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9 Ways to Unplug from Busy & Soak in Your Beautiful Life.

I don’t know about you, but lately, I have been feeling like a chicken with my head cut off. I’m so busy. And with this busyness, I feel like I’m living life on autopilot, disconnected…always in my head and not in the moment. I’m missing out on the juiciness of my experiences because my to do list cycles through my brain over and over. And I’m about done with that.

So here’s some changes I’m gonna make to feel more connected, more present, and more alive in the sweet moments of my life instead of being stuck in auto-pilot gear in the brain zone. Please join me.

9 WAYS TO UNPLUG AND FEEL ALIVE IN THE MOMENT

1. I’m putting a a strict amount of online time I’m able to use on my phone, like limits for kids but for myself. It’s so easy to waste time here. So I’m creating some restrictions for myself. There are settings in your phone for time limits to do this..join me! I want to be in the moment, not cyberspace.

2. Schedule weekly creative time. I love re-purposing and painting furniture. It’s creative and in the moment and it’s the first thing I toss out the window when life gets busy. But no more. It is a scheduled event I must work around. Paint, write, sing, dance, do your hair, whatever. Just get those creative, alive juices flowing.

3. Slow down and read a book. I can’t even remember the last time I did this. When my son does his school reading, I am joining him on the couch and doing it too.

4. Just stop in the moment, at your son’s hockey game or playing outside with the kids or cooking supper and drop into your body and really feel the sensations of what you are doing. Really soak it in, be present. Feel the sensations of your body. Inhale it into your bones. This is feeling spirit in form.

5. Gratitude journal. Straight up this helps my life every time I do it, and yet I don’t do it consistently. It’s time for a gratitude commitment to really help me see all the good in my life and to savour in those lovely moments.

6. Set the mood and intention to slow down. Light some candles, infuse some oils, build a cozy fire, play some music. Turn down the lights and let your cozy space hug you like a warm, fuzzy, blanket. Relax into the cozy. Hygge it up.

7. Meditate. Truthfully, I sometimes hate when people tell you to do this, and here I am telling you to do this. I personally can’t sit and just be blank. I need an App and a guide. There are many meditation apps out there. I personally use Insight Timer and love it and its’ free! I meditate before bed. There are settings like 5 mins, 10 mins etc and different topics. It really, really does calm the nervous system into relaxation and this is a must, must, must for health and well-being. Slowing down is key.

8. Dance. Any way, any shape, any form. For five minutes, just move your body and try and open it up. Expand your arm, and feet and legs and think of releasing and opening tensions. Twist and turn and open. Stop your feet and ground into your body. Dance your feelings out. This can literally be life changing !!

9. Make sure to connect with yourself because this is how we connect to everyone and everything else. The more you are connected to yourself, the more you are able to connect with others and the beautiful life around you. Join the THE WOMEN’S TRIBE, for free emails by FOLLOWING THE BLOG for rituals and journal prompts to self-connect and feed that beautiful soul. I love, and need sacred art or journaling as part of my self connecting. I crave it, deep reflection and soul exploring stuff. www.womenshealingandspirituality.com

As this holiday season approaches and life gets even busier, let’s promise each other to take time to slow down and feed our souls. It is ESSENTIAL to our health. I have been spinning, wayyyyy too fast on the busyness train and I’m choosing to get off before my health crashes.

I hope you slow down and soak in your beautiful life.

🙂

Crystal

xo

 

 

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Full Moon Healing Ritual for Turbulent Times.

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Happy Full Moon!! These last few weeks have felt challenging, haven’t they? With mercury in retrograde, I have had many challenges with communication and deadlines, and trying to finalize plans has been an extraordinary challenge. And yet, deep down I held onto a knowing that all things shall work out as they are meant to, even though they may not turn out how I thought or planned. That’s a tough space to stay in, but I kept breathing my way back to that centred truth each time I flailed into panic or worry.

