how much I pull back. And in my self-assessment I’ve come to realize that I’m really good at pushing myself and I rarely pull back my energy on my own accord but usually out of collapse. I typically go from a state of pushing, pushing, pushing to a grinding halt…stopped dead in my tracks with inertia and exhaustion. The experience of pulling back is not gentle or subtle, it’s extreme and fierce. It’s forceful and out of desperation, a need for recuperation and a catching of my breath for survival. Like everyone else I’m learning to exist somewhere between inertia and a thousand miles a minute and moving away from the extremes. I do know this, for every action there is an equal or greater reaction. So when we move to one extreme, there is always the opposite extreme waiting for our arrival.
So can we experiment and maybe loosen our ropes? Pull back from doing so much? I remember during my recovery from disordered eating, I forced myself to find the middle ground and find the luscious glow of mediocrity. I wouldn’t run as far or push as hard, I would intentionally try not to be the best or on top but rather middle ground because it was gentler and more loving but it was deeply uncomfortable. Feelings of worthlessness and fear of not being good enough oozed out of me as I tried to live a more balanced life. I equated not being perfect or the best with failure even if it cost me my well being. A new form had to be found. This constant over-doing and busyness is a ridiculous and unhealthy way to live my life, no more. The busyness of my life has moved me into exhaustion and disconnection. My pulling back is to be more intentional and consciousness in the moment and way more stillness. I need to make space for it like my life depends on it because I know it does.
On this beautiful day of darkness, I encourage us to find the sacred ceremony of intentional gentleness. Mmmm…I want to inhale the word “gentleness” into the aura of my life and let her soothing energy settle into my bones. So celebrate this day of darkness by sacred acts of doing less, of being gentle, of soothing the soul by dipping into our dark depths. Perhaps gentleness is letting the dishes dry in the sink or reading a good book instead of doing the laundry. I found it to be quite playful to try and find balance in a gentle, subtle, loving way in my every day life instead of just pushing and getting through these few days and then falling ill or finishing my weak in a state of depletion. Perhaps it’s even lighting up on the workout or spending the day cozy in fuzzy socks and Christmas sweaters by the fire. Perhaps it’s lighting candles and infusing peppermint oils with the sparkling twinkle of Christmas lights around us. Make today a sacred game of finding was to be gentle and softer, more being less doing.
SOLSTICE REFLECTIVE WRITING RITUAL:
What is your relationship with Beingness?
What is your relationship with your own inner darkness and shadow self? Do you welcome and embrace your darkness or do you push it away and positive affirmation yourself into by-passing it?
Do you spend time in reflection and contemplation? What supports this practise for you or what hinders it?
Imagine sitting with the great sacred being of Solstice, the keeper of the dark, cavernous portals of being. You and this powerful gatekeeper are sitting around a crackling fire inside a deep rocky cave. Can you just sit in the energy of this Being..feel that being ness, pull it in, let it soften you, soothe you, surrendering your guards. Just sit and be, feeling Presence, feeling the warmth of the fire on your face. Sit there and receive the gifts of Being. Inhale the gentleness and calm around you. Expand the calmness all throughout your body. Feel it in your lungs and allow it to settle into your bones. Savour in it for as long as you need. When you are done, make an offering to the Divine Solstice being seated with you and when you’re ready, open you’re eyes and feel how you still feel the gift of Beingness.
Aho! And so it is.
Happy Solstice Friends 🙂
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I don’t know about you, but lately, I have been feeling like a chicken with my head cut off. I’m so busy. And with this busyness, I feel like I’m living life on autopilot, disconnected…always in my head and not in the moment. I’m missing out on the juiciness of my experiences because my to do list cycles through my brain over and over. And I’m about done with that.
So here’s some changes I’m gonna make to feel more connected, more present, and more alive in the sweet moments of my life instead of being stuck in auto-pilot gear in the brain zone. Please join me.
9 WAYS TO UNPLUG AND FEEL ALIVE IN THE MOMENT
1. I’m putting a a strict amount of online time I’m able to use on my phone, like limits for kids but for myself. It’s so easy to waste time here. So I’m creating some restrictions for myself. There are settings in your phone for time limits to do this..join me! I want to be in the moment, not cyberspace.
