This is my Goddess Tara statue. I bought her after my divorce. I had just bought my own little house and I had started a new job and slowly getting my bearings and new life established after a bad end to a marriage. I decided to sell my wedding band to a gold buyer and used some of the money to buy this Goddess Tara statue right after the transaction. She is the Goddess of freedom and I felt free! I felt alive! I felt connected to my Wild and Divine Self again. And I needed her as a reminder and as a symbol to that beauty in my new life. It was my life to rebuild in my own way and it was so freeing. I could rebuild from the place of my soul rather than my ego or society’s idea of what life should be. I really was able to tap into my wild and free self, my most natural and primal essence and it was exhilarating and freeing. That was 10 years ago! This week my oldest son accidentally knocked it over this week and it broke. I know once a God or Goddess statue has cracked or broke it must be released. Truthfully when she broke I was devastated, it felt like a punch to my gut. But as a few days I passed I realize Goddess Tara was showing my how I have once again lost my sense of connection to my wild,free and alive soul. I have not been devoting Sacred time to my inner depths, to my wild nature, to my creative soul. This is a wild call back home. Now that I am remarried and have more children I have become lost in the thresholds of wife and mother once again and I need Sacred and soul soaring freedom time. My wings need to expand and fly free and the Sacred task at hand is to balance the need for my wild and freedom with the responsibilities of motherhood and marriage. On this full moon I shall release this goddess and my old ways of soul abandonment, of not prioritizing me first so feelings of fulfillment and aliveness can infuse all parts of my life. If you’d like to join me I shall try and share a weekly soulful and creative practise that helps us tap into our own wild, free, alive feminine souls. It will be a realistic practise if 20-30 minutes for you and me and the Divine.
1) list what ways of being, what beliefs, what old ways of existing you are letting go of. For me I am releasing my pattern of soul abandonment, and I am releasing walking around carrying the memory of old hurts. I am no longer lugging it around in the present moments so I can assume and welcome in love . I devote and commit to soul connection for inner and outer fulfillment 💕.
2) burn , bury or release it to the wind or water . Let that paper full of the old go.
3) list your new devotions and new ways of being down and put it on your altar or even your fridge !
And so it is! What a powerful blue moon to move us into new patterns and new beginnings 💕🎉🌕🌎⭐️💫
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The energies feel a bit like a pressure cooker as we head towards the solstice. Just like a budding flower there is construction before expansion. This allows for a shaking loose, a releasing, and removing of what is in the way of our expansion. I have a old wound revisiting, anger is within…. I don’t want to let go. I want to be angry, I want to stay in the brute edges of the rage…and I will…so I can release it. I need to move through it. I need to flip over all the angry stones as clearly there is more information and wisdom for me to learn as I hold the fire of this rage.
So In preparation of our expansion and blooming with the solstice, I invite you to write, paint or doodle about your constriction and what you are shaking loose. Close your eyes and drop your attention into your body. Feel the energy swirling around… what does it feel like.
What images come to mind? What colours? What patterns or lines? Draw or paint them ….what stones of energy want to be pulled out of your body….What is it that you want to let go or are wisely being guided to let go? What’s coming up to clear ? What do you want to transmute ? What are you being asked to leave behind form the Universe ?
Grab some rocks and paint/write on them that which you are pulling out of your body and the energy you are releasing back to the Earth Mother. Imagine these are all the old energies and stagnant guck blocking up the flow of what wants to come in.
The solstice is bringing in an explosion of new so prepare your body, heart and soul. Make room for the new by clearing out the old and stagnant.
Lay the rocks back down to the Earth Mother so she can transmute and re-use the energy for healing. Post your pics in the comments ! Would love to see your stones .
And so it is. #solstice #energy #healing #journaling #creativeexpression #womenempowerment #womenshealing #release #letgo #ritual #arttherapy
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On this new moon there is a part of me that is stressed and another that is calm. I have an inner knowing that something has come to an end in my life so it feels tense and overwhelming. It feels like I no longer can fit within its parameters. Its uncomfortable. And that’s ok. It’s sad when things need to come to an end but it’s also exciting when we know the new is knocking at the door asking us to make a shift.
