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3 Gratitude Exercises for Thanksgiving.

loveAs I sit here on Thanksgiving Sunday (in Canada), I’m brought back to a time in my life that I lost everything…my house, my dogs, my marriage, my job. I simply had my son and a new start in a small apartment.  The slate was wiped clean and I was brought back closest to Source, closest to my truest Self, closest with the meaning of life.  It wasn’t things, it was health, love and family.  I felt most grateful at that time in my life, I survived. I felt closest to the Universe, to Creation, to love in the Divine World.  It’s so easy to forgot how abundant we truly are, especially when so much good happens in our life or life gets routine.  But my friends, routine is a gift.

So here are 3 small “Thanks” Giving exercises (gratitude) to remind ourselves of the glory of life.

  1. List 5 or 10 wonderful things in your life but don’t just list them, list why they are so wonderful.  I’m so thankful for my healthy kids because I know several people right now who have kids with illness and I can’t imagine, I’m so lucky.   I’m so grateful for food in the fridge and a roof over my head because many hurricane survivors don’t right now.  I’m grateful for gathering with friends and family because there are people out there who are alone.  I’m grateful for my baby’s cry because I know he is healthy enough to do so.  I’m grateful for my husband’s job, even though he is away working from us right now we are being provided for with it.  I’m grateful for the time I have home with my baby, even though it is tough because many people don’t get a full year and time will fly by, I’ll never have this precious time with him again.  I’m grateful for the quiet and stillness of where we live, I feel like it’s my own private, cozy retreat and I am so blessed.

 

  1. Take a look outside and be kissed by the beauty of the Earth Mother.  Yesterday driving home I was in awe of the beautiful yellow leaves that created a picturesque tree line along the highway. Gorgeous!  I felt like the beauty I was witnessing was a kiss from the Divine.  Think of all those leaves that have fallen and the journey they took this year from a bud in spring into a completed expression on the ground.  Think of how magically that tree survives each changing season, how it stands tall and gathers itself in the frigid winters and yet still comes back to life in spring.

 

  1. Indulge in what makes you happy.  Ignite your senses. Joy is contagious so spread it around by being joyful 🙂  Light some lovely smelling candles for the fall season…cinnamon, pumpkin, apple and just breathe in the lovely scents.  Let it remind you of fun memories of the fall season. Enjoy all those lovely senses, the smell of tea, coffee, baking bread, the fall colors, the crisp cool fall air, a cozy fire, a fine tasting wine.  Savour and enjoy all the small wonderous things life has to offer 🙂  (Also kisses from the Divine) 🙂

Happy Thanksgiving y’all.   I hope you bask in all the glory you have in your life 🙂  So many blessings to all of you who read my words, I am so blessed, humbled and grateful to you all.

xo

Crystal

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A Slew of Harvest Full Moon Rituals.

harvest-moonOmg! Have you seen the glorious, radiant full moon light?  Wowzers!  Beauty She is.  This is a full moon and lunar eclipse in Pisces so were are in for a surge of emotions here, intense stuff for many.  Those pestering, lingering, unresolved emotions of ahhh…life – are here at the surface so let’s honor those teachers…yes?!

This full moon is also known as the Harvest Moon when crops are harvested and all the seeds we planted have come into fruition.  So this moon ritual will be two fold.

To start, I must say on this full moon day, I feel a bit pent-up, restless, anxious, like things are brewing on the inside.  I feel like the cork just may pop off and yet I’m not quite sure what feelings are there trying for my attention, I simply know that the restless, anxious energy is a call inward to what lies under the leaves of anxiety.

This full moon in watery, emotional Pisces invites us to swim into our emotions, to greet them so we may learn and heal from these sacred messengers.  We need to get them out of our bodies, our bones, our ligaments and organs and we do so by expressing them in some manner so their energies don’t restrict and tighten up in our bodies and lead to illness (we are approaching cold season).  They call for fluidity and release.  Surrender to them rather than fight against them, they are here to guide you, to teach you, to show you the way.

Here are 3 Ways to Express Your Emotions – Part 1 of the Ritual.

