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Full Moon Healing Ritual for Turbulent Times.

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Happy Full Moon!! These last few weeks have felt challenging, haven’t they? With mercury in retrograde, I have had many challenges with communication and deadlines, and trying to finalize plans has been an extraordinary challenge. And yet, deep down I held onto a knowing that all things shall work out as they are meant to, even though they may not turn out how I thought or planned. That’s a tough space to stay in, but I kept breathing my way back to that centred truth each time I flailed into panic or worry.

And on the flip side of that my relationship has been going through a real challenge. Many root issues have re-arisen. To be honest we may be at a make or break point and it’s scary. I feel like many of us are at this point and many relationships are being shaken loose to do what they are supposed to do…help heal us. Healing ourselves through the containers of relationships brings us closest to our Selves and the Divine.

Although this head space is hard energy to stay in and explore. Here’s what I know…I have fallen back into co-dependent patterns. I have over-stepped my boundaries trying way to hard to push my ideas of how to help my husband heal. I have tried to tell him and show him how I think he should explore his deeper Self and his untouched stuff. I have shifted my focus onto him and his flaws rather than express what I’m needing and where I’m not doing so hot. There are big pieces he has to address as well and I’m powerless in the outcome of if he does or not. He needs to for our survival and I need to do my work for our survival but the reality is this…I only have control of what I can do. The rest I have to let go; and I fucking hate that lol! I have a hard time with that. I want to force him and push him and manoeuvre him onto the healing path. And yet, it’s the one thing I can’t do. It brings up so much stuff for me too…can I trust a man to actually follow through? Will a man actually do healing work? I don’t trust men to follow through or change or heal, that is an underlying belief and pattern of stickiness for me. I am not sure I believe a man will be brave enough to step into vulnerability and face his darkness, own it and heal it and yet I know that those men do exist.

Luckily on this Full Moon, the Power Card has found its’ way to me from the Psychic Tarot by John Holland. It offers the following…

“As a spiritual being, you have unlimited power at your command. This card represents inner strength, willpower, courage, compassion, generosity and love. At any moment, these beautiful qualities can assist you in coping with an adverse condition in front of you, or the many surrounding in your life. Set aside the necessary time to resolve such issues. Power represents more than physical, external strength; it can also be channeled emotionally, mentally and spiritually. When you have balance over mind, body and soul – and with the power of spirit – anything can be overcome to achieve a positive result.

Power and Strength can be developed to work in harmony in any given situation. Every obstacle, every error helps build your knowledge and understanding of the world around you. When you make a mistake, it’s chance for you to stop, listen and ask yourself: What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? Mistakes are wake-up calls, in that they provide you with opportunities to discover your weaknesses, what needs to be changed, and which areas of your life need improving. Equally, they can blessings in disguise. Just remember: you are power!

Full Moon Healing Ritual:

So on this full moon that seems to be full of discord and disharmony and challenges….we are asked to clear the way…to go deeper and understand these challenges as learning opportunities and inner growth portals to our Divine Selves. So I invite you join me in lighting some candles, burn some incents or sage or infuse some oils and gather your pen and paper and meet me on the page.

Let us ask. (about a challenge or challenges at hand in life at the moment)…

What would inner strength say?

What would willpower say?

What would courage say?

What would compassion say?

What would love say?

What would generosity say?

And lastly….What am I supposed to be learning here, and how can I make this situation better? (pg 42)

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With warmth and well wishes,

Crystal

And so it is,

xo

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Do a Weekly Soul Chat with These Journal Prompts.

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I feel…

I need…

I release…

I trust…

I celebrate…

I appreciate…

I call in the energy of…

I fill and surround myself with…

I am loved by…

And so it is my friends.

Have a great week!! 😘

Crystal

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How Illness Can be an Opportunity for Soul Work.

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Hi Friends

I want to share a powerful healing journey with you I’ve been going through.  I recognize we won’t have exact experiences but I hope somehow it resonates for you in your own life, with your own particulars.

I have been struggling with my chronic illness lately, having to do a lot of blood infusions  and dealing with a lot of inflammation, particularly in my large intestine this time around.  I am a believer and student of mind/body medicine and ways of the Sacred Feminine, meaning I know my body has something to tell me.  Illness and inflammation are always messengers from my deepest Self and health challenges are an opportunity for healing if we choose to explore it as such.

So after five days of struggle, I finally sit down and listen.  After some podcasts and reflections these questions have emerged.

