I was up early this morning and got a chance to watch the 6 am Super Soul Sunday air on the OWN channel. One of my favorite author’s Sue Monk Kidd was her guest, what a treat! If you haven’t read any of her work I highly recommend you do. My favorites are Dance of the Dissident Daughter and Traveling with Pomegranates. Although, she is most known for her novel, The Secret Life of Bees, my favorites are still her more autobiographical work and reflections.
Anyhow, in the interview Oprah asks her, “Have you Become the Woman You Want to Be?”
Jolt!! That question stunned me into paralysis like a gun to the temple.
And so I share with you the question and encourage you to make a journal entry answering Oprah’s stun gun of a question. Just let the pen ride and let her take you to where she needs to go…flow….just flow. Follow the tide inward and let Her emerge… Put your timers on for a glorious 8 minutes and go!
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Here’s my entry….
For me, this past year was quite something. I have been off sick from work for a year now, low energy and with a blood disorder. It literally forced me to sit in beingness not doingness. I went from living a fast paced life as a single mother with a full-time job, a two-hour commute, and a to do list a mile long while running full speed on a quarter tank of gas, to stopped in my track stillness. Stopped…almost dead… into sit and rest stillness. I’ve been turned upside down, flipped around, turned inside out and it is there, in that place, upside down, dangling from the rope of my old life, feet up to the sky, swaying with uncertainty and the unknown that I came face to face with the woman I want to be. She’s tribal, primal, naked, raw, alive, loud, vivacious, emotional, colorful, reflective, intuitive, in union with herself, with the Creator and with her tribe. She’s fierce and soft, gentle and bold. She’s marked with tribal lines across her face and her hair is long and wild. She’s confident and assured in herself and its beautiful. She’s in union with her Feminine nature, allowing her tribal DNA to emerge and express itself in her life and she follows her tribal, primal instincts. As I hang upside from the overturn of my life, our eyes meet as we look to each other face to face, me upside down hanging and her looking up from the inward life of my inner cave. I have reached my hand to her and she’s reached hers to me.
I have always got a sense of worth out of my doingness, that’s the culture we live in. I’ve got ego strokes from my job titles or sport accomplishments, or my superwoman mask who has overdoing super powers and does life and a high pace velocity. But, this year, I can say in doing almost nothing because I couldn’t, in sitting and being, writing and creating emotional expressions, I am on my way to becoming the woman I want to be. I was brought home to my own original nature, pure, and feminine, inward and reflective. I am far more authentic, real, and honest to myself because I have nothing else to do but listen, learn, and experience what it is. I feel like I have taken off the final mask and finally showed my real face. As I removed it I felt vulnerable, even fearful, ready for rejection and humiliation. And yet, I am just sitting here, mask removed not really caring about how another feels about but instead, how I can continue to create my life so I can live without it for good.
I can say I am less people-pleasing and more able to tend to myself and my own needs first while actually being okay with that. I am in the nitty, gritty of my emotions and they are honest and real and I tend to them…usually. I’ve been stripped down from all I have known, all titles, roles, activities and into my Feminine Core where my intuition, emotions and creative needs have been sitting and waiting for me and I have bravely and sometimes reluctantly tended to them. I wouldn’t make the space for them in my life, so they made space for me in my life to tend to them.
So here I am meeting myself in the raw. I watch as my heart’s needs and desires show up and I can choose to reflect or turn away from them. I can choose to release them or deny them. Have a wine or write. I am a woman in process, a woman working hard to be authentic by being present to her inner world and daring to walk in union, not separation, with that world. It takes guts and it ain’t easy! I have been trained to sell myself out, to flick the switch off to what is occurring within to get shit done or because it was easier to say yes when I really wanted to say no. I instead want to live in honor to myself by honoring and expressing my needs and emotions, using my voice, saying no and doing what I want to do simply cause I want to do it. I don’t want to reject and deny myself anymore because others are more comfortable when I do. I want to make space for the whisper in my gut that says I want more. I want to live more wildly, more freely in union with my tribal, primal roots and play way more often. I want to be less serious and more silly. I want to make and take my own sacred time for myself, my own inner union and not abandon that time because somebody else needs me. I’m on my way to becoming that woman…still practicing to keep united and not abandon the inner sea just for the comforts of validation and acceptance from another. What a ride, what a process. Here I am still wavering at sea, riding the tides and looking less at the shore.
Aho! And so it is.