And on the flip side of that my relationship has been going through a real challenge. Many root issues have re-arisen. To be honest we may be at a make or break point and it’s scary. I feel like many of us are at this point and many relationships are being shaken loose to do what they are supposed to do…help heal us. Healing ourselves through the containers of relationships brings us closest to our Selves and the Divine.

Although this head space is hard energy to stay in and explore. Here’s what I know…I have fallen back into co-dependent patterns. I have over-stepped my boundaries trying way to hard to push my ideas of how to help my husband heal. I have tried to tell him and show him how I think he should explore his deeper Self and his untouched stuff. I have shifted my focus onto him and his flaws rather than express what I’m needing and where I’m not doing so hot. There are big pieces he has to address as well and I’m powerless in the outcome of if he does or not. He needs to for our survival and I need to do my work for our survival but the reality is this…I only have control of what I can do. The rest I have to let go; and I fucking hate that lol! I have a hard time with that. I want to force him and push him and manoeuvre him onto the healing path. And yet, it’s the one thing I can’t do. It brings up so much stuff for me too…can I trust a man to actually follow through? Will a man actually do healing work? I don’t trust men to follow through or change or heal, that is an underlying belief and pattern of stickiness for me. I am not sure I believe a man will be brave enough to step into vulnerability and face his darkness, own it and heal it and yet I know that those men do exist.

Luckily on this Full Moon, the Power Card has found its’ way to me from the Psychic Tarot by John Holland. It offers the following…

“As a spiritual being, you have unlimited power at your command. This card represents inner strength, willpower, courage, compassion, generosity and love. At any moment, these beautiful qualities can assist you in coping with an adverse condition in front of you, or the many surrounding in your life. Set aside the necessary time to resolve such issues. Power represents more than physical, external strength; it can also be channeled emotionally, mentally and spiritually. When you have balance over mind, body and soul – and with the power of spirit – anything can be overcome to achieve a positive result.

Power and Strength can be developed to work in harmony in any given situation. Every obstacle, every error helps build your knowledge and understanding of the world around you. When you make a mistake, it’s chance for you to stop, listen and ask yourself: What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? Mistakes are wake-up calls, in that they provide you with opportunities to discover your weaknesses, what needs to be changed, and which areas of your life need improving. Equally, they can blessings in disguise. Just remember: you are power!

Full Moon Healing Ritual:

So on this full moon that seems to be full of discord and disharmony and challenges….we are asked to clear the way…to go deeper and understand these challenges as learning opportunities and inner growth portals to our Divine Selves. So I invite you join me in lighting some candles, burn some incents or sage or infuse some oils and gather your pen and paper and meet me on the page.

Let us ask. (about a challenge or challenges at hand in life at the moment)…

What would inner strength say?

What would willpower say?

What would courage say?

What would compassion say?

What would love say?

What would generosity say?

And lastly….What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? (pg 42)

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With warmth and well wishes,

Crystal

And so it is,

xo

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Do a Weekly Soul Chat with These Journal Prompts.

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I feel…

I need…

I release…

I trust…

I celebrate…

I appreciate…

I call in the energy of…

I fill and surround myself with…

I am loved by…

And so it is my friends.

Have a great week!! 😘

Crystal

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A Wind Song Ritual for the Equinox

Happy Fall Equinox(or Spring depending on where you live) my friends.  This is the day when light and dark are equal.  A balance of yin and yang on our Earth Mother. I love the fall, the changing color of the leaves, the crisper feel of the air, and the call to begin the draw inward with some cozy candles and pumpkin spice. It’s a time of sweaters and boots, scarves and leggings.  I don’t know about you but I really enjoy each change of season and the changing of energies that come with them.  In Canada we feel the change of each four seasons and I absolutely love that.

So on this Fall Equinox the energy calls for a cleansing, a purifying of the air and a bringing in of the new life and energy.  We are all going through major changes at this time so I hope you find this fitting for all the transitions.

