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A Quick And Easy Way to Re-Ignite the Love in Your Marriage. All you need is 5 Minutes.

loveI’m going to let you all in on a little secret.  I read an article just yesterday about the secret to a long lasting marriage.  You know what it was….kindness!  Can you believe the simplicity in that?!  However, it is simultaneously complex because sometimes it’s hard to be kind to the person that can push ALL of your buttons.

It takes some conscious effort to be intentionally kind and thoughtful in our marriages.  It’s easy to overlook and forget the good when life is busy and stressful.  It’s easier to dump out the emotions on our loved one’s for their tiredness or laziness and spear them with complaints how they always fall short or fail us.  I’m guilty, I’ve done it.  I usually do it when my own love tank is empty.  It’s easy to take for granted our significant other and focus on what they do wrong rather then ask for what we need.  But negativity only breeds negativity.

So here’ s a quick little habit I’ve been getting into lately that is really changing my life and transforming my relationship.  It started because of an awful dream I had where my husband left me for an unattractive but kind and loving woman because I was too crotchity and demanding, I always pointed out his flaws rather than appreciate his good.  He said he couldn’t take it anymore and just wanted to feel loved.  It was awful, I woke up changed, burdened, scared and refocused on making sure he knows how much I love him and appreciate the beautiful parts of him I fell in love with.  That unconscious mind is a powerful tool!

Here’s what ya do…

Each morning write 5 things you love about yourself and why.  Let’s get real and responsible here and know that we need to fill our own love tanks too.  So go ahead and toot your own horn! To start your day with five sentences that start with, “I love myself for…” will truly change your life. It’s necessary to appreciate yourself, it builds confidence and self-esteem. If you can’t love and appreciate yourself, you will not be able to receive the love of others. So bring attention to and list your wondrous accomplishments and sweet, nice, loving things you did as a wife, mother, friend or daughter. That’s right, celebrate your good and bright stuff because you simply deserve it. It will feed your self worth and confidence.

Now, do the same for your significant other and remember why you fell in love with this person.  Go on, write those 5 fabulous things about your honey and don’t forget the “why” of your statements.  Maybe you remember how gentle he was with your son yesterday or how how she brought you home a coffee after work or how often he tells you how beautiful he thinks you are. Write down the love, remember it, savour it, wrap yourself in the caress of its presence. You’ll find that as you focus on the good, sweet, and luscious moments in your relationship and of your “boo”, you won’t be so bothered or annoyed when they leave their boots in the middle of the entrance way or the toothpaste cap on the sink. It will roll off your back because you are full and focused on love.  Your memory of their acts of love and amazing qualities and will be present when those less attractive habits show up.  Then you realize they simply are not that important or that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things and in the big picture of your loving relationship.   And remember, you got those unattractive habits too so be gentle.  😉

Side note…you can do this for each one of your kids too and see how you are more calm, grounded and patient when the toilet plugs and there’s cereal all over the floor.

Join me and make yourself a Love Journal.

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Enjoy

xo

Crystal

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Take a Shamanic Journey to the Moon Lodge on the 3 Days of the Full Moon

moon lodgeThis full moon is really different for me.  I am very reflective and inward, likely because we are shifting into the dark months, going inward and into the bear cave as winter approaches.  I usually move my energy out in a sacred art format but I am not on this full moon.  I am still moving my energy but in an inward way.

So join me, and take a ride inward and come to the collective Moon Lodge where all sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts and daughters celebrate the full moon.  Close your eyes and walk down a trial until you see the world’s largest tipi up the road.   Isn’t it beautiful!?  Walk into the opening and inside.   It is dark and lit with candles so you can see.  Notice there is a large magical bowl in the middle with magical moon beams swirling within it.  It looks like colorful magic dust dancing spinning around as it sparkles.  Find your spot on the mossy ground around the magical moon bowl and rest that beautiful self.  Take in some breaths and enjoy the smell of sweet grass, eucalyptus and sage in the air.  Let it calm and soothe you with each breath.  Notice your sacred garments of clothing that you wear on these special Women’s Tribe ceremonies and shoot yourself a smile for being so rad and Sacred!  Peak out the top of the tipi where there is opening and see the moon shining brightly in the dark night sky.  See the stars sing just as brightly next to the big, bright full moon.