  •  Write a letter to someone who you have been struggling with.  What’s there.  Release it all, say what you need to say and put pen to paper.  You will not mail or send this, this is for you to release and acknowledge true feelings that are lurking around so you can get some clarity and freedom from the emotional baggage.
  • Grab some crayons and just start spewing words on a sheet of paper that come to mind.  Annoyed, frustrated, hurt, disgusted, finished, done, complete….you get the picture.  Spew out those feeling like an emotional purge and just see them there on the paper outside of you.  Include thoughts or images that come to mind, even scribbles or doodles, just get it out!!
  • Dance it out! Put on a faster pace tempo song and Taylor Swift it by “Shaking it Off”.  Literally imagine shaking out your feelings through your hands, by swaying your body, by kicking and stomping your feet.  Dance your anger, dance your sorrow, dance your hurt or frustration.  This is so amazing when you dance with that intention, let it be a movement meditation or better yet, a raw full blown release of what is there in whatever form your body naturally and spontaneously moves.

Part 2 Ritual – Gratitude & Awareness

And lastly, it is that special time of Harvest, the time when we are hopefully most bountiful.  The thoughts of gratitude come to mind and also an awareness of which “crops” did not grow.  First take some moments to list at least 5 wonderful things in your life right now and why they are wonderful.

I’m grateful for………..because…….

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List all the magic that you seen and feel in your life... (the changing colors of leaves, the cold and warm air, the smell of pumpkin spice, candles, my son’s smile, the humour my oldest son carries,etc).

I invite you to do a collage of all the wonderful things you’ve harvested this year on one sheet and on anothe to collage crops would you like to keep growing, or grow next year?  What “crops” didn’t grow that you’d like in your life and really explore how to better grow them this coming year or season.  What can you do differently in your harvesting process?

 

Enjoy this magical Harvest Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse.  Emotionally release then gather up all that gratitude for the wonder alongside the dark stuff.  That is life, ain’t it 😉

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xo

Crystal

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10 Ways to Spread Love in this Time of Sorrow.

loveIn my morning pages I spewed out the heavy grief I feel for the violence and lives lost in Orlando.  I just don’t understand hate or violence.  It shreds my insides like a butcher to ground meat.  I don’t know what to do with this heavy ball of grief, anger and sorrow blasting around inside of me.  As I wrote I got some inner guidance…SPREAD THE LOVE.  IN THE FACE OF HATE, SPREAD LOVE.  #spreadthelove

So here are some ways that thought I could spread the love. (Join me, create your own love list, or use my ideas, like just spread it around like butter on bread and remember there is still so much love and good in the world).

I remember reading this article (I’m not sure who wrote it or what it was titled) but it had an exercise in it called the Victory Log.  At the end of the day you make a victory log about how you went that extra mile in the day, small acts of kindness and good choices.  It also included accomplishments but I think we shall keep in the love, kindness, good choices and helpful department.

10 Ways to Express Love in the World (Ok actually like 15 ! lol)

Actually pick up the phone and call your grandma, your friends, your sister or whomever needs a pick me up and chat.

-Let someone at the restaurant know that the washroom is out of toilet paper so the person after you doesn’t have to well, um…suffer.

-Smile at people you pass by today.

-Be extra attentive and present with your kids, significant other, friends, etc.  Really listen and be in the moment with them. Connect.

-Go the extra mile, light some candles, make an extra special dinner, buy some flowers or coffee, or cake.  Make today count.

-Make your kids an extra special after school snack like a smoothie rather than a tube of yogurt and imagine it filled with your love.  Watch them sip it in.

-Send someone you love a card and letter.

-Visit someone you know might need your help (your friend who just had a baby or your widowed aunt).

-Set the intent to really bring love into whatever you are doing, whether it be positivity in the workplace, friendliness to a worker, making a super fun game for your kids.

-Be love, spread love, invite love in to your everyday spaces.  Say loving words, be affectionate, show appreciation, be kind, caring, adoring.  Send a loved one a loving text message about all you love about them and why.

-Connect, cuddle, hug, enjoy those you love.  Like really soak it in how lucky you are to have loving friends and family and be grateful today.  It’s so easy to take for granted, but today, soak in the gratitude and love.

-Make a gratitude list.

Pick up the garbage you see on the street.  Care for Mother Earth and show her. 

Water and weed your flower beds with love and appreciation for all the beauty in the world.

-Donate blood or money to a charity close to your heart or to the food bank.

