🤶🏼🎄Today’s Family Team Huddle Day. (Wednesday nights in our house )🎄🤶🏼
I’m one for conscious parenting. We are in a global pandemic and let’s be real… shit is hard!! I cry out of nowhere sometimes because I’m grieving the old way of life, the old freedoms or even the help I had with babysitters. I miss time alone, or family dinners, or date nights, or family outings. I miss being mask free or walking in the grocery store without anxiety.
It’s a scary time and it’s ok to grieve that. It’s really great to name that. And feel that. And it’s even more ok to show our kids our tears because it gives them permission to release their own!! They are feeling this maybe even more than us because their worlds are smaller and it’s been completely impacted. Let’s name it, cry, scream, shout and release it out. This is consciousness… this is role modelling… this is parenting 💕. Sometimes in my house when I’m feeling frustrated I get the kids in the room with me and I count to three and we scream as loud as we can- a couple of times..it’s releasing.. and a hoot… and hilarious . We all love it 🥰
On Wednesday night we team huddle together . We don’t let my oldest son (who is almost 11) play video games twice a week.. Wednesday’s and Sunday’s he got to be offline. He asked if he could play today (apparently there’s a cool new update) and not play tomorrow instead. We discussed and said ok but then we are changing team huddle night to tomorrow. He said ..oh no never mind I want the team huddle let’s just keep it normal 😮🙀. ☺️🥰🤶🏼. I was so surprised and tickled pink because I know even in his preteen stage… he craves the connection and play these huddle nights bring. It’s great for connecting and I always feel like high five-ing myself after these little meetings because I feel like a good parent simply by creating space to consciously connect with the fam jam.
Here’s what we do…. This week entails some Christmas Dice games.
1) check in – how is everyone doing
2) what’s going well, what needs improvement, what are we needing??
3) upcoming events, schedules etc (this is quick these days lol)
4) how can our family be of service to each other and to community/family/friends this week (we pick something we will do… cookies for a neighbors, cheer up signs for our cousin who broke his arm etc.)
5) games or activities !! 🎄🎉
Happy team huddling 😊💕🎅🏼🎄🤶🏼🎄🎄
I’ve really been brought face to face with my relationship to myself during this moon cycle. I realized this past week as I did yoga and wept that sometimes people don’t show up for me… but it’s reflected in some relationships because truthfully I don’t show up for myself. I don’t prioritize myself enough CONSISTENTLY. I don’t speak up for myself when I really wanted to do something for me but my kid needs me or my husband and needs a hand. I slither away into self abandonment and do what others need of me and feel pissy on the inside. There’s got to be a better balance, a way I can show up for me and them. I don’t stand up for my soul and create the space and Aliveness she needs in my Life. I’m done sacrificing myself and my own happiness for the happiness of others. That is not love… it’s an old definition of love… but truly it’s martyrdom packaged in selfless sacrifice. I don’t ever want my obituary to read that I was selfless !! That feels like someone who doesn’t take up space, someone who has no Self. No thanks. Being kind and generous are glorious while maintaining one’s sense of self.
Think of the confidence and worth showing up for yourself creates and oozes in every single part of your life. It feels so powerful to show up for me. And yet I lose its focus and fall into unconscious patterns and lose the priority of me. I become a bobbing buoy… floating.. lost at sea.
I feel like I need to create a devotional practise to myself, which essentially is with the Divine. It’s creating the sacred space and time to reflect, to contemplate, to feel… to allow the Divine to flow thru me in whispers or in the joy of creativity or in writing. It’s creating time to wonder and absorb the spiritual nudges that life all too often gifts us if we allow and call Her to guide us.
On this full moon my husband and I are doing a releasing fire ceremony. Like many people during this time of pause and reflection, many of our unhealed parts have been shaken loose for us to look at and our relationship has been tested. It was a tense time there for awhile but I really feel like we are going through a death and rebirth cycle in our marriage. The old bond, the old way of unifying has died and made way for a new love, a new unity, a new partnership and essentially a new marriage between us to grow out of the ashes. Like a Phoenix rising from the ash, a new soul contract of togetherness is being etched and celebrated on this full moon. Now is a time of healing.. of naming the old patterns, the old wounds and the sore spots so we can release them and heal them. Now is the time of dissolving the old and transcending, creating new forms…, ultimately a new expression of ourselves in our relationships and our lives.
