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Some Sacred Feminine Teachings for International Women’s Day.

goddess4In honor of International Women’s Day I feel called to share with you some basic teachings of the Sacred Feminine…a general flavoring of what it is…what it feels like.  And so it is 🙂

Back in my early twenties, I hadn’t heard of the Sacred Feminine, I had no idea what it was or what it meant.  But the words Sacred and Feminine lingered in my aura like a puff of smoke I really wanted to inhale.  My soul recognized them even though my mind did not.

I learned about Feminism and studied feminist approaches to counselling but Sacred Feminine was new territory.  It started with a book I read by Lynn Andrews called The Tree of Dreams.  Lynn Andrews is shamaness and teacher (Writer of Medicine Woman and many other books) her words, her stories spoke to me in a way that I was unveiling and discovering myself.  I couldn’t wait to get home from work and pick up her words and suck them into my body and soul.  They evoked a remembering in me, a filling of a deep hole that longed to be filled.  The wild call from my soul that had been attempting to dial me up my entire life finally found its’ way to my ears and I had no choice but to hear it.  She lead me to the trail.  I eventually apprenticed under Lynn Andrews for four years and became Earth Steward, Minister and Healer under her Sacred Feminine teachings from the Sisterhood of the Shields.  (This is a whole other post lol)

So for those of you new to the concept of the Sacred Feminine or those of you dipping your toes into the beautiful realm, or those of you swimming in the pool of the Feminine, I honor you all for expanding and remembering a consciousness the world so desperately needs at this moment in time.

For me….I grew up in a religion that had masculine/patriarchal roots that told me that my body was the place of sin and weakness and that body and flesh should not be trusted as it was prone to over indulgence and wild longings that could take over my character, morals and life.  As a sensitive, intuitive, strongly emotional young girl I didn’t know how to carry this teaching and exist with it in my life.  I interpreted it to mean all my emotions, my desires, my sensuality, my sexuality, and urges were sinful, wrong, all the fundamental, primal elements of myself were shameful and could not be trusted.  I was taught as most of us are in our current world, not to trust my body.  I became disembodied…disconnected from the most fundamental, natural, primal elements and internal guidance within me.  I wasn’t supposed to listen to myself, I was supposed to follow the pre-determined rules and keep quiet.

These teachings put me up against my own self and body, and for me filled me with the idea that I am not enough, I’m flawed, I’m unloveable, I’m wrong, I’m damaged and I’m weak simply for having a body. So I shut down, I controlled, I obsessed, I calorie counted and eating disordered my way into an unconscious expression of the battle between my mind and soul.  I caged my wild, feminine roots and essence away for I thought she could not be trusted,  I thought she was wrong for existing, I thought she was not welcome simply by the fact she was not acknowledged or celebrated or encouraged to develop and grow. I did not consciously know that this was occurring  nor that I even had a wild, feminine soul deep within me, I simply had a deep feeling of emptiness, a craving for something I could not put my finger on or fill.  I knew without knowing that I was missing something, I just did not know what.  I had a deep, dark hole and an ache in my gut.  I thought it was a character flaw and a weakness that I could not just follow the rules and do life and be okay.  I just wanted to be normal but knew I wasn’t, something was different in me…in my DNA, in my structure. At the time I thought it was a bad thing, a lacking…I see now it was a knowing I had not yet discovered.

As I a look back I see now it was my feminine soul, my wise, emotional, intuitive body loudly and boldly expressing that I lost contact to my feminine essence.  And in doing so I lost connection to my body, my emotions, my intuition, my creativity, my ability to be….  me.  I acted out this loss of body/soul connection as an eating disorder and it also carried with it anxiety and depression….all natural feelings from losing yourself I’d say…yes?!

When you least expect it, or barely notice, the Sacred Feminine howls to you and  begins to call you home.  Synchronicity occurs and She finds her way to you subtly….first through restless, anxious energy calling you inward, or perhaps even depression.  Or a struggle with eating disorders or weight obsession or too much boozin, trying to make you look at why you’ve been acting out your pain.  She continues to howl for you and sooner or later a book comes your way or a dream evokes a remembering or a class you take leads you to Her trail or you meet a gal who digs the Divine Feminine 😉 and boom the lightning strikes and you remember!  Your heart cracks open with ancient, soul remembering that has been around for thousands of years.