-Do something good today.  Share with us what it is.

 

Okay, I’ll stop there.  But friends, lets’ unite and be the love we want to see in our world.  Spread it in your everyday life, no grand gesture or act needed but intent, appreciation, gratitude and giving back.  Connect to your community, unite, hold space,hug your family, spread the love!!!  Share your ideas…please!!!! 🙂

 

And so it is.

xo

Crystal

 

 

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Today’s Challenge – Stretch Your Happy!

happy“Happiness is not ready made.  It comes from your own actions.”  The Dalai Lama.

Don’t you wish happiness would just find itself in your life, like a magical spell from the butt end of a magic stick and boom…happiness and bliss.   Awe well, we know that’s not how she works!

You gotta make yourself happy, you have to approach life how She is and hug it out. Embrace it.  Love it.  Own it like you are trusting the Divine Plan for you and your soul.

I know, I know, you are not in the best job, maybe not in the best relationship or making the best amount of money.  I say, own it! Love it! Indulge and roll around in what is like it was the best, most perfect scenario for you at this moment.  Love it like it were a special letter sent from the Divine directly to you.  Would you receive it lovingly or demand more?

Now this doesn’t mean we can’t want more or be on a path towards our ultimate.  Yes, let’s do that…definitely!!  All I’m saying is don’t hate the stepping stone you are on at this time.  In fact, I’m saying love it with all your might.

Happiness is a choice, an action, a decision to see with ultimate trust in the Divine plan for you, or you can put on the ugly, fugly, grumpy glasses and choose another sight.  Are you a bowl of cherries or a well of negativity?

When I first go divorced I had to take some jobs that I didn’t love just so I could support myself and my new baby out on my own.  I could have been bitter, and truthfully there may have been days I was, but I chose to appreciate what those jobs offered me at the time knowing they would not be my forever jobs.  I didn’t always feel great doing them or at the end of the day felt depleted but instead of feeding into that negativity, that pitty party, I would did deep and journal (well at least on most days).  Sometimes I’d have to journal mid tears, in my car at lunch hour to remind myself that this is not permanent and there are gifts among the challenge.  My tear drops would hit the pages as I’d refocus my soul on the good in the less than great scenario.  I tell ya, those challenging experiences fed my confidence and trust in myself like nothing else could.  I am far more secure and confident in life and the universe as a whole as well as in my instincts than I ever was because of those less than ideal situations.

Amidst the painful and even dreadful days at times, I’d journal on what the jobs did provide me such as a solid income to pay my rent, bills, food, car, diapers, etc.  It provided me stability while I worked on building a new foundation with life out on my own, now with a child.  It gave me freedom to leave my unhealthy, hurtful marriage.

There is happiness everywhere if we can choose to clean the dirt off the gem we are holding in our hands.

Even now, I struggle in relationships, I’m an airy, fairy who loves her freedom.  I need it.  I hate being tied down, I’ve actually grown to be too independent, that I’ve at times closed my heart.  I’ve used independence as a shield, as a defense, as a protection for not needing anybody.  Relationships are my portals to soften my heart, ask for help, soften my protection and ultimately heal my wound in trusting men to be loving, consistent, caring, solid creatures that will love and protect.

So that means, my relationship isn’t perfect because it’s a container of my healing, it’s mirroring to me my sore spots and areas I need more work.  I shall repeat, it ain’t perfect. Haha!  I get in my airy, fairy mode and at times crave being on my own, not because I don’t love my new husband, but because it is my defense.  It’s my comfort zone, I like full blown wing expanding freedom to soar out in the world my way, on my terms and on my own clock.  It’s easier, more self indulgent, more me, me, me.  So when I get all crotchedy in my relationship I journal the gift of it.  What great things does it bring?  What am I learning and healing in this moment?  Maybe it’s how to properly express myself, or voice my needs or learning to be less selfish. Is it always easy…hell no! As I’m sure many of you can relate. It takes work, commitment, sacrifice, attention, presence, choice, action, responsibility.  All those things that are not always a walk in the park.