A WIND-SONG RITUAL
Open up many windows in your home and invite in the beautiful, crisp and luscious autumn air. Allow the breeze to sing a lovely transition song through your home as she cleanses the energy and brings in new light and life force during this equinox.  Call in the Great Spirit and the Great Mother, angels, fairies, spirit animals, guides and ancestors or whomever you feel connected to to help you in your ritual.  Feel the spirit of transition, manifestation and harvest in your home.  Feel how abundant you are in love and shelter. Feel the simultaneous warm and cool breeze as she caresses your cheek.

If you have, dab a bit of tea tree oil or sage oil onto your screens as a means to cleanse the air or light incense and allow the breeze to move the cleansing smoke throughout your home.

Close your eyes and hear the wind sing to you as she passes through your home.

What does she say to you?

Ask her a question ?

How does she answer?

I invite you to journal your luscious conversation with the wind.

To end the ritual, make an offering to the wind, literally or imaginatively. Perhaps it’s some tobacco or flowers or cornmeal. Maybe it’s sending loving energy or the image of hearts. Anything goes.

Sing the praises for the beauty of the wind and the change of season ahead. And so it is 😊❤️🍂🍁🌻

Enjoy your new and shifted energy.

And so it is my friends.

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Enjoy! xo

Crystal

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How to Get More Joy & Energy with this Sacred Feminine Practise.

Hello friends !!

I wanted to share a lovely Sacred Feminine practise with you that will not only increase your energy but contribute to your overall sense of well being and fulfilment.

Recently I read a blog post from Kate Northrop that talked about “body first, business second”. I love this concept as it really is a Sacred Feminine principle by focusing on well being to generate energy and productivity for life and/or business.

By making space in your weekly schedule for your body and soul first, then scheduling life around that, we create a powerful energetic message to ourselves and the Universe at large. This sacred act of “paying yourself first with your Own time and energy” really affirms to our own souls our own value, our own worth and our own importance in life. I see so many moms ( me included in previous time) that think suffering and sacrifice are equivalent to good mothering. Ummm… can we throw that old concept out the window?? That is why we are so depleted, empty and unfulfilled. I would often get resentful that there was no room for me in my own life. By taking care of ourselves first we can take care of babies and families. It is essential, really everything depends on it, we need to take this space and time for ourselves for our own health and well being. It literally affects everything/ our minds, emotions, bodies and souls. How we treat ourselves in our own lives is often reflected in our experience of life and our vitality doing it.

I get it, it can be so hard to prioritize. We pencil it in and don’t follow through. Believe me, I’ve been there and still am sometimes. But what if this practise was essential for every other part of your life??!! Think about that!!😊. Would that help us commit?

So every Sunday (or whatever day you plan your week), schedule in at least two spots in your week for you time. Ask yourself what you need… a massage? Coffee and dessert with friends? Deep conversations? Creative time ? Date night? More sleep? Whatever it may be… schedule it in and then create your to do lists and family schedules. Thank you Kate Northrop for this format!

I used to think, when I have time this week I will…paint…do yoga…go out for coffee etc. But it never happened. With three kids, the time never emerged or if it did I was too bloody tired to do anything. I had to learn to make the time emerge in my schedule by creating it and committing to it like my life depended on it. Sometimes it’s getting up early and journaling or blogging before the kids are up. Other times it’s sleeping! Who am I kidding I don’t sleep much haha.

This “Body Before Busy” ( the Triple B ) practice built into your weekly schedule affirms to yourself and the Universe that you know your value and worth. By giving yourself time and space in your own life you will feel more joyful, more fulfilled, and you will see resentment, overwhelm and even frustration begin to dissipate. You will find you’ll have more energy as when we feed our needs and nourish our feminine souls, it shows up in our health, energy and vitality.