And in Her essence (The Sacred Feminine Energies) there’s so much to learn, so much uncloaking, and shedding and releasing what never quite fit you in the first place.  There’s a lot of removal of the masks and shirts and fancy jackets we put on in the world and a diving deep into our naked, raw bodies instead.  The shedding can be painful but its’ also sparked with so much inner excitement and inner knowing of something much deeper, much more primal and inwardly wild.  It’s felt by feeling full for the first time ever, like a tasting of what peace feels like in a cup.  It’s a feeling being connected and lit up like the brightest firework you every did see and knowing you found your path home.

Spirit comes through your body, your body is Spirit in form…your intuition, your emotions, your body sensations are messengers from you’re own highest Self and the Divine and you learn that you never meant to abandon the very body Creation gave you to discover, feel and sensually inhale all the luscious, vibration, sensation evoking feelings that every dam thing all around you could offer.  You were meant to learn how to follow your body’s lead as Sacred Messenger, not sinner, not weakness but Divine Guider/Goddess of your soul’s desires, your soul’s path, your soul’s must do in this lifetime.

Your body is like your soul’s compass on the path to soul completion and gift sharing in this world.  She will signal to you when it feels oohhhhh so good and when it feels oh so wrong.  That gut instinct that says no or something doesn’t feel right and when things just flow in the most auspicious ways.   Spirit is felt inside, in stillness, in the body, in excitement, in peace, in anger, in fear, it uncertainty….Spirit is everywhere, especially in your body.

So on this International Women’s Day I honor ALL women and the SACRED FEMININE in all of us (both men and women).  I honor your sacred body as a place to start the remembering. I honor all of us women for all the feminine qualities we carry and move in to the world….the creativity, the nurturing, the loving, the connecting, the igniting of magic and joy we do.

And so it is sisters 🙂

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Today’s Challenge – Get Outside & Awaken!

images (1)Today’s challenge is simple….if you can get outside! Get moving, walking, raking, shaking.  Just move your body’s energy. Call up a friend and go for a walk in a park, go for a run, dance it out with the kids.  Just move your lymphatic fluid, squeeze your muscles and get those veins pumping.  If you can let’s be outside, if you can’t that’s okay, open a window and make it work.

Get a natural high from sniffing in the fresh air, get stronger from being present to the bold standing trees standing so tall for hundreds of years, no matter what the seasons.  Awaken with the crisp, cool breeze caressing your face.  Let the sunlight kiss your skin, and radiate your life force energy alive.  Soak it in and stoke that inner fire.

Move your body as though it were a sacred tool, a gift from the Divine for you to indulge in the senses and magical experiences in the physical world.  That body is Sacred so treat Her/Him like it deserves.  It’s the instrument of your soaking in the luscious rainbows, the dewy grass, the songs of the songbirds, the kiss of the breeze, the joy beams of the sun. You get to walk on the Earth Mother because of your amazing feet taking you from place to place.  Your body is a magic box, converting life all around you into experiences, feelings, sensations and holds the universal portal to the Divine.  That’s fucking magic!

Celebrate your body by being in nature and enjoy it as a Divine conduit.  Nature is your mirror, what do you see?  How is it a reflection of you golden soul and sacred body?  Absorb it all in.  What are the highlights?  Do share in the comments below. Write about it, journal, picture it up.  But most of all…soak it in!

Move your body, own your body, shake your body and invoke the fires of aliveness, enjoy your flesh, your bones, your fat, your skin, your veins, your feet, your arteries, your muscle, your tissue, your soft, sensual skin.

BE ALIVE and so it is!!  Day 15 of the 30 Day Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  Feed that soul baby!

xo

Crystal

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8 Sacred Feminine Teachings That Your Thirteen Year-Old Self Craves.

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What if upon our transition into our teen years, we were supposed to learn really important teachings about our body, heart and soul?  What if these teachings could dramatically change the way you feel about your self…your body…your heart?

Sign me up – right?! The trouble is these teachings have been lost, buried, waiting to be reborn into our lives and into the world.  And so I hope to share some of the Sacred Feminine teachings I learned on my healing road, in hopes your soul remembers and your own self love grows.

In mind-body therapy, our behaviours and our struggles are really symbolic to our deeper issues and needs.  So…let’s take world’s obsession with our weight, body hatred even body altering and let’s explore that for a second.  Is it possible we are acting our our soul starvation on the physical level?  Is it possible we are expressing how truly disconnected we are from our bodies as a nation by trying to become physically perfect and thin?