If you’re like me and your menstruating with the full moon, allow yourself to bleed on the mossy grounds as we used to in our tribes and allow Mother Earth to regenerate all that you shed into energy for Her renewal, healing and vitality.  If you are not simply imagine any energy that needs to be released to surrender into the ground.   Watch other women in the tipi go to the magical bowl at the center of the moon lodge and emptying their emotional cargo bags.  Notice too how they are taking with them a sacred object after they empty their bags.  Join me and drag your bag across the floor.  Look down into the magical bowl and see how it it’s like a deep portal, a large vast emptiness into another world.

“The grandmothers will take care your cargo,” the women in the lodge say, “but you need to do your work with it too.”

So let us learn from what is in our emotional bags.   Empty your bag and see what falls out, notice how it just floats there above the bowl for you to see.  What is it trying to teach you or tell you?  What message does it have for you in your soul’s journey and evolution?  Take your journal out as describe what you see….  Write about it’s purpose and message for you…honor it and take time to tend to it.

Watch it vanish into the Earth Mother and into another dimension.  They have left for you an object to help you tend to the emotional cargo that has surfaced.   It too is floating in the bowl, waiting for you to grab.   Just allow yourself to see it and bring it to your heart.

Sit back down on the mossy ground and just be with your Sacred object that was given to you by the grandmothers.   Sit and enjoy the magic of being with other women who are honoring their Feminine Ways with Grandmother Moon as she shines full and bright, signalling to us to see our own internal landscapes.  Just really absorb the joy of gathering, even in spirit, with the women’s tribe. Lay some tobacco from your pouch and put it on the ground in gratitude to the Great Mother Earth and the Grandmothers…

Get up and walk clockwise around the magical bowl and outside of the tipi.  Take the trail back to the now and gently open your eyes and move your hands and feet.

Be sure to journal and share your experience.

And so it is…

Aho!

Happy Full Moon.

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“The Obsession with Thinness & Body Hatred is Really Code for This…”

sacred body 2One of the lost teachings of the Sacred Feminine in our society is the love and reverence for our Sacred, life giving bodies.  We live in a culture that idolizes thinness and somehow our brains get trained to believe if we are not a certain size or weight, we are then not beautiful.  We are setup to be in war with our bodies, as though it is a separate entity we must dominate.  We treat them like prisoners, telling them what to do, be, when, how and where rather than operate within a sacred union with them.

I believe we have missed the mark, and lost the message.  We are getting our wires crossed thinking that these obsessive thoughts of perfection, thinness and weight loss are what’s important.  The obsession and even addiction to thinness is showing up as body hatred and low self-esteem in our young girls and in our women populations in alarming and growing numbers.

Body hatred and the addiction to thinness are code words that we have lost connection to our fiery, Feminine souls.  We do not really hate our bodies, we don’t even know them and we don’t feel fat.  Fat is not a feeling!  Usually we feel anxious, despair, or out of control and we then turn on the body and blame Her as though she were the culprit for those feelings.  The reality is our pain body is triggered through an outside circumstance, maybe a breakup or a failed interview and we suddenly feel the terrible fear that we are unlovable or unworthy.  Now, guess who gets the blame?  Yup, your body!   We don’t go to the source of the wound and sit with it; instead we shift our attention away from what is occurring within the body and focus on the outside aspects of the body such as size and shape as the problem.  We think “If only were nine pounds lighter, maybe he would have loved me”  or “God I’m fat, it’s probably why I didn’t get that job” and that somehow translates to us believing that losing those nine pounds will make us loveable and worthy.

We then look in the mirror and focus on the parts of our body we hate and go on an abusive rampage and plan the next fourteen day diet and fitness bootcamp.  We believe thinness equals success, control and power and that attaining thinness will mean we are worthy, loveable and adequate.  We do this in the name of distracting away from the true deep inner wound that is still sitting inside, we are living without connection to our feminine souls.   It’s an illusion, a metaphorical and destructive pattern we must break.