2. Schedule weekly creative time. I love re-purposing and painting furniture. It’s creative and in the moment and it’s the first thing I toss out the window when life gets busy. But no more. It is a scheduled event I must work around. Paint, write, sing, dance, do your hair, whatever. Just get those creative, alive juices flowing.
3. Slow down and read a book. I can’t even remember the last time I did this. When my son does his school reading, I am joining him on the couch and doing it too.
4. Just stop in the moment, at your son’s hockey game or playing outside with the kids or cooking supper and drop into your body and really feel the sensations of what you are doing. Really soak it in, be present. Feel the sensations of your body. Inhale it into your bones. This is feeling spirit in form.
5. Gratitude journal. Straight up this helps my life every time I do it, and yet I don’t do it consistently. It’s time for a gratitude commitment to really help me see all the good in my life and to savour in those lovely moments.
6. Set the mood and intention to slow down. Light some candles, infuse some oils, build a cozy fire, play some music. Turn down the lights and let your cozy space hug you like a warm, fuzzy, blanket. Relax into the cozy. Hygge it up.
7. Meditate. Truthfully, I sometimes hate when people tell you to do this, and here I am telling you to do this. I personally can’t sit and just be blank. I need an App and a guide. There are many meditation apps out there. I personally use Insight Timer and love it and its’ free! I meditate before bed. There are settings like 5 mins, 10 mins etc and different topics. It really, really does calm the nervous system into relaxation and this is a must, must, must for health and well-being. Slowing down is key.
8. Dance. Any way, any shape, any form. For five minutes, just move your body and try and open it up. Expand your arm, and feet and legs and think of releasing and opening tensions. Twist and turn and open. Stop your feet and ground into your body. Dance your feelings out. This can literally be life changing !!
9. Make sure to connect with yourself because this is how we connect to everyone and everything else. The more you are connected to yourself, the more you are able to connect with others and the beautiful life around you. Join the THE WOMEN’S TRIBE, for free emails by FOLLOWING THE BLOG for rituals and journal prompts to self-connect and feed that beautiful soul. I love, and need sacred art or journaling as part of my self connecting. I crave it, deep reflection and soul exploring stuff.www.womenshealingandspirituality.com
As this holiday season approaches and life gets even busier, let’s promise each other to take time to slow down and feed our souls. It is ESSENTIAL to our health. I have been spinning, wayyyyy too fast on the busyness train and I’m choosing to get off before my health crashes.
I hope you slow down and soak in your beautiful life.
Happy New Moon! Oooweeee!! I love the Sagittarius Moon 🌚, and this one feels extra special . It is time to start the new path, the new walk, the new way. So on this New Moon bust out of the norm and do something different. Take a risk, throw caution to the wind and do something out of your ordinary. This is a huge act of power and salute to the new moon and new life you are creating.
Wear some bright red lipstick, change the colour of your hair or better yet…cut it, sign up for that class, make that website, take the new job offer, go on that date, maybe even end that relationship. Just change up the usual.
Whatever it is that you choose to do different, the energies feel like that are asking us to be brave and just do it. This is a time to make a bold act of power, this is to set in motion a new way of life and doing all that you do.
It’s exciting and overwhelming and exciting again 😊.
This moon cycle is about setting in motion the new life that is lurking around waiting to emerge. For me, my act of power I’m gonna post a video on my site and start the membership. It’s stretching out of my comfort zone or my norm and trying some new things on.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed in the how but stop yourself and just focus on doing it… raw, real, imperfect and pure. Just do it! That simple.
I invite you to write your act of power of your wish for the new on a bay leaf and burn it so the spirit world really receives in and you deeply honour the new form that is stalking and circling you in your life.
So share with me your act of power in the comments.
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Happy Full Moon!! These last few weeks have felt challenging, haven’t they? With mercury in retrograde, I have had many challenges with communication and deadlines, and trying to finalize plans has been an extraordinary challenge. And yet, deep down I held onto a knowing that all things shall work out as they are meant to, even though they may not turn out how I thought or planned. That’s a tough space to stay in, but I kept breathing my way back to that centred truth each time I flailed into panic or worry.
And on the flip side of that my relationship has been going through a real challenge. Many root issues have re-arisen. To be honest we may be at a make or break point and it’s scary. I feel like many of us are at this point and many relationships are being shaken loose to do what they are supposed to do…help heal us. Healing ourselves through the containers of relationships brings us closest to our Selves and the Divine.
