Uncategorized

Celebrating The Beauty of Your Ordinary – Today’s Sacred Task

ordinary“I ask for the wisdom to appreciate the sparkle of my child’s ordinariness… I ask for a reminder of my own ordinariness and the ability to bask in its beauty.” Shefali Tsabary – The Conscious Parent.

Reading this shot an arrow into my heart.  I struggled with eating disorders and an addiction to perfectionism for many years.  I was obsessed with being the best at everything I did like it were a drug that kept my sense of worth and value out of withdrawal.  I didn’t believe who I was was enough or quite frankly even important.  It’s not because I had bad parents its’ because we live in a culture that only celebrates success, achievement and accomplishment and when you are solely seen for your actions and endeavors you get a complex.  We all want recognition and validation.  We all want to be seen and heard and appreciated.  Why does it need to come in the form of a success?

Let’s change this for ourselves and for our children.  Let’s “bask in the beauty” of ordinary.  I love that!

We don’t celebrate the ordinary, simple, beautiful aspects of being.  Nobody celebrates your messy cooking process (which I call my creativity in the kitchen) or your sweet gentle soul rubbing the backs of your children before they go to sleep each night.  Let’s do that!  Let’s celebrate our ordinary ways of being.  Let’s even celebrate our mediocre skills.  It’s uniquely, wonderfully you.  I suck at laundry, and I can own it, laugh at it and just enjoy that fun, quirky fact.

When I was doing some intense healing work on myself I forced myself to step out of perfectionism box by having a goal to not try and be the best and I forced myself to not try my best because my best was full tilt, way past my limits and a give all to get all kind of approach. I’d lose my balance, my well-being, my marbles…just to end up on top and feel like I was enough.  I was foaming at the mouth for a sense of worth and esteem.  So I set my sights on a new target….I wanted to be middle of the pack.  I didn’t want to be the best, instead be average. It was freeing, I actually starting enjoying what I was doing.  I could take a run with no time limits or distance markers to accomplish, I could just move my body and run freely.  It brought me back in my body, in the moment, in the experience and not the outcome.  I could play baseball and drop the ball without feel ashamed or embarrassed, I could be gentler and laugh.  My success was no longer my lifeline and it allowed fun to move in.

But hoowahhhh! It was also tough.  It allowed my true wounds and holes to emerge so I could heal them, not soothe them with a medal or academic achievement.  That’s when true and lasting change happened.

So today, let’s celebrate our ordinariness, our average skills or aspects of the self. Let’s celebrate the ordinary things we do each day that perhaps are not celebrated or recognized and shift the idea that who we are is what we do.  Our beingness, our intimate connections, our soul connections are just as, if not more important, in the world than what we do.  People will remember who you were, how you made them feel, your qualities, not what you did in this life.

Today’s Sacred Task:

Celebrate your ordinary.  Own it like a beautiful new scarf and flaunt it for us.  Share what you’ve got. Find at least 8 wonderfully, beautiful ordinary things about yourself and shine the light on it:  Your beingness is just as important in the word, the unseen, unnoticed things that make the world go round.  Start celebrating for yourself and see what happens 🙂

Here’s a few aspects of my beautiful ordinary:

1) I try and paint beautiful pictures but truthfully, I’m not that great at it.  It’s fun trying!

2) I’m messy in the kitchen when I cook and have learned to call it my creative process and taught my husband to call it the same 😉

3) I thrive in organized chaos, my work desk is always this way.

4) I love going for walks in the woods with my son, it’s simple and ordinary and awesome.

5) I let my son beat me more often than not at Trouble or card games.

6) I’m romantic, I buy flowers and write notes to my husband on rainy days and Mondays.

7) I hate cleaning, I’d way rather cut the grass or shovel the driveway, heck even take out the garbage.

8) I pretend I’m a world famous singer and lip sync like a bat out of hell while I cook supper.  Pink has because my alter ego.

It’s your turn…

If you feel called to do so, add your email and follow the blog to get notifications on tools, rituals and sacred art tasks to feed your Divine Feminine soul 🙂

Share your thoughts, journal entries, reflections on the Women’s Tribe Facebook Page or Feed Your Feminine Soul Group Page.

This is Day 17 of the 30 Day Challenge 🙂

Crystal

xo

Uncategorized

How to Feel Abundant in Just 5!

abundance 4Today we indulge the senses, soak them in and absorb them into our soul.  In Canada it’s spring.  Spring has literally just sprung, meaning there is finally no snow on my lawn.  Can I get a woot woot?

Woot woot!!

This morning I heard birds chirping and they were the inspiration for today’s Day 7 Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge.  (Join in anytime.)