I really feel that our relationship to our own deepest Self is central and fundamental in every other aspect of our lives. It’s reflected in everything, how we feel, what we do, what we eat, what we accept, what we don’t accept, what we choose and don’t choose and on and on and on. How we treat the inside shows up on our outside. (A mind-body principle). Our health really is a reflection of our relationship to our mind, body and souls and lack thereof.

So my friends I hope each week you participate in this lovely feminine practise and fill your own well. You will surely start to see the energetic boosts physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Isn’t this a simple yet radical shift that needs serious commitment!!

And so it is my friends. Please comment on what you have scheduled for yourself using the Body before Busy principle.

This week I have scheduled tonight some furniture painting and later this week some date night time with the hubby. We are also doing daily workouts together which has been great to make that time for ourselves and together.

Have a happy week!! New Moon tomorrow 👍🏼😊

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Xo

Crystal

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Happy New Years Gift- journal prompts to reflect and integrate this past year .

I’m not sure where these questions originated or who the original author is. If you do please share and I’ll add. I like doing these question every year around New Years. It’s so interesting to look back on and reflect. Each year is so voluptuous in learning, healing and evolvement.

Here we go….

1) What was the single best thing that happened this past year ?

2) What was the single most challenging thing that happened this past year?

3) What was an unexpected joy this year?

4) What was an unexpected obstacle ?

5) Pick 3 words to describe this past year.

6) Pick 3 words your partner would use to describe their year. ( without asking)

7) What are the best books you read this year?

8) What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this year?

9) What was your single biggest time waster this year ?

10). What was the best way you used your time this year ?

11)What is the biggest thing you’ve learned this year?

12) Create a phrase or statement that describes this past year for you.

I hope you enjoy and savour the taste of these reflections into your whole body and soul. And so it is 🙂

Happy New Year friends 🎉😘. I feel like my word for next year is expansion. Look for new offerings.. especially a return to offering healing sessions.

Crystal

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June New Moon Energy and Ritual

Chaos to calm, getting centered, finding clarity through confusion, learning, process, messages from the struggle, finding one’s way to calm and peace through the storm.

These are words that come to mind right now. It feels like a volcanic time with lots of emotional eruptions and loss of self or loss of centering. It’s a time of chaos and overwhelm to make us root back down into our selves. It’s a time of cleansing and purification, a deep learning about oneself through challenges and struggles.

I feel held and weighed down by overwhelm and I’ve let it consume me. The amount of energy coming at me has enveloped me and I’ve lost my way, I’ve lost my centre, my calm, my rooted stance. So I step back and take up more space than the chaos. I create even more space between me and the chaos and stand calmly at the centre of the storm as it swirls around me like wretched grey storm clouds spiralling in the winds. I don’t get pulled in, I just witness and stay calm, trusting that I will not get pulled in as I stand firmly in my strength and power. (Or at least remind myself over and over to go to the centre and find the calm).

I have been a ball of anxiety lately and as I sat with my anxiety I let it it become a being or a symbol. I let it speak to me as though it were it’s own energetic being. It showed up as a punk angry teenager with slicked, greasy hair, ripped jeans and a leather jacket… and it/he let me have it. It told me how angry he was and how I need to call my power and strength back rather than let it leak all over the place and move into chaos and overwhelm. It asked for structure and organization, a map for my energy. As I let its’ needs spew onto the page the heaviness lessened. I imagined walking into the overwhelm as my strongest self and allowed myself to envision an image of my inner warrior Queen. I’m wearing red, flowing clothes (for grounding I imagine ) and have diamond jewelled bindis between and above my eye browns. I’m tall and fierce and wear a head wrap around my hair. My stance is linear and majestic. I imagine being this Self with my eyes closed and allow that energy to spread and expand into my body, feeling the energy of my inner warrior Queen ooze into my blood vessels and pump throughout my body. I savour the breaths of this energy.