I have this image of me drumming and calling in the new with my drum beats. Each boom in the drum is a call out, an invitation, a sacred howl. It’s like a prayer that pulls the new towards me and my energy field. I imagine it coming towards me and into every cell of my body. I see myself doing the actions of the energy I am calling in. The imagine instantly calms me. This is the sweet stuff of the soul.
Here’s some journal prompts to explore your glorious inner territory if your soul to summon in the energy of the New Moon.
1). What has felt heavy and restrictive lately? What parts or aspects of your life are you ready to let go? What does that part of your life feel like to be in ? What is nearing an end ? I am ready to let go of…
2). What are you ready to call in? Name it! See it! See yourself in it. Feel it and absorb it into all your bones. Imagine calling it in with your drum or a song or a dance. I am ready to call in the energy of ….😊💃🏻
3) What parts of you are ready to express themselve(s)? How can you support that? How can you make space for your wild, alive, magic making soul in your life ? I am ready to connect and express myself by….
4) What excites you? What lights you up? Make a list. Pick 3 and do them ! This week !!
And so it is my friends ! Happy New Moon. If you are interested in some new fun and creative and spiritual workshops that emotionally and spiritually nourish you … please do let me know. I’d be so happy if you felt called to follow my blog 😊🙏🏼💫
Smiles and warmth
This Full Moon has me feeling anxious, restless even angry. It’s highlighting my stuckness and lack of taking action. I make a plan and don’t follow through…mostly because i haven’t created space or time or organized my butt enough for spirit to flow.
I listed to a podcast recently that talked about 1 degree shifts….and I really liked that idea. What are small little shifts that I can do in my day to make space for my spirit to show up. In the mornings I decided to sit my butt down and write or watch inspired videos/teachings. Or to create. On my lunch breaks I committed to going to walks rather than pounding the pavement because I was so busy.
It really became a dance of how do I create openings and space for spirit to show up, for my own soul to speak to me in the silence and stillness and creative outpourings. What are small shifts i can do to create space for my Deepest, Divine Self in my everyday busy life with my kids and husband?
Truthfully that is where my frustration lies…at my myself, for not creating space…for not setting boundaries to take care of my own heart and soul. My wild and Divine self is pissed!!
So join me and list at least 5 ways you can create space for yourself in your own life…for your soul to show up and speak to you, guide you and light you up. That inner unity is what the juices of joy are made of!
-Make a Sacred Space for myself in my home where I can go and hear my soul. I have a small altar and writing table in my laundry room now as my desk in the other room got take over by gaming.
-Wake up at 545 am and have an hour or so to contemplate and start creating…expressing, hearing.
-Walks at lunch with no headphones, just me, myself and the wind to carry the messages for me.
-Create a schedule for creative and writing time. Creativity is truly a creative and alchemical practise, it moves your energy on the page. But i need to show up and if i have it scheduled in it’s more likely i will!
-Invite Spirit in the everyday. Say intentions, mantras, light candles, bless your food. Pray. Dance! Play! Invite in the Joy in the everyday.
1)What small one degree shifts can you do to invite your Spirit into your life?
2) How and when will you do those?
3) How can you ignite small bursts of joy to infuse the everyday? What are some small lovely and sacred little practises (which can be anything) that can help invoke the joy. (i started putting energy oil on my wrists as an example).
4) List 10 things that light you up. Pick two (at least to do this week!).
Love you all.
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Happy full moon! Let’s make a move or change shall we 🙂
Happy Aries New Moon my friends! It’s always nice to have an Aries New Moon as we start a new cycle through the zodiac, Aries is the first sign of zodiac so it feels like a new opening is emerging. With it, there’s a shedding or cracking open so the new can move in or we can expand into it.
This New Moon I’m continually restless… I feel like I’m being called into Expansion, to grow, to step into a new and truer part of myself and it feels weirdly uncomfortable. I have a giant bout of resistance…and doubt, and creative paralysis, and even fear erupting all around me and it’s stopping me in my tracks. I’m getting so caught in my head instead of allowing space for the guidance to come…it’s like i’m trying to force it out when i know it comes in the soft, gentle and playful moments, not when i’m sitting and trying to “figure it out”. I feel like there’s a tight collar around my neck, holding my voice hostage because I’m just not fully sure what I want and need to say. My body, my heart and my soul know but my mind can’t yet grasp the concepts. So instead of fretting and obsessing about the form, i’m focusing on feeling good. I’m focusing on what lights me up and gives me joy. Want to join me?