  1.    How am I showing up for myself in my life?
  2.    What are ways I can show up for myself in my life more often and what does                 that look like?
  3.    How do I need to show up for myself and my soul more regularly?

 

Here we go…

I have not been showing up for myself in my life at all lately.  I hear my grumbling, tired soul and body and instead of tending to it, I’ve been zoning out, watching tv, going to sleep, keep busy busy busy.  My mind has been swirling with ideas, and new goals but I’m spinning in stuckness not putting pen to paper, just living in the land of busy mom and not showing up for myself.  That is step one, recognizing the problem.

I can show up for myself more often perhaps in little segments or tidbits.  I need to schedule it in during kid naps and block off at least one evening a week to do some deep soul pouring and get my course written/created.  In the meantime I can light candles, listen to podcasts as I clean or hang with baby, and keep moving my body in loving ways.

How do I need to  show up for my soul more often?  I think and feel I really need to commit to taking 10-20 minutes each evening, writing, journaling, reflecting, pondering, whatever that may be and check-on.  I just need to create me soul space in my life.  Writing is part of that for me and helps me move out my stuck thoughts.  And I need to commit like my health depended on it, cause my body is telling me it is!

 

In mind-body medicine and energy healing irritations with the LARGE INTESTINE have to do with, “crying spells, confusion, irritation, frustration, stagnation, and anger.  Thinking that you can’t do any thing right.  Wanting to run away and hide form the world.  Feeling that you are too different and that no one understand you.  Difficulty seeing other people’s point of view. Dogmatically defending your position in arguments. Extremely sensitive, thin-skinned.”  (The Secret Language of Your Body by Inna Segal pg.64)

I resonate with all of this.  I’ve been spinning, stuck, overwhelmed, lost, scattered and thus frustrated.  I have had crying meltdowns in my overwhelm, feeling like I keep trying to swim to shore but can’t find the shore.  I realize now I just needed to stop swimming, take a look and make a plan.  Take one step at a time and cut some things out that I’m not quite ready for.  Visualize where I’m going and focus on each pearl on the thread one by one.  I’ve been trying to hold three or four chains of pearls and I’m spinning in stickiness not knowing which one to focus on.

 

So on this lovely October day, I invite you go through the questions listed above and just free flow your pen to page.  Set a timer for 5 minutes and don’t lift that pen up til the timer goes off.  Invite yourself back into your life.  Please share your findings in comments.

 

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With warmth

Crystal

 

 

 

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A Wind Song Ritual for the Equinox

Happy Fall Equinox(or Spring depending on where you live) my friends.  This is the day when light and dark are equal.  A balance of yin and yang on our Earth Mother. I love the fall, the changing color of the leaves, the crisper feel of the air, and the call to begin the draw inward with some cozy candles and pumpkin spice. It’s a time of sweaters and boots, scarves and leggings.  I don’t know about you but I really enjoy each change of season and the changing of energies that come with them.  In Canada we feel the change of each four seasons and I absolutely love that.

So on this Fall Equinox the energy calls for a cleansing, a purifying of the air and a bringing in of the new life and energy.  We are all going through major changes at this time so I hope you find this fitting for all the transitions.

A WIND-SONG RITUAL
Open up many windows in your home and invite in the beautiful, crisp and luscious autumn air. Allow the breeze to sing a lovely transition song through your home as she cleanses the energy and brings in new light and life force during this equinox.  Call in the Great Spirit and the Great Mother, angels, fairies, spirit animals, guides and ancestors or whomever you feel connected to to help you in your ritual.  Feel the spirit of transition, manifestation and harvest in your home.  Feel how abundant you are in love and shelter. Feel the simultaneous warm and cool breeze as she caresses your cheek.

If you have, dab a bit of tea tree oil or sage oil onto your screens as a means to cleanse the air or light incense and allow the breeze to move the cleansing smoke throughout your home.

Close your eyes and hear the wind sing to you as she passes through your home.

What does she say to you?

Ask her a question ?

How does she answer?

I invite you to journal your luscious conversation with the wind.

To end the ritual, make an offering to the wind, literally or imaginatively. Perhaps it’s some tobacco or flowers or cornmeal. Maybe it’s sending loving energy or the image of hearts. Anything goes.

Sing the praises for the beauty of the wind and the change of season ahead. And so it is πŸ˜Šβ€οΈπŸ‚πŸπŸŒ»

Enjoy your new and shifted energy.

And so it is my friends.

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Enjoy! xo

Crystal

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Equinox Ritual. Balancing our light and dark.