I stand and breathe in this place and invite you to do the same. Invite your struggles to speak to you. Close your eyes and imagine your challenge were a being. What does it look like? Old or young? Male, female, animal or nature? What colours or unique qualities do you notice. Let it tell you what it is trying to say through your body… perhaps you just want to write for five minutes (timed) and free flow without letting your pen leave the page. Hear your struggle and assure it you will do your part to ease the symptoms .

Call in a feeling of harmony, love, peace, calm, strength or whatever you need and imagine it to be a golden ball of light spreading and expanding through your body. Savour the breaths and breathe it in.

“This current challenge or struggle is here to strengthen you. It is a process of strengthening and learning of heart, body and soul. You are preparing for your “real work ” . This is simply the preparation, so embrace the learning.” ( a message from my guides).

Happy New Moon 😘

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A Simple Dark Moon Ritual

dark moonToday we celebrate the dark moon energy.  The final days before the New Moon where we reflect, contemplate, and go inward.  I am always low energy during this time, my body is intuitively trying to guide me into quiet contemplation.  I have been struggling with a lingering cold or flu that keeps coming and going.  I feel like it is a continuance of the purging, the dying, ending of some old energy.

So today we keep it simple.  Reflect back at the New Moon, what were your goals and intentions for this moon cycle?  What came about during the process?  It was a time of new beginnings and beginning to labour new life and simultaneously go through death of the old this past month.  It was intense, lots of energy, energy dying and energy coming alive.  Phewf!

So reflect, take in, absorb and release at this dark moon.  Maybe go back and explore what we were is process of birthing and and hold your belly while we are still laboring.  Write to it, talk to it, sit with it, hold it and talk it through the birth process. What does it need from you?

What has the labouring felt like?

What has hindered the labour?

What have been the labour pains?

Is the name of this new “creative baby” clear?

Do you feel like you know what you are birthing or is it a surprise when it comes?

A Simple Ritual:

Light a candle, sit in silence, run a bath.  Just do something where you can sit with your intuition, the voice of the Divine Feminine within you.  Set a timer 15 minutes if you must and hide out in the bathroom.  Just do something.  Doodle, write and allow the life (actual or creative) inside you to speak to you.  Let it guide you in the birthing process.  For me I doodle and draw images that come and write.  Get quiet, listen and hear the silent whispers, images and instincts guiding you.

Maybe you want to draw upon some tarot cards, angel cards or power cards to guide you in this time as well.  Just connect to the Divine in silence, prayer and visioning.

Align your energy with Grandmother Moon and see your dreams, desires and visions manifest.

And so it is.

Xo

Crystal

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Celebrating The Beauty of Your Ordinary – Today’s Sacred Task

ordinary“I ask for the wisdom to appreciate the sparkle of my child’s ordinariness… I ask for a reminder of my own ordinariness and the ability to bask in its beauty.” Shefali Tsabary – The Conscious Parent.

Reading this shot an arrow into my heart.  I struggled with eating disorders and an addiction to perfectionism for many years.  I was obsessed with being the best at everything I did like it were a drug that kept my sense of worth and value out of withdrawal.  I didn’t believe who I was was enough or quite frankly even important.  It’s not because I had bad parents its’ because we live in a culture that only celebrates success, achievement and accomplishment and when you are solely seen for your actions and endeavors you get a complex.  We all want recognition and validation.  We all want to be seen and heard and appreciated.  Why does it need to come in the form of a success?

Let’s change this for ourselves and for our children.  Let’s “bask in the beauty” of ordinary.  I love that!

We don’t celebrate the ordinary, simple, beautiful aspects of being.  Nobody celebrates your messy cooking process (which I call my creativity in the kitchen) or your sweet gentle soul rubbing the backs of your children before they go to sleep each night.  Let’s do that!  Let’s celebrate our ordinary ways of being.  Let’s even celebrate our mediocre skills.  It’s uniquely, wonderfully you.  I suck at laundry, and I can own it, laugh at it and just enjoy that fun, quirky fact.