However, this marriage, this relationship, this man, has provided me with the most amount of love, of healing, of consistency or trust than I have ever had in my lifetime.  The gifts of this marriage far out weigh life on my own with my airy, fairy wings never fully committing to anything.  Isn’t that what it’s all about?  I’ll learning to balance my gypsy soul while being a wife and mother.  It’s redefining womanhood for me.  And you know what, it’s what sparks my soul!  It is my art…learning to live as a wild, tribal, vibrant soul in this modern day world.  It’s redefining traditional roles into new realms, new expansions, new expressions.  It`s discovering how to walk with Aliveness even in the mundane. It’s redefining Feminine and everything that goes with it.  It’s powerful and intense and blissful and dreadful and everything in between.  Now that’s happiness!

So happiness is perhaps a choice, an embracing of the gifts and lessons we are learning in this precious moment with people, circumstances, scenarios that can help our souls heal and expand out into the world.  It’s about squeezing the good, happy juices out of whatever circumstance that is less than perfect in our minds. The Divine offers us these moments and realities as gateways to the next stone.  When you learn the lessons and gifts and find the joy on the leap pad you are on, you get to move on forward, it’s simply universal law.

Journal Prompts of the Day for Your Wild, Luscious, Soulful Self: 

So stretch your happy muscles and find the good, no the great in the challenging circumstances. Where are you struggling and what are the gifts of the struggles or the imperfections in your work, love life, financial situation or boring old routine? Do share!! 🙂

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That is today’s Day 16 of the 30 Day Wild, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  (Had some technical difficulties yesterday, sorry folks)

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Returning to our Wild, Primal Ways – Day 13 of the 30 Day Challenge.

candleI had an earlier post but for some reason hesitated to post it.  Returning from the grocery store, a new message found me and I shall share.

I went into town to get some groceries.  I struggled cause I am not feeling great. I even sat in the truck for a few minutes and gathered up enough energy just to go in.  The task of putting a quarter in the grocery cart then pushing it around seemed daunting.  However, my family needs food, so I did what I had to do. 😉

So there I am drudging along between aisles then all of a sudden…darkness!  The power went out.  Can you believe that!! It stayed out the entire time I shopped.  I had to try and find a good fruit by feel, not by sight.  I shopped in darkness the entire time. It really got me thinking so much about…

a) the amount we depend on electricity and

b) how luxurious my life is and how much I take it for granted.

I thought about how the grocers would keep the meat and dairy cold if the power stayed out for a long while and even how I’d pay my grocery bill without the debit machine.  I hadn’t even contemplated that I’d have to manually put my groceries in front of the cashier as the belt to move them forward wouldn’t work without electricity.  Nor did I think about how I’d get my large, semi size cart out of the store when the automatic doors stopped working and I had to manually push them open while pulling what seemed like a diesel truck style grocery cart out simultaneously.  Funny!

Wow, how much do we literally take for granted?  I feel a touch guilty, even slightly embarrassed…dare I even say lazy?

I thought how much luxury I have just for having electricity and I wondered how my grandma’s survived with no running water, or electricity with babies.  Amazing, strong, tough women I tell ya!

So, maybe just for today…notice the gift of electrical current running through our homes.  Think of how much life would be different with out such a gift.  Where would we store our groceries?  What would we do without a TV?  How would we live differently?  It pulls out a fun, wild, primal part of me when I reflect.

A part of me feels guilty for how lazy and dependent I’ve become on these luxuries and another part of me craves the simplicity of that life.  Can you imagine how much we wouldn’t need gyms or exercise routines because we were manually doing everything from hauling groceries, canning vegetables for the year, prepping and preserving meats, likely even hunting them (with all the love and gratitude in the world of course).  Imagine using candles instead of light switches, fires instead of stoves, wash boards instead of washing machines!!

What if today, we soaked in all of our luxuries, imagining…wondering, if we’d be doing what we are doing if we didn’t have access to electricity?  How might life be different?  What are some of the luxuries you get to enjoy and likely take for granted that our grandparents did not?  This is today’s journal prompt.

I’m humbled, grateful and will be more conscious of the gifts I have in this lifetime.

What would it be like to live without power for an evening?  Give it a whirl?  It happened to us once in the past year when the power went out for 5 hours.  Luckily we had a fireplace, candles and flashlights.  We played games and hide and seek and connected in the most primal way.  It was beautiful.

What would it be like to live a more primal, raw, life?