Sometimes we need help to stop and smell the roses.  This is a lesson in gratitude and abundance today.  We really are so rich, so full, so lucky, if we can just take a minute to see it, smell it and call it in.

Today’s Sacred Task – “Just 5”

So today, I ask of you to take 5 pictures that represent Spring or the season (maybe winter) depending on the country you live in.  Indulge in the season, soak in the freshness, the new beginnings, the awakening that is occurring around you. See the colors starting to emerge, hear the birds starting to sing or the rain puddles pooling with playful joy.  Be sure to post these on The Women’s Tribe FB page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul group page and share how these elements spoke to you.

Writing Wild –  Conversing with the Elements.

After you’ve taken your 5 luscious images of rebirth, spring and renewal, imagine these images, these elements of spring had a message for you.  Take your journal and sit with your images or if you can with the elements.

1) Write a brief note of gratitude to each of the elements you chose.

2) Ask them a question or simply allow to share a gift with you. Just free flow a response imagining what your images, elements, animals, rocks, whatever you chose might share with you.  If you have specific questions…ask!! If you don’t ask for a gift 🙂

Here is one of my entries.

Dear song birds, thank you so much for your lovely sound, calling in the winds of spring.  Thank you for allowing my ears to hear you and invite me to stop and enjoy the moments of your songs.  Thank you for belting out joy into the ether with your calls.  Do you have a message for me?  

Dear Crystal – keep singing your song.  Stop and hear the music, feel the joy, let it pelt against your skin over and over throughout the day.  Life is so good, so beautiful….soak it all into your blood like it were soul medicine.  Life is so rich.

Enjoy the senses, love, abundance, joy, light, beauty is all around you.  Were you able to soak it all in and wear it like a pretty, cozy sweater?  How was your day after this exercise did you notice anything different?  How did you feel?

Join the The Women’s Tribe Facebook page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul Group to share your experiences and build a community of like minded folks.

MY FRIENDS BE SURE TO FOLLOW THE BLOG TO RECEIVE THE DAILY CHALLENGES.

Smiles, hugs and warmth.

Aren’t you so abundant!!!

xo

C.

Uncategorized

10 Ways to Invoke some Magic Dust into Your Day.

Does life ever get mundane?  Does the routine ever get boring?  love

When we live on auto-pilot we get stagnant. Stagnant in
excitement, stagnant in emotion and in health.

It takes guts to shake it up.  You must live with conscious intention, awareness and a commitment to live life more fully, more deeply.  If you want magic in your life you gotta put in some effort, it ain’t just gonna happen.  You must create the portal, the opportunity, the setting for it to come and play some live music at your dance party of life.

Here are 10 Ways to Re-Invoke a sense of Wander & Magic in Your Day.

1.  Shake up the routine.
2.  Take a different way to work or leave at a different time.  Notice the changes, is the sun in a different spot.  Is the traffic less frenetic?

3.  Try something new…a new recipe, a new restaurant, a new type of latte.  Don’t do same!

4.  Have dinner outside.  Get a blanket and have a picnic in your back yard, around the fire, in a park, anything just not around the kitchen table tonight.

5.  Do something different than watching TV. Go to a museum, art gallery, live music show, heck even go to the library.  Go somewhere unconventional for you and give it a whirl.  Invite in new energy by trying new things.

6.  Rock a funky piece of clothing.  Wear that bright pink shirt or leopard print shoes.  Where four rings or a scarf with skulls.  Have some fun, dress it up, invoke some play with your clothes.  See the response of those around you when you walk around with playful energy and intentions.

7.  Go to a second hand store and find something you can re-purpose with some love, vision and paint.  Would it look good in bright pink?

8.  Go outside, take in some deep breaths.  Breathe in the fresh spring air.  Describe the experience in the form of a love poem or haiku.

9.  Make a bucket list.  List 14 things you’d like to do before you kick the bucket. Do this with a friend or significant other over a coffee or hot chocolate and share your lists. How can you start tackling the list?

10. What are some of the most fun, wild, passionate, memorable experiences you’ve had?  Tell me about it as though it were a story.  Write it out and remember, every. single. detail. Who were you with?  Where were you?  How did you take the risk and get there?

Have some fun, shake that shit up and live life a little off the beaten path today.  Sparkle, shine enjoy the magic in the air!!

Enjoy my friends.  As always please share and comment.

TODAY IS DAY 6 OF THE 30 DAY WILDLY, LUSCIOUS, SOULFUL LIVING CHALLENGE.  (Find it here and join anytime).