On this beautiful and bright full moon and eclipse I invite you to shred, dissolve, disintegrate the muck that blocks our hearts from allowing love in and from moving the love out. Burn the old into ashes and dust and let love resurrect into a brand new form !
And so it is ! 💕💕💕
Image above by gabby Bernstein
Hi Friends! I’m been awhile since I’ve wrote to you all. I wanted to share with you how I’m feeling cause truthfully I’m struggling…and I figure y’all might be too. I’m tired, I’m depleted, I need a break but have nowhere to go to get one (cause everything is shut down again). I wanted to give some voice to this reality because its truthful…we are stressed…we are out our max, we are exhausted and even getting cranky (at least I am and I’m not usually). We are tired of functioning on high alert, in this abnormal new norm. The effects of swirling fearful reality that this virus could be around is taxing on our bodies and thus on our energies.
What I wanted to share too was some ideas to off load the stress in our bodies…if we don’t discharge it, meaning complete the cycle of release…it stays stuck in the body and this is how we get illness, infection or disease. We must, must, must tend to our emotional and physical bodies during these times. I know for me, my body has this reverberation that feels eerily familiar…I have felt it before I ended up in the hospital for almost a year. I MUST make some changes and prioritize my well-being. My commitment is to do doing small practises, 10 mins a day to turn down my sympathetic nervous system and turn on my parasympathetic system so the stress hormone stops pumping through my body and instead the relaxation response is turned on. Muscles literally relax when this happens. This is sooooo important during these times, we can not sustain the “fight and keep going” response.
Did you know that stress and the hormone soup it creates in the body, literally stresses the blood vessels…weakens and stretches them and that’s how plaque gets into our blood and heart…. and this is how stress can lead to heart disease (not to mention many other physiological effects)!! When our bodies get tight, stressed, rigid, wound up, bound tightly….our breath becomes shallow and rapid thus reducing blood flow. We often stop moving and this reduces the flow of our lymphatic systems…cortisol and epinephrine pump through the body….tightening and stressing the body even more. Our appetites are affected, our sleep disrupted…our brains chemically overwhelmed. We need to interrupt this cycle and turn off our survival responses and turn on our healing…rest, digest and relaxation response instead.
So please, join me in tending to the relaxation, the rest and digest response in your body. Commit to soothing your mind, body, heart and soul so you can get through this unimaginable time. Here are some ideas I have used (still using)to help my body discharge the stressful energy out of my body and to turn on the relaxation response.
Take care of yourself my friends, we need you. Prioritize you! Your body, your mind, your heart and your soul need you to show up for you.
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This full moon is full of emotions. Things have been chaotic, uncertain, overwhelming….anxiety provoking. We are “in the muck” as my friend Bekah said…but it’s necessary for deep healing. We are in a deep healing portal, a time of shucking…releasing…spinning off what no longer fits. We are being brought to our knees and in that surrender, in that silence we are remembering and awakening our souls. We are remembering why we are here….and the emotions, the strong inner gut punches of emotions speaking out our soul’s desires are shrieking in our cores. Our bodies are reverberating the messages that our souls are speaking to us. It can be uncomfortable….but holy crap, it can be so powerful. I’m currently following a spiritual nudge…I’ve been called somewhere different for work…spirit called me there and I don’t quite know why yet. I’m just surrendering and trusting and allowing this call to guide me….I’m following my intuition, my inner knowing….no questions asked. I don’t know where it’s leading but it feels like things are starting to open up.
I share with you this video to support you and your heart, your soul and your wise body as we sit and let our emotions speak their desires to us. They are our soul desires….can you walk inward toward your heart and see what your deepest Self is asking of you? I honour you and your path my friends!!
Happy Full Moon!!!
And so it is.
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What is your relationship to self-care? Do you do it? What if your commitment to it were the reflection of your relationship to your very Self? I’ll be the first to admit, it’s the first thing to go when life gets busy and yet I know it should be the thing on top of my to do list instead.
What if we removed the words, “self-care” and focused on re-calibrating our energy and souls instead? Hear me out for a second….Think about how many ways you are in service to the world. You are in service and dedication to your children, your marriage, your friends, your fam, your community at large.
If you do not re-calibrate your energy tanks, you will no longer be able to in service to others and the world. Your energy stores need you to restore the tanks to keep your dedication and abilities to serve love in the world going.