When I was doing some intense healing work on myself I forced myself to step out of perfectionism box by having a goal to not try and be the best and I forced myself to not try my best because my best was full tilt, way past my limits and a give all to get all kind of approach. I’d lose my balance, my well-being, my marbles…just to end up on top and feel like I was enough.  I was foaming at the mouth for a sense of worth and esteem.  So I set my sights on a new target….I wanted to be middle of the pack.  I didn’t want to be the best, instead be average. It was freeing, I actually starting enjoying what I was doing.  I could take a run with no time limits or distance markers to accomplish, I could just move my body and run freely.  It brought me back in my body, in the moment, in the experience and not the outcome.  I could play baseball and drop the ball without feel ashamed or embarrassed, I could be gentler and laugh.  My success was no longer my lifeline and it allowed fun to move in.

But hoowahhhh! It was also tough.  It allowed my true wounds and holes to emerge so I could heal them, not soothe them with a medal or academic achievement.  That’s when true and lasting change happened.

So today, let’s celebrate our ordinariness, our average skills or aspects of the self. Let’s celebrate the ordinary things we do each day that perhaps are not celebrated or recognized and shift the idea that who we are is what we do.  Our beingness, our intimate connections, our soul connections are just as, if not more important, in the world than what we do.  People will remember who you were, how you made them feel, your qualities, not what you did in this life.

Today’s Sacred Task:

Celebrate your ordinary.  Own it like a beautiful new scarf and flaunt it for us.  Share what you’ve got. Find at least 8 wonderfully, beautiful ordinary things about yourself and shine the light on it:  Your beingness is just as important in the word, the unseen, unnoticed things that make the world go round.  Start celebrating for yourself and see what happens 🙂

Here’s a few aspects of my beautiful ordinary:

1) I try and paint beautiful pictures but truthfully, I’m not that great at it.  It’s fun trying!

2) I’m messy in the kitchen when I cook and have learned to call it my creative process and taught my husband to call it the same 😉

3) I thrive in organized chaos, my work desk is always this way.

4) I love going for walks in the woods with my son, it’s simple and ordinary and awesome.

5) I let my son beat me more often than not at Trouble or card games.

6) I’m romantic, I buy flowers and write notes to my husband on rainy days and Mondays.

7) I hate cleaning, I’d way rather cut the grass or shovel the driveway, heck even take out the garbage.

8) I pretend I’m a world famous singer and lip sync like a bat out of hell while I cook supper.  Pink has because my alter ego.

It’s your turn…

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This is Day 17 of the 30 Day Challenge 🙂

Crystal

xo

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Today’s Challenge – Stretch Your Happy!

happy“Happiness is not ready made.  It comes from your own actions.”  The Dalai Lama.

Don’t you wish happiness would just find itself in your life, like a magical spell from the butt end of a magic stick and boom…happiness and bliss.   Awe well, we know that’s not how she works!

You gotta make yourself happy, you have to approach life how She is and hug it out. Embrace it.  Love it.  Own it like you are trusting the Divine Plan for you and your soul.

I know, I know, you are not in the best job, maybe not in the best relationship or making the best amount of money.  I say, own it! Love it! Indulge and roll around in what is like it was the best, most perfect scenario for you at this moment.  Love it like it were a special letter sent from the Divine directly to you.  Would you receive it lovingly or demand more?

Now this doesn’t mean we can’t want more or be on a path towards our ultimate.  Yes, let’s do that…definitely!!  All I’m saying is don’t hate the stepping stone you are on at this time.  In fact, I’m saying love it with all your might.

Happiness is a choice, an action, a decision to see with ultimate trust in the Divine plan for you, or you can put on the ugly, fugly, grumpy glasses and choose another sight.  Are you a bowl of cherries or a well of negativity?