Join the The Women’s Tribe Facebook page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul Group to share your experiences and build a community of like minded folks.

Follow the BLOG by adding your email.  This way your sure to get all the daily activities to Feed Your Sweet Soul 🙂

xo

Crystal

Uncategorized

A “Writing Wild” Exercise to Free Your Caged Soul

This day 5 of the 30 Day Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living Challenge (found here, join us anytime).caged soul

Today we return to the writing circle, cast our questions into the sky and allow the universal energies to guide us as our pens hit the pages for revolutionary writing and Sacred Expression. Hallelujah!

It is a bit of a difficult time for many folks, the energies are forcing out the dark, unheard, unmet energies within.  The soul is howling for release.  She wants out on the soul path, she wants out in your life.  She wants to howl, roam, play and dance like She’s never been allowed to before.

The time is now.  We are in the pressure cooker between the eclipses, the emotional guck is oozing out for release, for deep and lasting healing so get your hands dirty and clean out the guck in those sore spots.  Ooze your stuff onto the pages, paint, dance, scream, howl or run it out. Know it intimately like it were your teacher, a sacred messenger freeing your soul from the shackles of your ego mind.  You want out, you want freedom, you want alive, scrumptious joy.  So have at her and listen to the gloom for it shall guide you home.

So many of us are feeling the bondage of living without the luscious, juicy taste of of our wild natures in our lives.   We feel it in our restlessness, sadness, despair even doom.  We feel an inner ache, deep in our bones of wanting change, wanting to get out, want to be free and enjoy life….not just get up, go to mundane work, pay the bills and repeat.  Life is luscious, meant to be indulged, enjoyed, enveloped with magic, filled with bright pink clouds and rainbows.  But the repeat and auto-pilot button get’s us caged, rattled, even ravenous for freedom.  This is the territory of self-sabotage, addictions, depression, and doom.

We need to bust out, we need to dance with the Divine and allow our souls to emerge in our lives.  But how you ask?

What are your passions?  What lights you up light a bright green exploding firecracker on a dark moon night sky?  What makes you laugh?  What makes your toes curl with pleasure?  What feeds you so much you can go days between doses?

Some of us will be able to make livings off of our passions, some of us will dive into our passions after work or on our lunch hours, we must make the time.  Make it a delicious game in and of itself, how can you squeeze in your soul song, your passionate soul feeding hobby or activity that lights you like a beacon?  How shall you squeeze it in?  It’s a sacred dance between our sometimes mundane, yet life sustaining responsibilities and our need for free spirited play.  Each day is challenge for you to find a way to do the dance between the worlds.  Each day is a sacred opportunity to start anew.  Make it a fun game.

In the end, the point is to live in the lightning rod of aliveness and in the radiant joy of electric neon colors.   We need to make space for this in our life, whether we do it for a living or not.  The universe doesn’t care for your job title or role, She cares if you make space dance in the wild rain, or if you stroll in the alive and living forest, or if you play in the mossy green grass.  She cares if you seen the glorious sunset or did you drive on right by it.  She cares if you drink in the moments, even if it’s just for minutes.  She challenges you to expand it in your everyday life….how can you let the rainbows in?

Plug in, indulge, delight, nourish your souls by taking the first step and begin to see where you want to go…  We will work some more with these energies for the next few days as well.

So get your pens out.  It’s time for Writing Wild Step 1.MAGIC DUST

Light a candle, put on some sweet tunes, light an incense and set your timers for 5 minutes.  Set it and repeat for each question.  Don’t lift your pen off the page for 5 minutes, just keep writing, flow, swim, float along with the words and see where you end up after the timer.

I just came into your life with a magic wand and blew some magic dust on you.  I gave you the magic gift of doing anything. You get to create your life how you want it exactly.  You get to live with wild, free, magic gold dust spread all around….what would your life look like?  

What would you be doing?  What would happen in your day?  Who is with you?  What is different?

And go………………………soar into the unknown territory of you magic and let the gold dust speak.

Join the The Women’s Tribe Facebook page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul Group to share your experiences and build a community of like minded folks.

Follow the BLOG by adding your email.  This way your sure to get all the daily activities to Feed Your Sweet Soul 🙂

Uncategorized

How to Release & Purify! Day 4 of the Wildly, Luscious Soulful Living Challenge.

Here we are…day 4 of the 30 Day Challenge.  walk

Today I awoke from some pretty vivid dreams of water, of pipes bursting, of throwing out old things stored in the flooded garage.  It feels that way today, a cleansing and cleaning up of the old energy, in preparation for this weekend’s full moon and lunar eclipse.  I feel in need of a purification.