When we aren’t committing to the re-calibration of our energy, several things happen…
We may notice we get more cold, sickness, freak accidents, life annoyances (trains, car trouble) or injuries. Or we may be less patient, more short tempered, exhausted, overwhelmed, sad, depressed, even anxious. These are all symbolic to the imbalance between the energy we offer out and the energy we take in or have within. We must recalibrate our energy, our souls, our bodies, and our hearts.
I’m finishing up my Masters in Mind-Body therapy and have found over and over again that illness is often a result of exactly these imbalances. We get small warnings, wake-up calls, a cold, a sprained ankle, a broken down car….as warnings and attempts from Spirit/ The Universe to slow you down and restore your balance between doing and being once again. Eventually, the body cannot hold the energetic blockages of imbalance and it shows up somewhere as dis-ease or infection as an attempt to release and break free from blocked, stuck energy.
So I invite you, to see how important it is to recalibrate your energy stores through taking time fore you. Your needs each week might change…one week it may be a run, the next a nap, the week after you might need to paint. Whatever it is, I invite you to adopt Kate Northrup’s mantra of “Body first, Business second” and see just how much life changes for the better. See how much energy you will suddenly have with this adjustment.
If you want to keep being of service to the Divine by sharing your love and energy with the people and world around you, embrace that you must be on that list to sustain your purpose…to give and share love. It starts first with yourself. Love is energy, and the tank has got to be full for the large offerings you give to the people around you. Let that energy well stay full so the offerings are that much fuller.
Soul food for thought 🙂
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Happy New Moon my friends!! Wow this moon cycle feels like it may be a doozy. Mars goes retrograde and we are in the fire sign of Leo. Things are on fire, they are burning away, disintegrating the old bits that no longer belong. Embrace the fire, the burning away and allow the cleansing and purification to occur. This is one powerful moon cycle!
On this moon, as I write this I am sick!! My nose is so stuffed up, and yes I got COVID tested even though our numbers are low here in Manitoba. Deep down, I don’t feel COVID, I feel its’ finally the breakthrough, and break-up for some stuck energy I have held in my ears and my neck/ throat chakra.
I know it was congestion, energetic congestion, blockages between my head and hearing my heart. My body has been real loud with messages, emotional nudges, and spiritual guidance. And the difference is, I have been making space to hear my body. I have been making space of Spirit to communicate to me through the wisdom of my body…my aches/infections and even my emotions.
I have been working on my throat chakra this year and this feels like a real energetic and powerful cleanse of my system, of my neck area and throat chakra. I have more peace in using my voice, there’s less fear, less resistance…more excitement, more fun, more trust and more NEED! I invite you to an inner healing journey with me to clear the muck, the rubble, the energetic blocks from our own greatness and wellness.
NEW MOON INNER HEALING JOURNEY
Take a moment and breathe. Take another deep breath and then another. Here we are on this fiery new moon. Close your eyes and just feel your body. Let your awareness travel down your body and starting from the top of your head, all the way down your face and your neck, paying attention to your shoulders, chest and stomach. Just notice any areas of tension, tightness or discomfort. Keep going all the way down your hips, your pelvis, your knees and down to your feet.
Bring your attention to any area of tension that called to you. Just notice the sensations. What would the congestion and blockage look like if it were an image or object…?? Just notice that image and take a mental note. Now I want you to imagine that you are standing in front of a magical, blue colored fire. You can smell sage and sweet grass burning in the air. You can feel the summer breeze blow through your hair as you feel the heat and power of this healing fire! This is a healing portal, a place where you can burn off resistance and blocks that are lingering in your aura. Pay special attention to that place of resistance you noticed in your body and step into this magical fire. Notice how it doesn’t burn you but only all pieces that are not really of you. Let it burn away the rocky formation of fear. Let it burn away doubt and residual hurt. Let the fire burn away the heavy energy and feel your aura become lighter as the heavy, congested, stuck parts fall off and disintegrate into ashes and fall into the healing flames.
When you feel ready step out of the fire and out towards the two ancient, healing and loving grandmothers on each side of a special blanket on the ground. Lay down on the blanket and let the wise and loving grandmothers, sweep away any ashes and debris. Let them wash you and soothe you in cedar and sage infused waters sweeping you with leafy branches and cleansing your energy. Let them patch up and apply some healing salve on those areas where the gunk fell off. Let them soothe the energetic holes and repair it with their healing touch and wisdom. Let them bless your heart and remind you how amazing the Universe and Creation really is. Feel the love offered from them to you and let it ooze into all parts of your body. You may even feel tearful because it is so powerful.