Although this head space is hard energy to stay in and explore. Here’s what I know…I have fallen back into co-dependent patterns. I have over-stepped my boundaries trying way to hard to push my ideas of how to help my husband heal. I have tried to tell him and show him how I think he should explore his deeper Self and his untouched stuff. I have shifted my focus onto him and his flaws rather than express what I’m needing and where I’m not doing so hot. There are big pieces he has to address as well and I’m powerless in the outcome of if he does or not. He needs to for our survival and I need to do my work for our survival but the reality is this…I only have control of what I can do. The rest I have to let go; and I fucking hate that lol! I have a hard time with that. I want to force him and push him and manoeuvre him onto the healing path. And yet, it’s the one thing I can’t do. It brings up so much stuff for me too…can I trust a man to actually follow through? Will a man actually do healing work? I don’t trust men to follow through or change or heal, that is an underlying belief and pattern of stickiness for me. I am not sure I believe a man will be brave enough to step into vulnerability and face his darkness, own it and heal it and yet I know that those men do exist.
Luckily on this Full Moon, the Power Card has found its’ way to me from the Psychic Tarot by John Holland. It offers the following…
“As a spiritual being, you have unlimited power at your command. This card represents inner strength, willpower, courage, compassion, generosity and love. At any moment, these beautiful qualities can assist you in coping with an adverse condition in front of you, or the many surrounding in your life. Set aside the necessary time to resolve such issues. Power represents more than physical, external strength; it can also be channeled emotionally, mentally and spiritually. When you have balance over mind, body and soul – and with the power of spirit – anything can be overcome to achieve a positive result.
Power and Strength can be developed to work in harmony in any given situation. Every obstacle, every error helps build your knowledge and understanding of the world around you. When you make a mistake, it’s chance for you to stop, listen and ask yourself: What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? Mistakes are wake-up calls, in that they provide you with opportunities to discover your weaknesses, what needs to be changed, and which areas of your life need improving. Equally, they can blessings in disguise. Just remember: you are power!“
Full Moon Healing Ritual:
So on this full moon that seems to be full of discord and disharmony and challenges….we are asked to clear the way…to go deeper and understand these challenges as learning opportunities and inner growth portals to our Divine Selves. So I invite you join me in lighting some candles, burn some incents or sage or infuse some oils and gather your pen and paper and meet me on the page.
Let us ask. (about a challenge or challenges at hand in life at the moment)…
What would inner strength say?
What would willpower say?
What would courage say?
What would compassion say?
What would love say?
What would generosity say?
And lastly….What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? (pg 42)
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I want to share a powerful healing journey with you I’ve been going through. I recognize we won’t have exact experiences but I hope somehow it resonates for you in your own life, with your own particulars.
I have been struggling with my chronic illness lately, having to do a lot of blood infusions and dealing with a lot of inflammation, particularly in my large intestine this time around. I am a believer and student of mind/body medicine and ways of the Sacred Feminine, meaning I know my body has something to tell me. Illness and inflammation are always messengers from my deepest Self and health challenges are an opportunity for healing if we choose to explore it as such.
So after five days of struggle, I finally sit down and listen. After some podcasts and reflections these questions have emerged.
How am I showing up for myself in my life?
What are ways I can show up for myself in my life more often and what does that look like?
How do I need to show up for myself and my soul more regularly?
Here we go…
I have not been showing up for myself in my life at all lately. I hear my grumbling, tired soul and body and instead of tending to it, I’ve been zoning out, watching tv, going to sleep, keep busy busy busy. My mind has been swirling with ideas, and new goals but I’m spinning in stuckness not putting pen to paper, just living in the land of busy mom and not showing up for myself. That is step one, recognizing the problem.
I can show up for myself more often perhaps in little segments or tidbits. I need to schedule it in during kid naps and block off at least one evening a week to do some deep soul pouring and get my course written/created. In the meantime I can light candles, listen to podcasts as I clean or hang with baby, and keep moving my body in loving ways.