I invite you to do this little creative expression journal with me for the New Moon.
Words that come to mind this new moon….New path, new beginnings, old clearing, shedding, making room, expanding, unfolding, allowing, discovering.
And so it is my friends!!
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In the couple weeks leading to Valentine’s Day, I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, particularly how the Divine emerges in our relationships. What does a conscious and spiritual relationship look like or even really mean? ( I’ve focused these contemplations on marriage type relationships but this can really translate to any relationship. )
As a trained therapist, I know that relationships ultimately trigger what is unhealed in ourselves, usually from our families of origin or even past relationships or experiences. But there’s got to be more. What does a spiritual partnership look like? What are the spiritual gifts of commitment and long-term relationships?
I’m going to share with you that my husband and I have had a hard few years. I remember someone saying, the first ten years are the worst! Hahaha, I kind of agree. I think the mix of kids, careers, pandemic, etc. and not a lot of help has resulted in a long rough patch.
For me…I admit, I struggle in relationships. I like my independence and at times lose my sense of balance because I can feel suffocated or trapped in them. I’ve developed “super independence” as a coping mechanism and reaction to past hurts. I had a long held belief that I couldn’t let myself rely on others because I’d just end up let down or disappointed so I became super independent instead. I told myself that I really didn’t “need” anyone. And in a relationship…a marriage…that doesn’t quite bode well. That is not true partnership, that is not Truth & Vulnerability. It’s protection and a blocked heart. I definitely have a wound when it comes to trusting men..their follow through and their willingness to do the deep healing work.
If you have not read the book called Conscious Relationship by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks you should!! For me it helped me understand that relationships are really about healing and growth. There are essentially three phases in romantic relationships. The first is the giddy, hearts- in- the- eyes romance that feels amazing, like a high on a drug. It’s exciting and feels intoxicating. The second is where our “stuff” emerges after some time together. All of the parts of us that were never healed begin to play out and get triggered in our relationships. Usually we start wondering what the heck happened and where the intoxicating romance went. We may start fighting or finding we get stuck in the same arguments over and over. This is where the opportunity to heal and to allow more love in, emerges if we allow it and do the work. Both parties are called to heal what has not been healed. Harville Hendrix has named for us that we even unconsciously pick partners that will ultimately be the perfect mates that will bring about the “stuff” and our unhealed parts to the surface. Imagine that! We pick the partners that will trigger us the most..so we can do the most amount of healing and invite in more depth, more awareness, more love. Now that’s a new take on marriage!
Now some couples call it quits at stage two because they are not aware of the Divine purpose of Love and ultimately healing in marriage. They don’t know it’s about our deep healing , our own shedding of long held protective armour wrapping the heart. It’s easy to get caught thinking its about rainbows and romance only. Some couples stay stuck and trapped in a perpetual fight or loveless marriage for years and years, never really moving out of stage two as the inner work is not tackled or acknowledged.
If we do the work, we move to third stage where we find transcended love. We heal the unhealed wounds (sometimes more than once)together and honour our relationship as a sacred container for deep healing. We know the gift of these conscious relationships. We honour them as containers for deep healing, a place for Spirit and Love to enter and expand our heart space and bring love to the parts of us that need more love and healing. A sacred trust, love and honour emerges in our relationships that is really what it’s all about.
My husband and I are still in the pockets of stage 2, still doing the healing work. It’s hard. We have both wanted to throw in the towel at different points but have both committed to keep doing the inner work on ourselves. I myself have struggled this last year with Covid lockdown and the impacts on our marriage. I was struggling to find the love. I bought us workbooks and tried to do weekly questions to help us reconnect but nothing seemed to shift my inner block.
I was guided to a meditation that really shifted me, ….I imagined him sitting across from me and all I did was say over and over, “All I see is your light”, ” All I see if your light,” “I see you”, “I love you.” I just kept repeating it over and over until I felt it and he felt it. I imagined golden healing light moving through my husband, from above him and all around him. I imagined placing my hands in his heart and on his shoulders and sending him golden, pure, radiant light. I hugged him and kept repeating I love you, I love you, I love you. In my meditation he became tearful because that’s all he has really wanted from me was to feel love. I have been shut down and withholding. It’s in love that healing and change can happen, not withholding, not scolding, not expectations, but love. I became tearful in this realization.