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Xo

Crystal

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Today’s Challenge – Find 13 Extraordinary Moments in the Ordinary.

coffee2Howdy folks.  Today we are on day 12 of the 30 Day Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  Woooohooooo.  How we feeling??

Today’s Challenge: 

Today we find 13 extra-ordinary things in the ordinary.  It was inspired by an article by author Geneen Roth which is linked below.  Do read it 🙂  

“Walking. Being barefoot. The fact of night. Stars. Salamanders. A sip of tea. A bite of chocolate. My husband’s face. The ordinary things we pass by on the way to wherever it is we think we will finally be able to relax—and enjoy the ordinary things,” writes Geneen Roth in her article.

Today’s exercises is really enjoying the moment, embracing, loving and squeezing in the juices of what is right around you, even if you are seeking something better or bigger.

She goes on to write, “It turns out that the true extraordinary isn’t reserved for special people or big achievements or red-carpet-moments. It’s extraordinary to write a book, and it’s extraordinary to eat a grilled cheese sandwich with tomatoes and mustard. It’s extraordinary to meet a famous person, and it’s extraordinary to meet the eyes of a grocery store cashier.”

I’m pushing us to do 13 moments because I want you to do it throughout the day, not just do it and get it done.  There are extra-ordinary moments every day, all day long.  We just need to invite ourselves to the party to see them!  You need to believe in magic, for magic to show up.  You need to open your loving, grateful heart and absorb all the wonder around you if you want to feel wonderful.

So take some pics and post them on the Women’s Tribe Facebook Page or Feed Your Feminine Soul Group Page.  Tell me about your extra-ordinary moments experience in the ordinary facets of our lives. I want to hear them.  I will share mine with you.  Sign-up to receive the emails for daily doses of connecting of wildly, luscious soul.

At the end of the day reflect and write on any new awareness this exercise brought you? What did you learn?

This article by Geneen Roth was the inspiration for today’s challenge. Click on it, read it, enjoy it!!  it’s so luscious.   http://communicate.eckharttolle.com/news/2015/03/20/the-big-life/

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How to Feel Abundant in Just 5!

abundance 4Today we indulge the senses, soak them in and absorb them into our soul.  In Canada it’s spring.  Spring has literally just sprung, meaning there is finally no snow on my lawn.  Can I get a woot woot?

Woot woot!!

This morning I heard birds chirping and they were the inspiration for today’s Day 7 Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  (Join in anytime.)

Sometimes we need help to stop and smell the roses.  This is a lesson in gratitude and abundance today.  We really are so rich, so full, so lucky, if we can just take a minute to see it, smell it and call it in.

Today’s Sacred Task – “Just 5”

So today, I ask of you to take 5 pictures that represent Spring or the season (maybe winter) depending on the country you live in.  Indulge in the season, soak in the freshness, the new beginnings, the awakening that is occurring around you. See the colors starting to emerge, hear the birds starting to sing or the rain puddles pooling with playful joy.  Be sure to post these on The Women’s Tribe FB page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul group page and share how these elements spoke to you.

Writing Wild –  Conversing with the Elements.

After you’ve taken your 5 luscious images of rebirth, spring and renewal, imagine these images, these elements of spring had a message for you.  Take your journal and sit with your images or if you can with the elements.

1) Write a brief note of gratitude to each of the elements you chose.

2) Ask them a question or simply allow to share a gift with you. Just free flow a response imagining what your images, elements, animals, rocks, whatever you chose might share with you.  If you have specific questions…ask!! If you don’t ask for a gift 🙂

Here is one of my entries.

Dear song birds, thank you so much for your lovely sound, calling in the winds of spring.  Thank you for allowing my ears to hear you and invite me to stop and enjoy the moments of your songs.  Thank you for belting out joy into the ether with your calls.  Do you have a message for me?  

Dear Crystal – keep singing your song.  Stop and hear the music, feel the joy, let it pelt against your skin over and over throughout the day.  Life is so good, so beautiful….soak it all into your blood like it were soul medicine.  Life is so rich.

Enjoy the senses, love, abundance, joy, light, beauty is all around you.  Were you able to soak it all in and wear it like a pretty, cozy sweater?  How was your day after this exercise did you notice anything different?  How did you feel?

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Smiles, hugs and warmth.