Happy Fall Equinox my friends. The energy is unique.. intense but purposeful. It feels intense yet playful.

The energies are shifting after a busy, active, action based summer and our feminine souls are craving soul food, we are ravenous for soul nourishment. I personally am at a place of starvation in the soul department… hungry for a shift into softness, gentleness and ease. I need to create the space for soul nourishment in my busy and active lives with my three sons.

Our feminine natures are howling at us to return to the darkness and caves of our inner selves. Our Wild feminine souls are waiting for us at the inner fire of sacred stillness, silence and retreat. Magic dust is in the fire waiting for us to simply sit and inhale the wonder and depths of the inner soils of oneself.

I have been so busy and active that I have lost my balance. I feel stressed, anxious and overwhelmed. And yet The Equinox calls for balance between light and dark… day and night, the physical and the spiritual.

I need more soul time, more stillness, more space for deep inner reflection and soulful contemplation.

The reality is I need to create space and sacred moments in my day for this to occur. Even if it’s ten minutes or two, the point is nourishment.

It is a time of making an offering to our souls by doing what nurtures the Inner Self. This is a Sacred Act, a Sacred offering to the Divine within ourselves.

Equinox Soul Journey

So on this lovely Equinox begin the soul offering with some sacred time and space. Light some candles and listen to a mediation, journal, contemplate, converse with your soul and at the sacred fire within. Begin to nurture the inner self with some sort of ritual that is nurturing to thy self. Perhaps it’s a bath or a cool brisk walk in the fall foliage.

Take some deep breaths and find yourself at a fire in a dark cave with your feminine wild soul right beside you. Notice what she looks like and how hungry she appears. Offer her some food and sustenance. Give her her some water, wrap her in a warm blanket and tend to that inner self. Simply offer your presence and see if you can gently shape shift into her, become that inner self. Feel the aliveness and energy. Ask yourself what you need for nourishment and aliveness?

Perhaps you will notice that you are doing an action or an image appears in the fire or perhaps there is simply an inner knowing. When you feel ready shift back in that outer consciousness beside your soul.

Lay down a red blanket and some rocks at the fire where you sat as a sacred offering. Let your soul know you shall return with an embrace. Before you go you give her a gift, an offering, what do you notice it is. Feel how full it makes her feel. Say your goodbyes and leave the cave back into the present time.

Journal your findings if you wish. Feel the feeling of fullness spread and expand in your body, all the way into you fingertips and heart.

What messages, images, colours emerged ?

Have a cup of tea, light some candles and enjoy the rest of this sacred night .

Aho! And so it is πŸ™‚

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Blessings and warmth friends.

Happy fall equinox 😊

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Healing September Full Moon energies.

This past 37th year of my life, I’ve been working on my voice. I’ve been working on mostly using it and not giving the same old fucking nice answer like my mom would want me to.

I’ve been raised to be polite . And while I honour and respect politeness, I would never want my sons or myself or anyone I love to sacrifice their voice, their feelings, their thoughts or ideas or perceptions at the cost of being polite . And yet … I do it all the time!!!

As women we’ve been raised that way , that I know . We have been raised to be accommodating, and kind, and easy. And I’m fucking tired of that. In this last moon cycle in particular, I have been challenged on my boundaries, and my voice…and my worth!! My old pattern is to be the “good girl” and make things easy or simple because it’s what I’ve been taught to do to be loved or accepted.

But now… a fire has arisen in me. I will no longer violate my own self loving and self- worth, defining boundaries. I’m so used to giving just a little, to be flexible… And while I honour flexibility, I will not self sacrifice my peace or worth to achieve it. I did this on a kijiji sale and I couldn’t sleep for days!! I didn’t honour my boundary or hold firm because I was so worried about the other person instead of myself. And I gave in, and I felt sick for dishonouring myself. Like couldn’t sleep, punch in the gut sick kinda feeling. This is the body saying what the hell! A good lesson and powerful voicing from within. I hear you body/soul, I hear ya. No more self sacrificing, it only makes my soul pissy and when She’s pissy I’m pissy.

On this full moon I laid to rest a plant I got when I was 18 years old, I got it my first year of university. It suddenly died a couple months ago and I had to accept that it wasn’t coming back to life. I feel like it was reflective of this wounded part of me I’ve carried for more than 20 years.

Tonight on this full moon, I pulled it out of its container and laid it to rest on the Earth and in the trees. I laid to rest my inner little good girl and proclaimed to be one strong womanly force.

