Uncategorized

A Delightful and Simple April New Moon Ritual.

The new moon has arrived after a tumultuous month of retrogrades and chaos and unearthing of what was/is unhealed within us.  

As I sit with the energy of this moon I keep hearing the word JOY.  Joy, joy, joy.  It’s funny cause one of my good pals and I were discussing how to create more joy in the busyness of raising kids, cooking dinners, soccer, homework etc.  Sometimes the responsibilities of life mutes the colours of joy as we get caught in the web of routine.

I was brought back to the simple question of… “what makes me joyful.” And this is something I really need to discover cause to be honest I don’t quite know.  I know what used to but life has changed and it’s something I need to explore again.

A Delightful New Moon Ritual

So on this new moon I invite you to join me in taking some quiet and sacred space, light a candle, have a cup of tea and put the word JOY at the centre of your page.  Take a few centering breaths and just free flow with what makes you joyful… no thinking just pen flowing and see what comes.

Make a commitment to create pockets of joy in your life.  Maybe throughout the day you take ten minute increments in doing something that ignites your joy or makes you laugh or settles and soothes your soul.

And so it is my friends

Xo

Crystal 

Uncategorized

Today’s Challenge – Stretch Your Happy!

happy“Happiness is not ready made.  It comes from your own actions.”  The Dalai Lama.

Don’t you wish happiness would just find itself in your life, like a magical spell from the butt end of a magic stick and boom…happiness and bliss.   Awe well, we know that’s not how she works!

You gotta make yourself happy, you have to approach life how She is and hug it out. Embrace it.  Love it.  Own it like you are trusting the Divine Plan for you and your soul.

I know, I know, you are not in the best job, maybe not in the best relationship or making the best amount of money.  I say, own it! Love it! Indulge and roll around in what is like it was the best, most perfect scenario for you at this moment.  Love it like it were a special letter sent from the Divine directly to you.  Would you receive it lovingly or demand more?

Now this doesn’t mean we can’t want more or be on a path towards our ultimate.  Yes, let’s do that…definitely!!  All I’m saying is don’t hate the stepping stone you are on at this time.  In fact, I’m saying love it with all your might.

Happiness is a choice, an action, a decision to see with ultimate trust in the Divine plan for you, or you can put on the ugly, fugly, grumpy glasses and choose another sight.  Are you a bowl of cherries or a well of negativity?

When I first go divorced I had to take some jobs that I didn’t love just so I could support myself and my new baby out on my own.  I could have been bitter, and truthfully there may have been days I was, but I chose to appreciate what those jobs offered me at the time knowing they would not be my forever jobs.  I didn’t always feel great doing them or at the end of the day felt depleted but instead of feeding into that negativity, that pitty party, I would did deep and journal (well at least on most days).  Sometimes I’d have to journal mid tears, in my car at lunch hour to remind myself that this is not permanent and there are gifts among the challenge.  My tear drops would hit the pages as I’d refocus my soul on the good in the less than great scenario.  I tell ya, those challenging experiences fed my confidence and trust in myself like nothing else could.  I am far more secure and confident in life and the universe as a whole as well as in my instincts than I ever was because of those less than ideal situations.

Amidst the painful and even dreadful days at times, I’d journal on what the jobs did provide me such as a solid income to pay my rent, bills, food, car, diapers, etc.  It provided me stability while I worked on building a new foundation with life out on my own, now with a child.  It gave me freedom to leave my unhealthy, hurtful marriage.

There is happiness everywhere if we can choose to clean the dirt off the gem we are holding in our hands.

Even now, I struggle in relationships, I’m an airy, fairy who loves her freedom.  I need it.  I hate being tied down, I’ve actually grown to be too independent, that I’ve at times closed my heart.  I’ve used independence as a shield, as a defense, as a protection for not needing anybody.  Relationships are my portals to soften my heart, ask for help, soften my protection and ultimately heal my wound in trusting men to be loving, consistent, caring, solid creatures that will love and protect.

So that means, my relationship isn’t perfect because it’s a container of my healing, it’s mirroring to me my sore spots and areas I need more work.  I shall repeat, it ain’t perfect. Haha!  I get in my airy, fairy mode and at times crave being on my own, not because I don’t love my new husband, but because it is my defense.  It’s my comfort zone, I like full blown wing expanding freedom to soar out in the world my way, on my terms and on my own clock.  It’s easier, more self indulgent, more me, me, me.  So when I get all crotchedy in my relationship I journal the gift of it.  What great things does it bring?  What am I learning and healing in this moment?  Maybe it’s how to properly express myself, or voice my needs or learning to be less selfish. Is it always easy…hell no! As I’m sure many of you can relate. It takes work, commitment, sacrifice, attention, presence, choice, action, responsibility.  All those things that are not always a walk in the park.