How do I need to show up for my soul more often? I think and feel I really need to commit to taking 10-20 minutes each evening, writing, journaling, reflecting, pondering, whatever that may be and check-on. I just need to create me soul space in my life. Writing is part of that for me and helps me move out my stuck thoughts. And I need to commit like my health depended on it, cause my body is telling me it is!
In mind-body medicine and energy healing irritations with the LARGE INTESTINE have to do with, “crying spells, confusion, irritation, frustration, stagnation, and anger. Thinking that you can’t do any thing right. Wanting to run away and hide form the world. Feeling that you are too different and that no one understand you. Difficulty seeing other people’s point of view. Dogmatically defending your position in arguments. Extremely sensitive, thin-skinned.” (The Secret Language of Your Body by Inna Segal pg.64)
I resonate with all of this. I’ve been spinning, stuck, overwhelmed, lost, scattered and thus frustrated. I have had crying meltdowns in my overwhelm, feeling like I keep trying to swim to shore but can’t find the shore. I realize now I just needed to stop swimming, take a look and make a plan. Take one step at a time and cut some things out that I’m not quite ready for. Visualize where I’m going and focus on each pearl on the thread one by one. I’ve been trying to hold three or four chains of pearls and I’m spinning in stickiness not knowing which one to focus on.
So on this lovely October day, I invite you go through the questions listed above and just free flow your pen to page. Set a timer for 5 minutes and don’t lift that pen up til the timer goes off. Invite yourself back into your life. Please share your findings in comments.
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Happy Fall Equinox(or Spring depending on where you live) my friends. This is the day when light and dark are equal. A balance of yin and yang on our Earth Mother. I love the fall, the changing color of the leaves, the crisper feel of the air, and the call to begin the draw inward with some cozy candles and pumpkin spice. It’s a time of sweaters and boots, scarves and leggings. I don’t know about you but I really enjoy each change of season and the changing of energies that come with them. In Canada we feel the change of each four seasons and I absolutely love that.
So on this Fall Equinox the energy calls for a cleansing, a purifying of the air and a bringing in of the new life and energy. We are all going through major changes at this time so I hope you find this fitting for all the transitions.
A WIND-SONG RITUAL
Open up many windows in your home and invite in the beautiful, crisp and luscious autumn air. Allow the breeze to sing a lovely transition song through your home as she cleanses the energy and brings in new light and life force during this equinox. Call in the Great Spirit and the Great Mother, angels, fairies, spirit animals, guides and ancestors or whomever you feel connected to to help you in your ritual. Feel the spirit of transition, manifestation and harvest in your home. Feel how abundant you are in love and shelter. Feel the simultaneous warm and cool breeze as she caresses your cheek.
If you have, dab a bit of tea tree oil or sage oil onto your screens as a means to cleanse the air or light incense and allow the breeze to move the cleansing smoke throughout your home.
Close your eyes and hear the wind sing to you as she passes through your home.
What does she sayto you?
Ask her a question ?
How does she answer?
I invite you to journal your luscious conversation with the wind.
To end the ritual, make an offering to the wind, literally or imaginatively. Perhaps it’s some tobacco or flowers or cornmeal. Maybe it’s sending loving energy or the image of hearts. Anything goes.
Sing the praises for the beauty of the wind and the change of season ahead. And so it is 😊❤️🍂🍁🌻
Enjoy your new and shifted energy.
And so it is my friends.
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I wanted to share a lovely Sacred Feminine practise with you that will not only increase your energy but contribute to your overall sense of well being and fulfilment.
Recently I read a blog post from Kate Northrop that talked about “body first, business second”. I love this concept as it really is a Sacred Feminine principle by focusing on well being to generate energy and productivity for life and/or business.
By making space in your weekly schedule for your body and soul first, then scheduling life around that, we create a powerful energetic message to ourselves and the Universe at large. This sacred act of “paying yourself first with your Own time and energy” really affirms to our own souls our own value, our own worth and our own importance in life. I see so many moms ( me included in previous time) that think suffering and sacrifice are equivalent to good mothering. Ummm… can we throw that old concept out the window?? That is why we are so depleted, empty and unfulfilled. I would often get resentful that there was no room for me in my own life. By taking care of ourselves first we can take care of babies and families. It is essential, really everything depends on it, we need to take this space and time for ourselves for our own health and well being. It literally affects everything/ our minds, emotions, bodies and souls. How we treat ourselves in our own lives is often reflected in our experience of life and our vitality doing it.