This was true for me…I was acting out a deep feeling and longing without having the words.  I was showing how frail and weak I felt on the inside by becoming it on the outside.  So let’s meet the issue at the root : we are emotionally and spiritually starving and we don’t know what to do with that.

I know as an emotional, intuitive, creative, feminine soul, I craved these teachings at the threshold of adolescence and perhaps if I had them, I would have discovered how to love myself sooner.  I would have lived my life in union with my feminine, primal, wild, emotional soul instead of feeling like I had to separate from her.  Perhaps, I would have saved myself from the battle wounds of an eating disorder because for me, it was merely an expression of my dying, starving soul.  I didn’t know that then, I felt it, but I know it now.  The healing journey brought me home, back to these teachings and practices and in presence of my own body, heart and soul.

So here are 8 Sacred Feminine Teachings that your feminine soul might still be craving and that that teen girl in you deserves to know:

  • 1) You are a soul on a journey. You are a soul with a body and you’ve come here to learn, grow, expand and heal.   That is your purpose, to evolve, to love, to enjoy this moment, to find your passions, enjoy food, movement, and your sensual body.  It’s not to build up a pile of things or have the biggest this or that.  It’s about love…connection and growth.  Have fun, lighten up.  Take life a little less seriously.  Get creative, express yourself with words or art or pictures or music or by making something whether it is food, clothes, wood pieces, buttons, whatever…just feed your soul and create, create, create!
  • 2) Your connection to your body is your life line in this world.  She is the place of your soul, your emotions, your physical sensations and your gut instinct.  She is your compass and guide in this lifetime, never separate from her.  Honor your relationship to Her above all else as your connection to her will show up in every aspect and relationship in your life.  She communicates what you feel, want, need and desire, your job is to listen to her and honor her as best you can.  You will navigate yourself and your soul in the world only by knowing her and her emotions, sensations and symbolic images that she gives you to guide you on your life path.  She will tell you what feels right and what does not.  She will tell you if you like something or you don’t.  She will tell you if this direction is right or wrong for your soul.   Make friends with her, because she is the keeper of your destiny.  How you feel about yourself is a reflection of your relationship to Her.
  • 3) Feeding off of life lesson #2, learn your sacred body’s language so you can steer the ship of your life. Your body will guide you through emotions, through aches, pains, restlessness, irritations, anxiety, even depression.  She will also express to you through radiant joy and peace.  Explore your emotions and physical sensations as literal symbolic messengers.  If you’re neck hurts or your throat, ask yourself is there something you are not saying or need to say?  If you’re anxious or restless, your soul has something to tell you and is getting your attention to tune inward that something is off or she has a need.  Your emotions are sacred communications from your soul…listen to them, don’t ignore them.  Addictions are born when we don’t know how to be in our bodies and present to our precious emotions so we use something to distract away from what’s inside.
  • 4) Stillness is a must! We live in a fast paced world where everybody is concerned with doing more…quicker, better, stronger, faster.  I’m exhausted just thinking about it. I honor that accomplishments and goals are important but not in the name of betraying yourself and your body’s limits.  We must find balance between doing and being or there is really not any success.  If you must betray yourself and your body to succeed,  you have not really succeeded.  So get still…often…daily…reflect…journal…listen. ..feel.  Notice what comes up like it were a message from an angel.  Write about it, draw pictures, symbols, colors, doodles, whatever comes and express it.  Release it out of you for there is a message and reason for your feelings.  Honor them as sacred messengers from your soul.  And most importantly…just breathe…in and out..in and out.
  • 5) If you “feel fat” or start obsessing about your weight, that’s a sign that you’ve lost connection to your wild, feminine, tribal soul and that she is starving for your attention and for some nourishment. She desires connection to the Divine, the universe, the stars, the moon.   So plug back in and feed your luscious spirit through creativity, writing, lighting a candle and getting still or dancing like a silly goose.  Stare at the moon and remember our tribal, wild, primal ancestors who followed the moon cycle each month.  Life is about your soul’s journey, about magic and the mystery, not the size of your thighs.  So indulge in some fun rituals that re-ignite the magic and sacred in your life.  (Check out www.womenshealingandspirituality.com for some ritual ideas)
  • 6) Enjoy luscious food. Learn to cook!  It’s an art, an expression, its’ soul food and life force energy on a plate.  Think of all the farmers, grocers, animals, gardens, makers and bakers who conspired to bring this wonderful meal together.  Your hands can unite all that human love and energy into a meal on a plate, what alchemy!   Use whole foods when you can and indulge in luscious chocolates and homemade dessert creations alongside your wholesome, homemade, nourishing supper.  Feed your taste buds, it’s part of feeling alive, part of the human experience.  Watch Rachel Ray connect with her food, that is how we are meant to relate to our food like it were a being.  Get passionate about food.   Make those meals colorful and nourish yourself mind, body and soul!
  • 7) Move your body. Here’s a secret…I hate gyms.  They are soul sucking spaces that to me feed the ego with all those mirrors.  So go old school and get outside to move.  Pile some wood, cut the lawn with a push mower, take a run outside, walk down the road, pull weeds, play tag outside.  Go to the park, ride your bike to school or work.  Exercise should be about moving the energy and lymphatic fluid in your body…period.  It should be fun and playful, not dreadful.  I used to hate working out, I’d literally be swearing as ran, angry as ole’ pie.  I was doing it for the wrong reasons, for calorie burning and weight loss.  It felt like a chore, now it feels like a gift.  I think of all the stagnant energy that wants to dance alive in my body.  Today I move with no time goals or distances to reach or calories to burn, I just move to move.  Make it about energy and play, not calories.  Turn up the tunes and dance!  Return to our primal, natural roots and move authentically, and naturally, not on a machine indoors.
  • 8) Last but not least. Honor your menstrual cycle as something ancient, sacred and holy.  The human nation has carried on for thousands and thousands of years because of our menstrual cycles.  It connects us as women. Historically women used to gather and bleed together during their moon time.  They’d bleed right onto the Earth and sit together in circle gathering emotional and spiritual wisdom found in their silence.  With this guidance they’d lead and guide their tribes towards the animals for food or towards protection from surrounding tribes and clans.   So, remember that your cycle generally follows the 28 moon cycle give or take a few days and that as women we have followed the moon’s cycle for thousands of years.  It is common for us to ovulate or menstruate on the new moon or full moon.  When menstruating, your body is naturally cleansing itself, releasing out old energy, emotions and physical debris from last month and moon cycle.  So honor this amazing process and turn the energy dial down during this time. Make sure to get still and sit with yourself, your body and Grandmother Moon as you are most intuitive and emotional during this time…meaning your body and soul has much to say and guide you with.  Create a moon time ritual with your friends or mom.  Do something special like a meditative foot soak or where a special moon time robe and journal in your decorated moon time diary.  Bake some luscious cookies and drink fine tea with your mom and sister and have a mini sharing circle.  Honor your ancient, tribal roots by celebrating your sacred body and soul during this special time each month.  It need not be elaborate but do something special.