I shed a lot of tears for the silence and gentleness I have HELD in my throat because I thought it was the only way I’d be loved or accepted. And as I laid my silence to rest I called forth my voice and my fierceness. There is no more hiding my truth. I literally just don’t care anymore what people think because I care so much what I think.

I hope you too enjoy this intense and strong, powerful, and healing moon 🌝. And so it is !!

Xo

Crystal

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How to Get More Joy & Energy with this Sacred Feminine Practise.

Hello friends !!

I wanted to share a lovely Sacred Feminine practise with you that will not only increase your energy but contribute to your overall sense of well being and fulfilment.

Recently I read a blog post from Kate Northrop that talked about “body first, business second”. I love this concept as it really is a Sacred Feminine principle by focusing on well being to generate energy and productivity for life and/or business.

By making space in your weekly schedule for your body and soul first, then scheduling life around that, we create a powerful energetic message to ourselves and the Universe at large. This sacred act of “paying yourself first with your Own time and energy” really affirms to our own souls our own value, our own worth and our own importance in life. I see so many moms ( me included in previous time) that think suffering and sacrifice are equivalent to good mothering. Ummm… can we throw that old concept out the window?? That is why we are so depleted, empty and unfulfilled. I would often get resentful that there was no room for me in my own life. By taking care of ourselves first we can take care of babies and families. It is essential, really everything depends on it, we need to take this space and time for ourselves for our own health and well being. It literally affects everything/ our minds, emotions, bodies and souls. How we treat ourselves in our own lives is often reflected in our experience of life and our vitality doing it.

I get it, it can be so hard to prioritize. We pencil it in and don’t follow through. Believe me, I’ve been there and still am sometimes. But what if this practise was essential for every other part of your life??!! Think about that!!😊. Would that help us commit?

So every Sunday (or whatever day you plan your week), schedule in at least two spots in your week for you time. Ask yourself what you need… a massage? Coffee and dessert with friends? Deep conversations? Creative time ? Date night? More sleep? Whatever it may be… schedule it in and then create your to do lists and family schedules. Thank you Kate Northrop for this format!

I used to think, when I have time this week I will…paint…do yoga…go out for coffee etc. But it never happened. With three kids, the time never emerged or if it did I was too bloody tired to do anything. I had to learn to make the time emerge in my schedule by creating it and committing to it like my life depended on it. Sometimes it’s getting up early and journaling or blogging before the kids are up. Other times it’s sleeping! Who am I kidding I don’t sleep much haha.

This “Body Before Busy” ( the Triple B ) practice built into your weekly schedule affirms to yourself and the Universe that you know your value and worth. By giving yourself time and space in your own life you will feel more joyful, more fulfilled, and you will see resentment, overwhelm and even frustration begin to dissipate. You will find you’ll have more energy as when we feed our needs and nourish our feminine souls, it shows up in our health, energy and vitality.

I really feel that our relationship to our own deepest Self is central and fundamental in every other aspect of our lives. It’s reflected in everything, how we feel, what we do, what we eat, what we accept, what we don’t accept, what we choose and don’t choose and on and on and on. How we treat the inside shows up on our outside. (A mind-body principle). Our health really is a reflection of our relationship to our mind, body and souls and lack thereof.

So my friends I hope each week you participate in this lovely feminine practise and fill your own well. You will surely start to see the energetic boosts physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Isn’t this a simple yet radical shift that needs serious commitment!!

And so it is my friends. Please comment on what you have scheduled for yourself using the Body before Busy principle.

This week I have scheduled tonight some furniture painting and later this week some date night time with the hubby. We are also doing daily workouts together which has been great to make that time for ourselves and together.

Have a happy week!! New Moon tomorrow πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ˜Š

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Xo

Crystal

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Full Moon and Equinox Energies.

This full moon and equinox is a pivotal time in our healing vortex. We will either step forward into new pathways and patterns or we will stay stuck in the same old rut. It really does feel like a fork in the road. Will we choose to be far more intentional and conscious or will we remain on automatic pilot ?

My husband and I have a counselling appointment coming up on Monday…and I called to cancel it. Why ? Because we had this and that to do and time off work and blah, blah, blah. It’s our old pattern…put our relationship last and prioritize everything else until we have “time” to focus on us and our marriage.

Well guess what?! The time never comes!!! Like. Ever!