However, this marriage, this relationship, this man, has provided me with the most amount of love, of healing, of consistency or trust than I have ever had in my lifetime.  The gifts of this marriage far out weigh life on my own with my airy, fairy wings never fully committing to anything.  Isn’t that what it’s all about?  I’ll learning to balance my gypsy soul while being a wife and mother.  It’s redefining womanhood for me.  And you know what, it’s what sparks my soul!  It is my art…learning to live as a wild, tribal, vibrant soul in this modern day world.  It’s redefining traditional roles into new realms, new expansions, new expressions.  It`s discovering how to walk with Aliveness even in the mundane. It’s redefining Feminine and everything that goes with it.  It’s powerful and intense and blissful and dreadful and everything in between.  Now that’s happiness!

So happiness is perhaps a choice, an embracing of the gifts and lessons we are learning in this precious moment with people, circumstances, scenarios that can help our souls heal and expand out into the world.  It’s about squeezing the good, happy juices out of whatever circumstance that is less than perfect in our minds. The Divine offers us these moments and realities as gateways to the next stone.  When you learn the lessons and gifts and find the joy on the leap pad you are on, you get to move on forward, it’s simply universal law.

Journal Prompts of the Day for Your Wild, Luscious, Soulful Self: 

So stretch your happy muscles and find the good, no the great in the challenging circumstances. Where are you struggling and what are the gifts of the struggles or the imperfections in your work, love life, financial situation or boring old routine? Do share!! 🙂

Join us on the Women’s Tribe Facebook Page or Feed Your Feminine Soul Group Page. and share your entries, experiences, learning.

That is today’s Day 16 of the 30 Day Wild, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  (Had some technical difficulties yesterday, sorry folks)

If you feel called to do so, add your email to get notifications on tools, rituals and sacred art tasks to feed your Divine Feminine soul 🙂

Uncategorized

A Quick And Easy Way to Re-Ignite the Love in Your Marriage. All you need is 5 Minutes.

loveI’m going to let you all in on a little secret.  I read an article just yesterday about the secret to a long lasting marriage.  You know what it was….kindness!  Can you believe the simplicity in that?!  However, it is simultaneously complex because sometimes it’s hard to be kind to the person that can push ALL of your buttons.

It takes some conscious effort to be intentionally kind and thoughtful in our marriages.  It’s easy to overlook and forget the good when life is busy and stressful.  It’s easier to dump out the emotions on our loved one’s for their tiredness or laziness and spear them with complaints how they always fall short or fail us.  I’m guilty, I’ve done it.  I usually do it when my own love tank is empty.  It’s easy to take for granted our significant other and focus on what they do wrong rather then ask for what we need.  But negativity only breeds negativity.

So here’ s a quick little habit I’ve been getting into lately that is really changing my life and transforming my relationship.  It started because of an awful dream I had where my husband left me for an unattractive but kind and loving woman because I was too crotchity and demanding, I always pointed out his flaws rather than appreciate his good.  He said he couldn’t take it anymore and just wanted to feel loved.  It was awful, I woke up changed, burdened, scared and refocused on making sure he knows how much I love him and appreciate the beautiful parts of him I fell in love with.  That unconscious mind is a powerful tool!

Here’s what ya do…

Each morning write 5 things you love about yourself and why.  Let’s get real and responsible here and know that we need to fill our own love tanks too.  So go ahead and toot your own horn! To start your day with five sentences that start with, “I love myself for…” will truly change your life. It’s necessary to appreciate yourself, it builds confidence and self-esteem. If you can’t love and appreciate yourself, you will not be able to receive the love of others. So bring attention to and list your wondrous accomplishments and sweet, nice, loving things you did as a wife, mother, friend or daughter. That’s right, celebrate your good and bright stuff because you simply deserve it. It will feed your self worth and confidence.

Now, do the same for your significant other and remember why you fell in love with this person.  Go on, write those 5 fabulous things about your honey and don’t forget the “why” of your statements.  Maybe you remember how gentle he was with your son yesterday or how how she brought you home a coffee after work or how often he tells you how beautiful he thinks you are. Write down the love, remember it, savour it, wrap yourself in the caress of its presence. You’ll find that as you focus on the good, sweet, and luscious moments in your relationship and of your “boo”, you won’t be so bothered or annoyed when they leave their boots in the middle of the entrance way or the toothpaste cap on the sink. It will roll off your back because you are full and focused on love.  Your memory of their acts of love and amazing qualities and will be present when those less attractive habits show up.  Then you realize they simply are not that important or that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things and in the big picture of your loving relationship.   And remember, you got those unattractive habits too so be gentle.  😉

Side note…you can do this for each one of your kids too and see how you are more calm, grounded and patient when the toilet plugs and there’s cereal all over the floor.

Join me and make yourself a Love Journal.

love2

Enjoy

xo

Crystal