Simply by regularly connecting to our bodies and her inner realm and making this a conscious practice, we naturally nourish our souls.  And when our souls are nourished, we feel confident, fulfilled, full of life, joy and energy.   We don’t need to try and express our pain or fill up our soul starvation through body bashing or dieting, because we are already nourished from the inside out.  Your cravings for bingeing or alcohol or shopping will automatically disappear with this practice if you struggle with disordered eating symptoms or weight pre-occupation yourself. So I ask you to remember that your body is a Sacred Messenger of the your Divine Self.  Please, please, please treat her with the reverence She deserves.

I honor you and your Sacred body…the Sacred Home of your unique soul!

Aho! And so it is.

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Booyah! Your Body is Calling, Pick up the Phone!

BODY IMAGELoving your body is an inside job.  It is recognizing that She, your body, is your soul in form, an extension of the deepest part of you.  Loving your body is really about connecting to your Essence found WITHIN your body.  This can be a bit of a foreign concept for some of us who were taught that Spirit is outside of our bodies and the body is just a place of sin and weakness. I challenge this assumption.  Hogwash I say!  Your body is a Sacred Keeper and the physical form of the deepest part of you. This is called Embodied Spirituality, where connecting to your body is really connecting to the Divine.

Can you begin to have the intention of uniting your mind and body in a sacred union, a true and loving kinship? This means approaching your body as an equal, even as captain of the team.  This is a much different way than treating your body like a thing to dominate and a thing to push past it’s limits.  It is letting go of mind over body mantra and instead following the body’s lead.  It is opposite of everything we have learned and it will take some unlearning, believe me, I too lived that mantra.  I played competitive sports and we trained until we puked, pushed to the limits and beyond and called that success. My body has since rebelled as I continued to live a life of overdoing.  She has said no more, too much, no you won’t overdo, over-extend, over push, over carry, over burden me/us anymore.  She has put her foot down with the manifestation of an autoimmune disorder that I believe has evolved out of refusal to hear Her and slow down.  Now, I have no choice but to pay attention.  I’ve had to find another pace, another gear and slow way down in order to do life or I will have an autoimmune attack and end up in hospital.