I needed an inner shift, I had to go within to feel the change, nothing outside of me could create the shift. It moved me to compassion and more gentleness…ultimately I found more love and it softened my armour.
I hope in my sharing it inspired you to find the gentleness, the love, the softening, the shifting, the light in your relationships, these are deep, fulfilling, healing, difficult, amazing journeys that will teach us the most about ourselves and our depths. Our relationships are the ultimately reflections of our own self and what how we are moving through them…with love? With anger? With expectation? With disappointment? What parts of our pasts are clouding the present?
I leave you with this….what would love say or do?
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2020…what a year!! Phewf!! I’m ready to start shifting the energy. I’ve been feeling stuck and a little down. I miss people !! I miss going out to dinner! I miss sports and playing at the park and having friends over. I need this energy to move… change…dissipate so new energy and health and abundance can come in.
And the end of each year I feel the need to clean and purge… and this year the need is even stronger. It’s time to let go of the past year, a wiping away of stagnant, old energy and a sacred gesture to the Universe acknowledging and welcoming in the energy of the New Year and new experiences ahead. So I invite you to join me in welcoming in a swishing, cleansing, wave energy into your home that releases the old and opens up portals for the new. We need this in 2021!
Here are some ways to prepare the energy in your home and close the energy of this year.
Clearing out the old is so refreshing may you enjoy the new space and energy that comes in this New Year.
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“Whatever you do, don’t try and escape from your pain, but be with it. Because the attempt to escape from pain creates more pain.” – The Tibetan book of Living and Dying.
I’ve been thinking a lot about of suffering lately. What a year we have endured of suffering, of loss, of fear or radical life changes. It’s been painful and hard…and yet because of those losses and freedoms we have discovered and remembered the many gifts and beautiful pieces of life we already have. This year has gifted us with the unbelievable opportunity to blow the dust off of the gems and riches of life we already have around us. In many ways, this past year has been leading up to this solstice. This is a gigantic astrological time where Jupiter and Saturn will meet in Aquarius, starting a beginning of Aquarian conjunctions. This is a new time, a new era, a new consciousness birthing into life…on the solstice! Powerful, powerful stuff. So I want to invite you to celebrate, honour and ritual with this powerful time of healing and transformation.
This past year has been a year of shedding, of karmic and ego releasing….of deep, deep healing. It has brought about a lot of pain for many of us…the sacrifices, the losses, the changes…have been immense. And let’s face it, many of us are uncomfortable with pain and often just want a quick solution or idea so we can move us out of pain and suffering. People want to offer us that quick solution too. The intention is absolutely loving but sometimes we just need to be held, to be offered space to feel darkness, sorrow and pain and that’s tough for many to offer because they don’t know how to do so for themselves.
What I’ve been learning from Buddhist texts is that “life is suffering.” There will always be suffering, we all will suffer at various points in our life whether physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually and really all that we ought to do is accept this notion. There is suffering in life. Say it with me, “there is suffering in life.” There is also light and beauty and radiant joy….both are beautiful.
This is an easy and yet complex tough concept that I’ve been playing with in my heart and in my mind. I’ve been trying to sit in my suffering, like really move into it. I close my eyes and settle into the suffering in my body and you know what happens when I simply allow what is there?? It dissipates…it softens…the edges sting a little less. It becomes ok and somehow like a sacred act and holy union between my spirit and my physical self.
Perhaps it’s from not battling what is, there is a gentle release in my body. The defenses soften.
So, often when I’m “suffering” with physical discomfort or even emotional discomfort I try and battle my way out of it with a “positive thought” or action or even will power. I positive affirmation out my yin-yang to try and pretend I am not suffering or to adjust out of it. I fight what is. I fight the truth of discomfort and pain while I try to cover the Truth with a lovely balmy protective salve, rather than accept and allow it. My mind and body separate, battle for control, argue and I end up exhausted, depleted and still feeling heavy.