I get it, it can be so hard to prioritize. We pencil it in and don’t follow through. Believe me, I’ve been there and still am sometimes. But what if this practise was essential for every other part of your life??!! Think about that!!😊. Would that help us commit?
So every Sunday (or whatever day you plan your week), schedule in at least two spots in your week for you time. Ask yourself what you need… a massage? Coffee and dessert with friends? Deep conversations? Creative time ? Date night? More sleep? Whatever it may be… schedule it in and then create your to do lists and family schedules. Thank you Kate Northrop for this format!
I used to think, when I have time this week I will…paint…do yoga…go out for coffee etc. But it never happened. With three kids, the time never emerged or if it did I was too bloody tired to do anything. I had to learn to make the time emerge in my schedule by creating it and committing to it like my life depended on it. Sometimes it’s getting up early and journaling or blogging before the kids are up. Other times it’s sleeping! Who am I kidding I don’t sleep much haha.
This “Body Before Busy” ( the Triple B ) practice built into your weekly schedule affirms to yourself and the Universe that you know your value and worth. By giving yourself time and space in your own life you will feel more joyful, more fulfilled, and you will see resentment, overwhelm and even frustration begin to dissipate. You will find you’ll have more energy as when we feed our needs and nourish our feminine souls, it shows up in our health, energy and vitality.
I really feel that our relationship to our own deepest Self is central and fundamental in every other aspect of our lives. It’s reflected in everything, how we feel, what we do, what we eat, what we accept, what we don’t accept, what we choose and don’t choose and on and on and on. How we treat the inside shows up on our outside. (A mind-body principle). Our health really is a reflection of our relationship to our mind, body and souls and lack thereof.
So my friends I hope each week you participate in this lovely feminine practise and fill your own well. You will surely start to see the energetic boosts physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Isn’t this a simple yet radical shift that needs serious commitment!!
And so it is my friends. Please comment on what you have scheduled for yourself using the Body before Busy principle.
This week I have scheduled tonight some furniture painting and later this week some date night time with the hubby. We are also doing daily workouts together which has been great to make that time for ourselves and together.
Have a happy week!! New Moon tomorrow 👍🏼😊
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This full moon and equinox is a pivotal time in our healing vortex. We will either step forward into new pathways and patterns or we will stay stuck in the same old rut. It really does feel like a fork in the road. Will we choose to be far more intentional and conscious or will we remain on automatic pilot ?
My husband and I have a counselling appointment coming up on Monday…and I called to cancel it. Why ? Because we had this and that to do and time off work and blah, blah, blah. It’s our old pattern…put our relationship last and prioritize everything else until we have “time” to focus on us and our marriage.
Well guess what?! The time never comes!!! Like. Ever!
We MUST create space for it. It’s easier to cancel and deal with it later while getting all our stuff done but our marriage needs to be the priority. I told the hubby… “look I know we are in the middle of a shit load of things to do right now with bathroom renos, getting ready for our soon to be arriving baby #3 and firewood cutting for next year. But we still need to go to counselling. Our pattern is to avoid or put our stuff on the back burner until we have “time” to get into it and the truth is we never have the time nor will it magically appear.”
We are doing some deep healing in our relationship and we both realize we need to flip our pattern upside down. Our relationship must come first instead of last and everything else falls behind Its’ needs because without our marriage there really is nothing else. All that other stuff stems and grows out of having an us. There are no Reno’s in our home if there is no marriage. There’s no baby prepping together if there’s no marriage… you get the drill.
So we kept the appointment and will go and get real raw and vulnerable and face our discomforts and fears and voice deep truths and needs to each other rather than remain unfocused and unconscious to the needs of our relationship.
I feel like this is a real act of power, a real act of love. It feels like a resetting and intentional step forward into forming a new deeper bond focused with our marriage in the centre and not at the bottom end of our to do list.
That is what this full moon and equinox is about . Forming new pathways and patterns. New wires will transmute and grow new and glorious things.
Will it be easy peasy? No! Will it be comfortable? Likely not…but it will feel right. It will create an inner peace and knowing that you are making changes and that my friends is healing.
So happy Equinox (spring for us here in Canada) and happy full moon. May you make an act of power and love for yourself and your healing .