Marion Woodman, a Jungian Analyst who specialized in the Lost Goddess said in a speech for Conscious Femininity, “You know, you must wander in a culture where autoimmune break down is the most prevalent of diseases — lupus, AIDS, cancer, chronic fatigue syndrome — these are all illnesses in which the body refuses to play host to the soul.” Booyah! That kinda hits you in the gut doesn’t it.

In mind-body therapy, we look for the metaphorical message in the illness.  Illness is often accompanied with unresolved emotion or belief patterns. In the book The Secret Language of Your Body by Inna Segal, autoimmune illness is associated with “…an inability to stand up for yourself.  Weighed down by responsibility.  Always putting others first.  Anger, resentment, blame and guilt…” For me, I regularly pushed past my limits, over committed, over did things, held everything on my shoulders and did not ask for help.  I didn’t stand up for my own limits, I didn’t stand up for my body’s needs or my souls needs.  I put other’s needs ahead of my own, and I sacrificed me time, down time or rest time in the name of getting more things done or to squeeze in an extra workout.

Autoimmune illness is literally the manifestation of the mind attacking the body.  For me, it is the manifestation of my mind pushing my body past it’s limits continually, never checking into see how things feel or where the body’s energy levels are at.  It is keeping it up too late, feeding it too little, forcing it to exercise extraneously, stressing it with life, having a thousand and one commitments to tend to and pretending there is no emotion within about the way I’m doing life.  It was living with an “I am fine” illusion when I wanted to cry at every stop sign I sat at. In fact, I pretended I was superwoman and to say I was struggling would have ruined my facade.  I rarely rested or fed my soul through creativity or stillness.  I only collapsed in exhaustion or used alcohol to disconnect from the exploding reality trying to burst out of my insides that I couldn’t manage the pace of my life any longer.  Then one day, I collapsed at work and life was never the same because an autoimmune disorder was born.

We must balance DOING with the Sacred Task of BEING!  Being is experiencing life with a pure intention of peace, joy, fun and play. It is not checking off the to do list or creating things for the purpose of getting accolades. It is refilling the energy tank, the love tank, the self-esteem tank, and the feel good to be alive tank all in one. It is experienced through stillness…conscious stillness, reflection, journaling, even when you really don’t want to or would rather watch TV and zone out.  It is also creativity, creative expression, and a dumping out of the emotional tub inside. It is walking outside and feeling the wind caress your face or it is sticking your tongue out and tasting a snow flake.  It is life lived at a slower pace, in the moment, focused on the beauty and wonder around us. It is connecting to the Universe, the Divine, to God & the Goddess, the Creator, the stars, the moon, the wind, the water and fire, because we need and crave meaning, spiritual connection, and emotional release in our lives.  We need to do less more often.  Did you hear that…do LESS more often! We need to have way more fun and play in life and accomplish less.  (This statement might get some great comments lol)

When we are so busy, over doing, over extended, over exhausted, there is no room for the soul, we don’t take presence in our own body.  We don’t step foot in our own two feet, we just float around in our minds going through our life tasks spiritually vacant.   Maybe we find ourselves wanting to cry out of nowhere and we aren’t sure why…this my friends is the soul’s tears.  They will leak out in the moments of stillness right before bed or when things just keep getting compounded and challenging that we can’t keep it together, we burst at the seems.  That moment is a gift, a call home to your Essence!

sacred body2GRATITUDE JOURNAL FOR MY DIVINE BODY.

So take five minutes and for today, write 5 things you are grateful for about your body.  Thank your legs for carrying you from place to place and the ability to move.  Thank your hands for doing such amazing work tending to the children or cooking meals.  Thank your gut for digesting food and helping you have life force energy to go about your day.  Thank your ears for the ability to hear a beautiful song or your child’s laugh.

Let’s appreciate our life giving, soul holding bodies today and everyday!  Let’s take things a little slower, a little gentler, a little more focused on fun and less on outcome.

And so it is 🙂

Crystal

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