So today we purify!!!  There are 2 options.  I actually did them both, I need that much purification tee-hee.  There is something I am working on releasing, letting go of… shifting.  How about you?  Is it a thought, an old belief or pattern?  Is it a vice or a need to cleanse the system of something we’ve been over-using or indulging in a bit too much?

Purification Ritual #1

A Cleansing Bath – Drop in some Epsom Salts and Essential Oils.  Any kind works.  I used cedar oil today.  It was lovely.

How often do you take a bath?  Me, almost never.  This was a task I really needed to commit to this morning.  But once I was in there and allowed myself to sit and soak, sweat and release.  It felt amazing, luscious, nourishing to mind, body and soul.  I visualized releasing my stuff in the water and allowing my mind and soul to release out the energy that needed to be cleansed.  It felt like a detox, a reboot of the system, a symbol re-birthing and replenishing.  Give it a whirl, you’ll love it!

Purification #2

Take a walk in the woods or in a park.  And as you walk shake off the old stagnant energy.  Literally shake your hands and your feet, wiggle your whole body if you can.  Have you ever seen that Friends episode where Phoebe goes a job but runs like a wild and free kid.  It’s kinda like that.  Walk or run and release.  Shake that shit out.  You will actually feel a ton of energy coming out of your hands, you may even feel like you are vibrating.  This is a good thing, the energy is moving.  I had a pair of mitts on and had to take them off the energy was so intense.  I was reverberating.  So be silly, wild, free and release that shtuff!

Happy, healthy cleansing folks!

Join the The Women’s Tribe Facebook page or the Feed Your Feminine Soul Group to share your experiences and build a community of like minded folks.

MY FRIENDS BE SURE TO FOLLOW THE BLOG TO RECEIVE THE DAILY CHALLENGES.  Smiles, hugs and warmth.

Crystal

Uncategorized

Writing Wild – Day 3 of the Wild, Luscious Soulful Living Challenge

writing wildHere we are day 3 of our Wildly, Luscious, Soulful Living 30 Day Challenge.  (Join anytime ).

Winter is finally withdrawing her grip and allowing spring to slowly and gently emerge here in Manitoba, Canada.   As such, I thought today was a good day to write, but not just any writing, wild writing!  Get your  rubber boots on ladies and gents, we’re in for a fun ride…or walk 😉

I’d like to start by taking a walkabout outside.  Let your imagination stretch and walk out as your wild wolf self.  You are sniffing for an object…a stick, a stone, a leaf or a budding flower, any element of nature or the Earth that calls to you.  It can be a puddle or a pile of mud.   Just let the energies hit your nostrils as though they were rising up and calling you, pulling you towards them with their sweet smells.  You’re ravenous for soul food, you’re sniffing around for your survival. Let your your primal forces lead you to nourishment.

See where your drawn.  What catches your eye?  What do you notice?  If you move towards it or your hand reaches for it, you know it is calling you.  Which element or earth object is calling you loudest?  Where to you keep returning?

Once you’ve found it, if you can pick up that object and take it with you.  If you can’t take a picture of it so you can savor in its sweet memory as we write with its’ energies. Always thank the Earth Mother for her offering to you, send some loving energy from your hands down towards Her or even leave a strand of your hair as an offering to her.

Once back inside, get yourself seated, able to write and ready to take an imaginative journey.  Have your pen and paper and if you’re up for it light a candle and some incense.

Close your eyes and hold the object your found in your hands or in your mind’s eye if you took a picture of it.  Feel its energy and imagine it held its own spirit, it was alive with energy.  Imagine this were a helper spirit, sent to help you just like a fairy or angel might assist you. It’s been sent your way to share its energies with you and gift you a message.  Really absorb and feel it with each fiber of your being.

Wild Writing Prompts.  – no thinking just writing!  Set your pen and gooooo………..

Everything is energy, everything is alive.  Feel it, indulge in the elements, ignite your senses. Connect to the world around you.  Everything is of you and you are of everything.  Love and life is everywhere, sniff it in!!

– Why did you choose this object?  How did it call to you?

– What does the energy of your alive object feel like? Imagine it were a Sacred Being, an alive person, what would you say you feel about the energy of this soul? What are its’ traits?

– Imagine this object could speak to you, what would it say?

– How does this alive object reflect an element of yourself?

As always friends share your writing and experience or even feedback in the comment sections.  Join The Women’s Tribe Facebook page and connect with other like minded souls.    Share your writing in our private online community Feed Your Feminine Soul Group

***Make sure you follow the blog to receive the daily challenges.***

Image from http://www.sassyology.com