Aren’t you so abundant!!!

xo

C.

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A Quick And Easy Way to Re-Ignite the Love in Your Marriage. All you need is 5 Minutes.

loveI’m going to let you all in on a little secret.  I read an article just yesterday about the secret to a long lasting marriage.  You know what it was….kindness!  Can you believe the simplicity in that?!  However, it is simultaneously complex because sometimes it’s hard to be kind to the person that can push ALL of your buttons.

It takes some conscious effort to be intentionally kind and thoughtful in our marriages.  It’s easy to overlook and forget the good when life is busy and stressful.  It’s easier to dump out the emotions on our loved one’s for their tiredness or laziness and spear them with complaints how they always fall short or fail us.  I’m guilty, I’ve done it.  I usually do it when my own love tank is empty.  It’s easy to take for granted our significant other and focus on what they do wrong rather then ask for what we need.  But negativity only breeds negativity.

So here’ s a quick little habit I’ve been getting into lately that is really changing my life and transforming my relationship.  It started because of an awful dream I had where my husband left me for an unattractive but kind and loving woman because I was too crotchity and demanding, I always pointed out his flaws rather than appreciate his good.  He said he couldn’t take it anymore and just wanted to feel loved.  It was awful, I woke up changed, burdened, scared and refocused on making sure he knows how much I love him and appreciate the beautiful parts of him I fell in love with.  That unconscious mind is a powerful tool!

Here’s what ya do…

Each morning write 5 things you love about yourself and why.  Let’s get real and responsible here and know that we need to fill our own love tanks too.  So go ahead and toot your own horn! To start your day with five sentences that start with, “I love myself for…” will truly change your life. It’s necessary to appreciate yourself, it builds confidence and self-esteem. If you can’t love and appreciate yourself, you will not be able to receive the love of others. So bring attention to and list your wondrous accomplishments and sweet, nice, loving things you did as a wife, mother, friend or daughter. That’s right, celebrate your good and bright stuff because you simply deserve it. It will feed your self worth and confidence.

Now, do the same for your significant other and remember why you fell in love with this person.  Go on, write those 5 fabulous things about your honey and don’t forget the “why” of your statements.  Maybe you remember how gentle he was with your son yesterday or how how she brought you home a coffee after work or how often he tells you how beautiful he thinks you are. Write down the love, remember it, savour it, wrap yourself in the caress of its presence. You’ll find that as you focus on the good, sweet, and luscious moments in your relationship and of your “boo”, you won’t be so bothered or annoyed when they leave their boots in the middle of the entrance way or the toothpaste cap on the sink. It will roll off your back because you are full and focused on love.  Your memory of their acts of love and amazing qualities and will be present when those less attractive habits show up.  Then you realize they simply are not that important or that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things and in the big picture of your loving relationship.   And remember, you got those unattractive habits too so be gentle.  😉

Side note…you can do this for each one of your kids too and see how you are more calm, grounded and patient when the toilet plugs and there’s cereal all over the floor.

Join me and make yourself a Love Journal.

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Enjoy

xo

Crystal

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Booyah! Your Body is Calling, Pick up the Phone!

BODY IMAGELoving your body is an inside job.  It is recognizing that She, your body, is your soul in form, an extension of the deepest part of you.  Loving your body is really about connecting to your Essence found WITHIN your body.  This can be a bit of a foreign concept for some of us who were taught that Spirit is outside of our bodies and the body is just a place of sin and weakness. I challenge this assumption.  Hogwash I say!  Your body is a Sacred Keeper and the physical form of the deepest part of you. This is called Embodied Spirituality, where connecting to your body is really connecting to the Divine.

Can you begin to have the intention of uniting your mind and body in a sacred union, a true and loving kinship? This means approaching your body as an equal, even as captain of the team.  This is a much different way than treating your body like a thing to dominate and a thing to push past it’s limits.  It is letting go of mind over body mantra and instead following the body’s lead.  It is opposite of everything we have learned and it will take some unlearning, believe me, I too lived that mantra.  I played competitive sports and we trained until we puked, pushed to the limits and beyond and called that success. My body has since rebelled as I continued to live a life of overdoing.  She has said no more, too much, no you won’t overdo, over-extend, over push, over carry, over burden me/us anymore.  She has put her foot down with the manifestation of an autoimmune disorder that I believe has evolved out of refusal to hear Her and slow down.  Now, I have no choice but to pay attention.  I’ve had to find another pace, another gear and slow way down in order to do life or I will have an autoimmune attack and end up in hospital.