So the last few nights I’ve allowed my “suffering” to be my meditation. To soften and melt into it and allow the moments to be there. It is freeing! Like radically freeing. I even get a slight buzz on the inside, an elation, a joy, a meeting of sparkly truth that I can feel in the cells of my body. I embrace the darkness and healing gates that the Universe has summoned and called upon of us. It’s beautiful in its rawness.
“Suffering is a fact of life. There are four unavoidable physical sufferings; birth, old age, sickness and death. There are also three forms of mental suffering; separation from the people we love; contact with people we dislike and frustration of desires. Happiness is real and comes in many ways, but happiness does not last forever and does not stop suffering. Buddhists believe that the way to end suffering is to first accept the fact that suffering is actually a fact of life.” (Buddhist teachings (very brief) from http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhism/bs-s03.html)
So on this Winter Solstice (in the Northern Hemisphere), and the darkest day of the year, I invite you into your own darkness, your own pains and wounds and simply let them be there. Melt into them for a few moments as a Sacred Witness to what is at this moment.
Where do you feel struggle in your body?
List your pains and struggles, challenges, losses of this past year of the pandemic.
Can you close your eyes, take some breaths… and just move into it, gently, softly, lovingly? See what happens.
And like wise, move into your joy and happiness as it sways in your life as well. We will all move through the tides, the highs and lows of life. May we do so consciously, lovingly and with awareness and acceptance.
Simple Solstice Ritual:
On this lovely Solstice, get out your paper and pens. Light a lovely candle or two, perhaps some incense, get yourself a cup of tea and have a divine union with yourself and Creation on paper.
Enjoy this lovely day of darkness, retreat, rest, and reflection. I honour you and your path. I honour you and your joy as well as your suffering. And I honour the light that is about to return in a new age, a new era, a new consciousness on this planet!
And so it is. Happy Winter Solstice and beginning of a new age!
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This New Moon and Solar Eclipse is a powerful point to declare your intentions, your dreams, your goals and deep desires. It’s a time of deep visioning and dream building as we will soon approach the powerful Solstice with its amazing astrological aspects welcoming us into a new age, new existence, new form. We have been going through a cleansing, a shedding, a detoxing and transmuting of our ego blocks and old forms this past year. There were many frictions and challenges to climb over so you would move and let go of the baggage and the addiction to the old ways of being that no longer served you. This has been a hard but powerful and deep learning of us all. Go to spark, go to the light, go to the places and people that light you up and crack you open and illuminate there. It is a time of releasing what stands of the way of your illumination. Release what no longer serves and aligns with you… you know that tug in your heart or gut. Move it out of the way so the new can dance it’s way in. In many ways who we were and how we lived has died and now we are preparing to resurrect into the new. This powerful new moon is a time to declare your new vision for your heart and soul to express and share its lovely gifts into the world . This is a time for you to gather with your family and create a new team vision for your little tribe and for the larger tribe of your community and the world as a whole as well. Gather together around a fire or candle and list what you want. Call it in like a wolf howling to the moon…Individually and then as a family. Oooooooooooooooooouuuuuuuuuu
What an exciting time !
Here’s a little ritual you can do on your own or with your family. Gather everyone around the table or even better outside at a little fire if you can swing it. Light candles, incense, diffuse oils, play music…set the mood. Create a special space. Get one of your kids to ring some bells to start the ceremony. Discuss the energy of this New Moon or explain its a great time to make some intentions and goals for ourselves and as a family.
Here is some visioning prompts for yourself and your fam. Use the ones that call to you.
What words best describe what you want? Name 5-10.
List your intentions for this next year.
What actions will you take to invite these words/intentions into your life? Individually and as a Family.
What routines or schedules do you need to create so your actions will take place with gentleness and ease?
How can you/we be of service?
What do you need so you will follow through on your intentions/declarations/desires will manifest into form?
What is a mantra, word or sentence you/your family can say to anchor you into your visions and intentions?
Close your eyes and see the dark/new moon in your minds eye. Grandmother moon is about to start a New Cycle….what message does she have for you? Write it out.
Get everyone to share and when done Ring the bells to end the ceremony.
Enjoy some hot chocolate and goodies to celebrate.
Wishing you and your family a powerful and magic night. :). If you resonated with tonights ritual, and would like more soul and family connecting gifts, please follow my blog. I’d love that 🙂