We MUST create space for it. It’s easier to cancel and deal with it later while getting all our stuff done but our marriage needs to be the priority. I told the hubby… “look I know we are in the middle of a shit load of things to do right now with bathroom renos, getting ready for our soon to be arriving baby #3 and firewood cutting for next year. But we still need to go to counselling. Our pattern is to avoid or put our stuff on the back burner until we have “time” to get into it and the truth is we never have the time nor will it magically appear.”

We are doing some deep healing in our relationship and we both realize we need to flip our pattern upside down. Our relationship must come first instead of last and everything else falls behind Its’ needs because without our marriage there really is nothing else. All that other stuff stems and grows out of having an us. There are no Reno’s in our home if there is no marriage. There’s no baby prepping together if there’s no marriage… you get the drill.

So we kept the appointment and will go and get real raw and vulnerable and face our discomforts and fears and voice deep truths and needs to each other rather than remain unfocused and unconscious to the needs of our relationship.

I feel like this is a real act of power, a real act of love. It feels like a resetting and intentional step forward into forming a new deeper bond focused with our marriage in the centre and not at the bottom end of our to do list.

That is what this full moon and equinox is about . Forming new pathways and patterns. New wires will transmute and grow new and glorious things.

Will it be easy peasy? No! Will it be comfortable? Likely not…but it will feel right. It will create an inner peace and knowing that you are making changes and that my friends is healing.

So happy Equinox (spring for us here in Canada) and happy full moon. May you make an act of power and love for yourself and your healing .

And so it is ❀️🌷

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Thanks so much for reading .

Crystal

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March New Moon Energy

Happy new Moon!! This cycle we are moving into awareness and evaluation of our relationships. Fun, fun, fun! This includes romantic relationships, friendships, work partnerships and family relationships .

It feels heavy and mucky and there’s a lot of unknown elements. For myself, my hubby and I have hit a rough patch. A boulder has crossed our path and we are a bit stuck at it. We’ve been going to counselling to sort out the layers of rubble that created the boulder and it’s not easy or fun. But it’s necessary for our union and mostly for our own individual growth.

He’s mirroring to me some dark spots and unhealed pockets I need to explore…own and heal. And I am doing the same for him. If we do not let ourselves stand in the flames of vulnerability, it’s easy to get defensive and deny or even blame the other. It’s raw and naked and scary as bleep!

But this is big big healing we (all of us ) are being asked to do and release. It is clearing away of the armour and guards of love that we have used as protection since the eons of time … but now the universe in Her glory asks us to surrender it down and move more fully into the radiant realms of love and trust.

It will not be an easy path but keep vision on the course. Ask yourself over and over…

What would love say ???

What would love do???

What would love think????

Truth be told, some relationships will disintegrate and dissolve into dust because the healing that is being asked of us is soul deep and some won’t be ready. And as hard as it will be, it will be ok. Just be in each moment of unknown on step at a time.

Maybe we’ve carried these fears for lifetimes or since childhood or since our last betrayal… but it is heavy and deep and the work is immense but I guarantee you, it will be life changing. It will change every aspect of how you experience your life. You will move into a deep trust and peace. This will shift so much into the world.

Try and trust and stay in the belief that healing will happen it whatever forms our binds take. Pray, envision, believe, speak, imagine and feel the universe caressing your heart as you walk the path of a healing soldier. Imagine what the healing will be and feel like and see it occur. Who’s there? What are you doing? How are things different ? How have things changed ?

On this new moon, take some time and honour this deep and humble healing time.

I honour you and your journey . And so it is ❀️.

Crystal

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Happy New Years Gift- journal prompts to reflect and integrate this past year .

I’m not sure where these questions originated or who the original author is. If you do please share and I’ll add. I like doing these question every year around New Years. It’s so interesting to look back on and reflect. Each year is so voluptuous in learning, healing and evolvement.

Here we go….

1) What was the single best thing that happened this past year ?

2) What was the single most challenging thing that happened this past year?

3) What was an unexpected joy this year?

4) What was an unexpected obstacle ?

5) Pick 3 words to describe this past year.

6) Pick 3 words your partner would use to describe their year. ( without asking)

7) What are the best books you read this year?

8) What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this year?

9) What was your single biggest time waster this year ?

10). What was the best way you used your time this year ?

11)What is the biggest thing you’ve learned this year?

12) Create a phrase or statement that describes this past year for you.

I hope you enjoy and savour the taste of these reflections into your whole body and soul. And so it is πŸ™‚

Happy New Year friends πŸŽ‰πŸ˜˜. I feel like my word for next year is expansion. Look for new offerings.. especially a return to offering healing sessions.

Crystal

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Blessings and warmth!! Have a safe night .