Marion Woodman, a Jungian Analyst who specialized in the Lost Goddess said in a speech for Conscious Femininity, “You know, you must wander in a culture where autoimmune break down is the most prevalent of diseases — lupus, AIDS, cancer, chronic fatigue syndrome — these are all illnesses in which the body refuses to play host to the soul.” Booyah! That kinda hits you in the gut doesn’t it.

In mind-body therapy, we look for the metaphorical message in the illness.  Illness is often accompanied with unresolved emotion or belief patterns. In the book The Secret Language of Your Body by Inna Segal, autoimmune illness is associated with “…an inability to stand up for yourself.  Weighed down by responsibility.  Always putting others first.  Anger, resentment, blame and guilt…” For me, I regularly pushed past my limits, over committed, over did things, held everything on my shoulders and did not ask for help.  I didn’t stand up for my own limits, I didn’t stand up for my body’s needs or my souls needs.  I put other’s needs ahead of my own, and I sacrificed me time, down time or rest time in the name of getting more things done or to squeeze in an extra workout.

Autoimmune illness is literally the manifestation of the mind attacking the body.  For me, it is the manifestation of my mind pushing my body past it’s limits continually, never checking into see how things feel or where the body’s energy levels are at.  It is keeping it up too late, feeding it too little, forcing it to exercise extraneously, stressing it with life, having a thousand and one commitments to tend to and pretending there is no emotion within about the way I’m doing life.  It was living with an “I am fine” illusion when I wanted to cry at every stop sign I sat at. In fact, I pretended I was superwoman and to say I was struggling would have ruined my facade.  I rarely rested or fed my soul through creativity or stillness.  I only collapsed in exhaustion or used alcohol to disconnect from the exploding reality trying to burst out of my insides that I couldn’t manage the pace of my life any longer.  Then one day, I collapsed at work and life was never the same because an autoimmune disorder was born.

We must balance DOING with the Sacred Task of BEING!  Being is experiencing life with a pure intention of peace, joy, fun and play. It is not checking off the to do list or creating things for the purpose of getting accolades. It is refilling the energy tank, the love tank, the self-esteem tank, and the feel good to be alive tank all in one. It is experienced through stillness…conscious stillness, reflection, journaling, even when you really don’t want to or would rather watch TV and zone out.  It is also creativity, creative expression, and a dumping out of the emotional tub inside. It is walking outside and feeling the wind caress your face or it is sticking your tongue out and tasting a snow flake.  It is life lived at a slower pace, in the moment, focused on the beauty and wonder around us. It is connecting to the Universe, the Divine, to God & the Goddess, the Creator, the stars, the moon, the wind, the water and fire, because we need and crave meaning, spiritual connection, and emotional release in our lives.  We need to do less more often.  Did you hear that…do LESS more often! We need to have way more fun and play in life and accomplish less.  (This statement might get some great comments lol)

When we are so busy, over doing, over extended, over exhausted, there is no room for the soul, we don’t take presence in our own body.  We don’t step foot in our own two feet, we just float around in our minds going through our life tasks spiritually vacant.   Maybe we find ourselves wanting to cry out of nowhere and we aren’t sure why…this my friends is the soul’s tears.  They will leak out in the moments of stillness right before bed or when things just keep getting compounded and challenging that we can’t keep it together, we burst at the seems.  That moment is a gift, a call home to your Essence!

sacred body2GRATITUDE JOURNAL FOR MY DIVINE BODY.

So take five minutes and for today, write 5 things you are grateful for about your body.  Thank your legs for carrying you from place to place and the ability to move.  Thank your hands for doing such amazing work tending to the children or cooking meals.  Thank your gut for digesting food and helping you have life force energy to go about your day.  Thank your ears for the ability to hear a beautiful song or your child’s laugh.

Let’s appreciate our life giving, soul holding bodies today and everyday!  Let’s take things a little slower, a little gentler, a little more focused on fun and less on outcome.

And so it is 🙂

Crystal

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