When I first go divorced I had to take some jobs that I didn’t love just so I could support myself and my new baby out on my own.  I could have been bitter, and truthfully there may have been days I was, but I chose to appreciate what those jobs offered me at the time knowing they would not be my forever jobs.  I didn’t always feel great doing them or at the end of the day felt depleted but instead of feeding into that negativity, that pitty party, I would did deep and journal (well at least on most days).  Sometimes I’d have to journal mid tears, in my car at lunch hour to remind myself that this is not permanent and there are gifts among the challenge.  My tear drops would hit the pages as I’d refocus my soul on the good in the less than great scenario.  I tell ya, those challenging experiences fed my confidence and trust in myself like nothing else could.  I am far more secure and confident in life and the universe as a whole as well as in my instincts than I ever was because of those less than ideal situations.

Amidst the painful and even dreadful days at times, I’d journal on what the jobs did provide me such as a solid income to pay my rent, bills, food, car, diapers, etc.  It provided me stability while I worked on building a new foundation with life out on my own, now with a child.  It gave me freedom to leave my unhealthy, hurtful marriage.

There is happiness everywhere if we can choose to clean the dirt off the gem we are holding in our hands.

Even now, I struggle in relationships, I’m an airy, fairy who loves her freedom.  I need it.  I hate being tied down, I’ve actually grown to be too independent, that I’ve at times closed my heart.  I’ve used independence as a shield, as a defense, as a protection for not needing anybody.  Relationships are my portals to soften my heart, ask for help, soften my protection and ultimately heal my wound in trusting men to be loving, consistent, caring, solid creatures that will love and protect.

So that means, my relationship isn’t perfect because it’s a container of my healing, it’s mirroring to me my sore spots and areas I need more work.  I shall repeat, it ain’t perfect. Haha!  I get in my airy, fairy mode and at times crave being on my own, not because I don’t love my new husband, but because it is my defense.  It’s my comfort zone, I like full blown wing expanding freedom to soar out in the world my way, on my terms and on my own clock.  It’s easier, more self indulgent, more me, me, me.  So when I get all crotchedy in my relationship I journal the gift of it.  What great things does it bring?  What am I learning and healing in this moment?  Maybe it’s how to properly express myself, or voice my needs or learning to be less selfish. Is it always easy…hell no! As I’m sure many of you can relate. It takes work, commitment, sacrifice, attention, presence, choice, action, responsibility.  All those things that are not always a walk in the park.

However, this marriage, this relationship, this man, has provided me with the most amount of love, of healing, of consistency or trust than I have ever had in my lifetime.  The gifts of this marriage far out weigh life on my own with my airy, fairy wings never fully committing to anything.  Isn’t that what it’s all about?  I’ll learning to balance my gypsy soul while being a wife and mother.  It’s redefining womanhood for me.  And you know what, it’s what sparks my soul!  It is my art…learning to live as a wild, tribal, vibrant soul in this modern day world.  It’s redefining traditional roles into new realms, new expansions, new expressions.  It`s discovering how to walk with Aliveness even in the mundane. It’s redefining Feminine and everything that goes with it.  It’s powerful and intense and blissful and dreadful and everything in between.  Now that’s happiness!

So happiness is perhaps a choice, an embracing of the gifts and lessons we are learning in this precious moment with people, circumstances, scenarios that can help our souls heal and expand out into the world.  It’s about squeezing the good, happy juices out of whatever circumstance that is less than perfect in our minds. The Divine offers us these moments and realities as gateways to the next stone.  When you learn the lessons and gifts and find the joy on the leap pad you are on, you get to move on forward, it’s simply universal law.

Journal Prompts of the Day for Your Wild, Luscious, Soulful Self: 

So stretch your happy muscles and find the good, no the great in the challenging circumstances. Where are you struggling and what are the gifts of the struggles or the imperfections in your work, love life, financial situation or boring old routine? Do share!! 🙂

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That is today’s Day 16 of the 30 Day Wild, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  (Had some technical difficulties yesterday, sorry folks)

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