What is truly occurring is a desperate grasp for control when our feminine, tribal soul is rattling the cage inside.  She wants out of the cage and into your life but we have forgotten that she even exists and that we’ve caged her up.  Or we are simply terrified of what she’d do to our lives if we’d set her free.  Let’s stop the madness ladies, not just for ourselves but for our young girls who are watching us.  Let’s get down to the nitty gritty where the true discomfort lies…our souls are calling for freedom and for connection and she won’t take no for an answer anymore.  The lost feminine Goddess is awakening and she is showing up as anxiety, as restlessness, as a feeling of terror, and a spinning sensation of being out of control.   She is showing up as weigh pre-occupation, eating disorders and body hatred.  She is calling to you through depression or unknown heavy sadness that we don’t understand.  Your soul is calling for release and freedom, she wants into your life and now!

So, I invite you this week to reach your hand out to that Feminine Goddess /Tribal Woman within and take her hand.  Let her know you hear her and a willing to begin unlocking the cage she has been trapped in for years.

A Sacgrandmotherred Art Practice for the remembering the Sacred Body.

Go outside and take a walk with your body.   This is not about calorie burning, it is about being in union with your Sacred Body.  Imagine she is a Wise Women, a Grandmother of the Tribe, and she is trying to teach you and guide you.  Can you listen to her?  Can you let her guide you rather than trying to control and dominate her?  What does she say?  What does she want to tell you?  What feelings does she have and why are they important for you to know?  What are they trying to tell you and guide you? How does it feel to follow her lead and walk beside her?

Now imagine transforming into the Sacred and Wise Grandmother within your body, step as out in the world as her.  Keep walking as your Sacred Self in your Sacred Body. Notice what it feels like to walk in union and in honor of your body rather than in dominance and command of your body.  Just be with her in union and enjoy the outdoors.

Please share your experiences on the Women’s Tribe Weekly Sacred Art Practice Page.

Enjoy my friends!

Crystal

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Conversing with Your Soul – A Sacred Art Project

“SELF-PORTRAITS – A LOOK WITHIN.”

Using collage, paint, coloring, crayons or any means you wish create an image that reflects you, your soul, your deepest self.  If you were take a snap shot of who you are from within, what would that look like?  Use words, colors and images to best represent this image.

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This is my expression.  This is not so much about being perfect at art (clearly hahaha) but about expression and union with the Soul.

After creating the expression of your soul on paper…get out your journal and just let the pen flow…

  • What words come to mind when you look at your soul expression?
  • What does it feel like to look at this image, what sensations do you notice?
  • If your soul / image on the paper were to tell you something what would he/she say?
  • What does she/he need so you and her can connect more often?
  • How can you commit to his/her needs and create more regular space for her?

For me…

  • What words come to mind when you look at your soul expression? Fire, energy, color, bursting at the seems, creativity, expression, light, magic.
  • What does it feel like to look at this image, what sensations do you notice?  I feel an excitement and a restlessness, like I need to tap into this place of me.  I’ve been hit by the flu this last week so was unable to express and release my creativity as I usually do, now it’s coming out at the seems.  I feel an urgency to create and express.
  • If your soul and the image on the paper were to tell you something what would she say?  Focus, express, create.  Make time for me to dance out your hands, I have things say help me express it.
  • What does she need so you and her can connect more often?  Regular time, space, commitment, energy.
  • How can you commit to that or offer her what she needs?  Sacred Art Projects and Dream Time Circle.

I hope you enjoy.  See how the rest of your week goes and the changes in how you feel once you’ve completed this exercise. It’s amazing how things shift inside when we just pay attention to our Deepest Selves by plugging in and connecting.  That is the gift of Sacred Art- mind, body and soul unity.

I’m committing to Sunday’s at 11.11 am or 1:11 pm for Sacred Art for the Soul.  I see these two times on the clock regularly so I’ll give those times a whirl.  I hope you join me in the Dream Time on Sundays at those time and plug in to your beautiful feminine soul.

Reminder to Follow the Blog to ensure you get our weekly Sacred Art Projects.  Join the Women’s Tribe Group and share our expressions with each other.  Please honor your voice and share, it also helps other women honor their own.  Blessings and warmth.  Happy new moon 🙂

Aho! And so it is.