If you have a question for these grandmothers, ask them and let them offer you a powerful and healing response. As they finish cleansing your energy field, you rise and gift them with an item. You leave it on the blanket for them and bow in gratitude.
As you get up, you see a trail and walk towards the dark moon in the sky…until you are ready to return to the here and now gently, peacefully and comfortably. Gently move your fingers, hands and feet and journal about your healing journey.
And so it is my friends
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It’s there…rubbing the edges of my soul. Irritating something within me so Spirit gets my attention. I’ve come across a discord, a spot and area in my life that feels prickly and slightly uncomfortable . My work is going to shift soon, I can feel it. I’m not sure into what or where but there’s something. Change is on the horizon because something is feeling really off. Something isn’t feeling right. This is a message. This is a sign post. This is Truth coming in and singing her song.
So I sit and invite the Friction and discord to sit beside me. I give friction an offering, and bow in gratitude and a small stone for sitting with me and gifting me with the energy of irritation so that action, movement, transformation and change can take place. I ask Friction and discord to guide me and share with me the why of their presence so I may hear the call inward.
“Your vibration has changed, and it no longer fits here,” she says. “It’s like trying to put together puzzle pieces that will never fit together. You are no longer the same person when you started and it no longer fits. You no longer need the energy this offered. It’s given its gift. What a blessing, what a gift.”
So I ask you friction, what now? What do I do?
“Trust… continue to be guided. Let your body and soul lead you.”
“Ask for signs and follow the arrows that show up. Put forth some questions, put forth some ideas and see where the chips fall. Trust in the message we have shown you. Thank you for listening .”
So as I navigate and understand the gift of friction in my life… I also harness the grounding energy of inner knowing and inner trust. I embody and repeat the mantra of…I choose peace and calm. I choose trust and faith. I choose to surrender into the flow and magic of life. I choose deep faith and inner knowing that I am being led and guided. Allow the discomfort to be triumphant. Embrace the message .
How do you experience friction in your life ? Can you invite it to sit with you and see where she takes you? What gift and message is she telling you on behalf of your spirit? What know does she have that your soul is seeing to speak? What does the Universe want you to know?
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Hello my friends!!
I wanted to take a moment to talk about our natural state, our original, wild and feminine soul… our original natures. When we are aligned in mind, body, heart and soul we can feel that! We feel calm and centered, yet vibrant and alive. We are curious, courageous…grounded and yet expansive. We feel full and fulfilled. At our soul roots we are confident, brave and trusting in ourselves and the Universe at large. That is who we really are! Then…life happens and we get wounded. Life and trauma, loss, grief, hurt, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, and abandonment spin us into alter personas and selves. We don’t know how to handle the hurt so we adopt masks that gift us with a temporary band-aid. We become what is supported, what is celebrated, what is stroked with love and acceptance and often…what is not us in our truest natures.
For me I became a perfectionist. I had to be the the best everything for me to feel good enough. If I wasn’t, I’d fall into a giant pit of despair and even panic because I thought it would make unloveable. I equated my external success with my worth. I often didn’t feel seen and so I tried to get accolades by excelling as a athlete, being a top student, working, being thin… I depended on the external validation like a drug I desperately needed to feel good enough because I did not believe it in my own heart and soul. I didn’t feel like enough. I didn’t feel worthy.
What I didn’t know then was that I had lost connection to my original, wild and sacred feminine nature. I lived in a world that did not talk about keeping connection to my heart, to my body or my feminine soul. I didn’t learn about the Sacred Feminine and they holiness of my sacred body. I lived in a culture that celebrated success at the cost of it all, even abandonment and betrayal of my own body for the external win. I didn’t know how to verbalize the act of having to abandon my own feminine self just so I could “fit in” and be celebrated as successful or what I thought as worthy. I didn’t know the words to express my craving to learn the ways of the Sacred feminine – learning how to be in and experience my soul guiding body, listening to my intelligent emotions as messengers or how to connect to the Divine from an embodied experience. Eventually a developed an eating disorder that unconsciously expressed this all. The ED was a metaphor, an unconscious expression of my starving, caged, wild, and feminine soul crying out for release from the inner cage.
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